nyny123 Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 I been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Would you say we still in the honeymoon stage? Just curious. I'm just bored Link to post Share on other sites
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 It depends. From what I've seen, usually about six months. The end of the honeymoon stage can be a make or break moment for a lot of couples. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Why are you bored? And what is making it boring? BTW honeymoon stage varies. It can last anywhere from 2 weeks to a year and a half. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nyny123 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Share Posted June 4, 2015 Why are you bored? And what is making it boring? BTW honeymoon stage varies. It can last anywhere from 2 weeks to a year and a half. Well I meant I'm just sitting here at home with nothing to do Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 What's he doing? You're not joined at the hip, you see... It's best if people develop good, independent interests while away from one another. Don't depend on his presence to always make life varied and interesting for you. That's YOUR job. His job is to be loving, supportive, affectionate, caring and attentive. Just as you are meant to be all those things for him, when apart, you don't go and quietly sit in a corner, twiddling your thumbs while waiting for his presence to bolster your interest again.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
minime13 Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 I been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Would you say we still in the honeymoon stage? Just curious. I'm just bored Does it feel like you're still in the honeymoon stage? A timeline alone doesn't mean anything. Interaction does. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Depends how much time you spend together. More time you spend together shorter is the honeymoon phase. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 All depends on the couple. I'm 10+ months in and squarely in the honeymoon phase. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Usually the honeymoon phase is "over" when you start seeing a different side of your partner that you didn't see at the beginning. It's usually a side you didn't particularly want to see. lol You're partner becomes more comfortable and lets their hair down to see them, warts and all. The frequent hot sex becomes less hot and less frequent. You can just tell.. As it was already mentioned, this is when relationships flame out or get stronger. It's very similar to new employees. They have the 90 probation period where they are on their absolute best behavior. After the 90 days are up, you then get a true picture of what kind of employee they are.. I've also heard it can last 6 month to a year. Most LTR's I've had, the honeymoon phase ended after 5-6 months. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 It can last for years in some cases. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 It varies. Usually for up to 2 years after you start having sex, due to the hormonal rush of falling in love. That does wear off within 2 years, normally. Marrying may restart the clock for a short time. Some couples do much better, but those are the ones who are particularly compatible. For us, we're still in the honeymoon period after 15 years. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nyny123 Posted June 5, 2015 Author Share Posted June 5, 2015 Does it feel like you're still in the honeymoon stage? A timeline alone doesn't mean anything. Interaction does. Sorta but I still feel like I'm still getting to know him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nyny123 Posted June 5, 2015 Author Share Posted June 5, 2015 Depends how much time you spend together. More time you spend together shorter is the honeymoon phase. We see each other somewhere between 2-4 times a week depending on work. Our work schedule is alittle different but we still make it work Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 According to this it can last for up to three years. Limerence - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia When it last 2-3 years that is when you see people getting married, popping out a kid or two then getting divorced very suddenly when the limerence ends. At the end of the honeymoon your mind clears and you see that your partner is just as flawed as anybody little things they do annoy you etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 Just to be clear, just because the honeymoon stage ends, that does not mean the love does... I've seen couples still in love for 35+ years. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 Just to be clear, just because the honeymoon stage ends, that does not mean the love does... I've seen couples still in love for 35+ years. Lots of people never learn that. Young couples <=25 in particular often think that the honeymoon feeling is real love and that the more comfortable feelings that grow from that aren't real love. Hence the ILYBNILWY sentiment. The "in love" feelling is just the appetizer. The love that people married for 10-20....50-60 years is the real thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 the "honeymoon" stage lasts around 7.8 seconds 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 I been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Would you say we still in the honeymoon stage? Just curious. I'm just bored It may be different for different couples, but generally, it lasts from 4 to 6 months I'd say. When the honeymoon stage ends, the parties don't become bored. Just more comfortable really. The fact that you're bored though is probably not as much about the end of the honeymoon stage as a matter of incompatibility. Do you two have many if any things in common? How much time do you spend together? What are your ages? Do you have common friends or a circle of your own friends? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 It depends. From what I've seen, usually about six months. The end of the honeymoon stage can be a make or break moment for a lot of couples. This. Couples either break up or transition into a different stage of relationship. If you see each other less, you can prolong the honeymoon stage. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 I'd like to add, that usually during the honeymoon stage, the couple is seeing each other pretty often. If it's waning, the way to re-spark things is to see less of each other for a while. Make it consistent, but a little more spread apart. A day or so between seeing each other and keep good phone contact in between. If you've been spending a lot of time with "in the house" dates, make some plans to do things outside of the house once in a while too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
katinlc Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 Just to be clear, just because the honeymoon stage ends, that does not mean the love does... I've seen couples still in love for 35+ years. This. My relationship isn't too far out of the honeymoon phase and the difference is kind of hard to explain. I don't get the butterflies every time I see him (which is every day) and I don't feel the need to constantly jump him or make out with him every time we put a movie on like we use to. BUT at the end of the day, he's the one I want to come home to - share my day, share my life, run errands with, hold me when I'm sad. It is actually a much more satisfying relationship. I will say the transition is hard. I worried that we were getting "stale" or bored, as it was just so different, but then I realized that it was just a different stage of the relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nyny123 Posted June 5, 2015 Author Share Posted June 5, 2015 It may be different for different couples, but generally, it lasts from 4 to 6 months I'd say. When the honeymoon stage ends, the parties don't become bored. Just more comfortable really. The fact that you're bored though is probably not as much about the end of the honeymoon stage as a matter of incompatibility. Do you two have many if any things in common? How much time do you spend together? What are your ages? Do you have common friends or a circle of your own friends? I'm not getting bored of the relationship sorry for that mix up. I meant to say when I made this thread I was at home bored with nothing to do lol. To answer your questions we are both 27 we feel we are both very compatible. We both are religious, stubborn, sensitive, say what's on our mind, just to name a few. He doesn't have friends because he doesn't trust people but I have my own few close friends. We see each other anywhere between 2-4 times a week mostly due to work. He works more hours than I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 5, 2015 Share Posted June 5, 2015 depends how long you've both been single I think. The longer you've been single the more you appreciate the other person and I think the longer the honeymoon period lasts for. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nyny123 Posted June 5, 2015 Author Share Posted June 5, 2015 depends how long you've both been single I think. The longer you've been single the more you appreciate the other person and I think the longer the honeymoon period lasts for. I was single for over 3 years before we started dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 6, 2015 Share Posted June 6, 2015 I was single for over 3 years before we started dating. who knows, maybe it's the transition of going from on your own to with someone else... I don't think it's worth over thinking about. Everyone has an 'elation period' when everything is fun and fancy free, then you start to get down to the nitty gritty. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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