owlydany Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 I went out with a friend twice last month and we had a good time together. She knew how i felt about her even before going out and I reiterated this by both telling her and cooking up something small for her. She accepted my dates, twice, the second was even her idea even if i asked her to it. Night of the second date she said we should do it again, I agreed. We only hugged goodbye. Shes been kinda blowing me off (in a nice way) being busy and stuff since then. We dont talk as much as did before going out (she never texts me firsts and after going out I purposely stopped texting as much). I am more than likely seeing her again this weekend in a friends gathering, which Im not even sure if I should go- Not just because of her, though it's still part of the reason, but because Im not good at big social settings, plus last time in something like this she was there and ignored me most of the night, and I did the same. Should I go?? If so how should I act? Nonchalantly? Pretending nothing happened? Pull her aside to talk alone with her (where Im most comfortable)? I like her, could see something between us but I dunno.. Also I was gonna ask her out last weekend, even texted her about it, and she literally fell asleep for hours because of a tough day she had- Which may go in line with how busy she said she was gonna be. We texted next day in a friendly way since I had not heard from her in a while, thanked me for inviting her and said sure next time, and that was pretty much it.
fifipheebs Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 this sounds similar to a situation i find myself in. she could either just think of you and her as friends or she could be like me, very much interested but doesn't know if you want to be more than friends than her. are you a friendly guy with people in general? if so, she may feel you are just friendly to her with no other intention. go to the party and single her out. allow her to know you would like to pursue more than a friendship with her. when you ignore her bcz she is ignoring you, it just confuses her.
todreaminblue Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 you should pull her aside....not in front of others to giggle over and dissect...... and say to her privately i know you are busy but how about we try to find some time this week to go out...i enjoyed last time and i would really like to do it again..forget the time you didnt talk to each other and just move on and well....talk...i wish you well.........deb
Author owlydany Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 (edited) this sounds similar to a situation i find myself in. she could either just think of you and her as friends or she could be like me, very much interested but doesn't know if you want to be more than friends than her. are you a friendly guy with people in general? if so, she may feel you are just friendly to her with no other intention. go to the party and single her out. allow her to know you would like to pursue more than a friendship with her. when you ignore her bcz she is ignoring you, it just confuses her. NOOO haha, completely the opposite. Im not rude or anything but I rarely talk, mostly only when people talk to me, and only initiate a conversation with those I truly care about, such as her and that's something I hope shes noticed. Im not good at social settings, which is why Im uneasy about going but she'll be there. Though I said that the last time... also, she IS friendly with everyone. Perhaps she doesn't like that in me?? very talkative with others and I can only do that one on one, especially with her! I know it probably confuses her, plus it's stupid, but at the moment you just dont know how else to react Edited June 4, 2015 by owlydany
Author owlydany Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 you should pull her aside....not in front of others to giggle over and dissect...... and say to her privately i know you are busy but how about we try to find some time this week to go out...i enjoyed last time and i would really like to do it again..forget the time you didnt talk to each other and just move on and well....talk...i wish you well.........deb man in a perfect world that's exactly what I would do. Heck, if she wasn't a friend I would have no hesitation about doing that whatsoever
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