Mjm1014 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 So I've officially been going out with this girl for about a month and half, and overall we have a great relationship, see each other a lot, and she always says I have nothing to worry about-that she is falling for me, tells me she misses me, and she isn't talking to any other guys (I didn't even ask her if she was, she just told me)...I've spent a lot of time with her family and they always include me in things so I feel it's somewhat serious. Anyways, last night on Facebook I found out that she hid her relationship status (it was up a week ago), and I guess I'm a bit confused if I should bring it up with her. Also, two weeks ago, she was blowing up my Facebook constantly, sharing stuff on my wall and on hers about us, posting pics, but lately she hasn't posted one thing, and if I send her anything on her wall (I don't much), she ignores it, and she immediately posts a million status's until my post is far down her page. Basically it's gotten to the point it feels like she doesn't want people knowing she has a bf, it's blatantly obvious. I know I sound insecure, but her behavior has changed big time. Trust me I don't really care about "status's" on Facebook, but it seems like a huge red flag to me why she would hide it all of a sudden and not interact with me at all on social media. Again, everything else in our relationship seems great but I feel like there could be something going on she isn't telling me...thoughts?
minime13 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Seems odd that she decides to assure you that she's not talking to other guys out of the blue. Add that to her sudden disinterest and activity on FB (I know, I know, but still these are her patterns, not yours) and hiding her status, I'd say you have a talk coming. I'm sure it sounds silly in your head because relationship status on FB isn't meaningful to you, but it was meaningful enough for her to change when you first started dating. Now, she hid it from public view. Ask her about it, and see what she says.
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 These are clearly signs of her losing interest in you. As the other poster stated, why go to the trouble to change your status? Why all the sudden is she not engaging with you on Facebook like before? Often times when people withdraw from a relationship, they start becoming distant. Don't see you as much, are not as affectionate, less sex, etc.. Those are typically warning signs of being dumped soon. Have a chat w/her for sure.
Redhead14 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 So I've officially been going out with this girl for about a month and half, and overall we have a great relationship, see each other a lot, and she always says I have nothing to worry about-that she is falling for me, tells me she misses me, and she isn't talking to any other guys (I didn't even ask her if she was, she just told me)...I've spent a lot of time with her family and they always include me in things so I feel it's somewhat serious. Anyways, last night on Facebook I found out that she hid her relationship status (it was up a week ago), and I guess I'm a bit confused if I should bring it up with her. Also, two weeks ago, she was blowing up my Facebook constantly, sharing stuff on my wall and on hers about us, posting pics, but lately she hasn't posted one thing, and if I send her anything on her wall (I don't much), she ignores it, and she immediately posts a million status's until my post is far down her page. Basically it's gotten to the point it feels like she doesn't want people knowing she has a bf, it's blatantly obvious. I know I sound insecure, but her behavior has changed big time. Trust me I don't really care about "status's" on Facebook, but it seems like a huge red flag to me why she would hide it all of a sudden and not interact with me at all on social media. Again, everything else in our relationship seems great but I feel like there could be something going on she isn't telling me...thoughts? She may not be hiding it from YOU, she may be hiding it from everyone, or someone else. You don't know until you know. Ask her about it. Just be casual and non-accusatory or just make a statement like "I've updated my FB status for you but I can't see yours". And, then, let her talk.
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Okay I was starting to think I was crazy for questioning it, but I guess I'm not the only one that thinks it's somewhat of an issue. Like I said we have a great relationship besides that, and she constantly tells me everyday how much she cares about me, but it's like she doesn't want anyone to know all of a sudden she's seeing someone.
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 hey If it doesn't feel right, then it's not. You need to talk to her about it, and make a decision whether to keep seeing each other or not. 1
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 I'm going to be out of town for the next 10 days...I hate bringing it up over the phone, but I know it's something that's going to be on my mind. Should I wait? I'm not really sure how to bring it up without sounding insecure/accusing...it sucks because everything else seems so great, I hate that it's coming to this!
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 I mean to ask her why she hid her relationship status then ask her why she ignores everything I write and post on Facebook all of a sudden-I found like I'm going to come off like a whiny ****lol
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Maybe this is her way of detaching herself emotionally because you are going away. Is it possible she's up set about it??
jen1447 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 You could go all detective while you're out of town and monitor her FB closely, send lots of texts and wait for textbacks and evaluate, etc. Gather info. Just a thought, since you don't know much now.
minime13 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 I'm going to be out of town for the next 10 days...I hate bringing it up over the phone, but I know it's something that's going to be on my mind. Should I wait? I'm not really sure how to bring it up without sounding insecure/accusing...it sucks because everything else seems so great, I hate that it's coming to this! You're about to go out of town, and she starts distancing herself from you on FB, and hiding her relationship status. This doesn't sound good. Talk to her before you leave. Otherwise, she's going to talk to you once you come back.
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Are you going on a tropical vacation with a bunch of buddies??? A place where there will be hot chicks/drinking and night life?
Gary S Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 You really don't have a relationship until you've dated at least two months.
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Smackie, nope, I wish ahaha...I work for the airlines so I travel a lot for work. That makes it hard when stuff like this happens!!!!! Leave for a few days, come home for a few days, then leave again....time away from home when there is a problem with a relationship eats at me.
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 So I asked my friend real fast to go on her Facebook (not trying to creep but I'm trying to figure this out) and he confirmed from his account that most of all our pictures are hidden accept for a few from when we started dating, including the status that says we initially were in a relationship that Facebook generates...looks like we need to have the "talk"...hoping for the best but it doesn't look good.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 So I asked my friend real fast to go on her Facebook (not trying to creep but I'm trying to figure this out) and he confirmed from his account that most of all our pictures are hidden accept for a few from when we started dating, including the status that says we initially were in a relationship that Facebook generates...looks like we need to have the "talk"...hoping for the best but it doesn't look good. I agree that you need to talk. I get that Facebook isn't the be-all and end-all of relationships, but the sudden change in behaviour is concerning. So I believe your concern is valid. Initiate the conversation in a non-confrontational way. You could simply say you visited her FB page and noticed many of your pictures were gone. Don't accuse - simply ask her why. Let her fill in the blanks. Listen carefully and decide if you believe her explanation or if you suspect she's not telling you something.
joseb Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Normally I'm not one to ready anything much into FB, but in this case it seems likely something is up. I'd bring it up. What if you post a pic of you two and tag it? Does she hide it from the timeline?
Apaige Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 So I've officially been going out with this girl for about a month and half, and overall we have a great relationship, see each other a lot, and she always says I have nothing to worry about-that she is falling for me, tells me she misses me, and she isn't talking to any other guys (I didn't even ask her if she was, she just told me)...I've spent a lot of time with her family and they always include me in things so I feel it's somewhat serious. Anyways, last night on Facebook I found out that she hid her relationship status (it was up a week ago), and I guess I'm a bit confused if I should bring it up with her. Also, two weeks ago, she was blowing up my Facebook constantly, sharing stuff on my wall and on hers about us, posting pics, but lately she hasn't posted one thing, and if I send her anything on her wall (I don't much), she ignores it, and she immediately posts a million status's until my post is far down her page. Basically it's gotten to the point it feels like she doesn't want people knowing she has a bf, it's blatantly obvious. I know I sound insecure, but her behavior has changed big time. Trust me I don't really care about "status's" on Facebook, but it seems like a huge red flag to me why she would hide it all of a sudden and not interact with me at all on social media. Again, everything else in our relationship seems great but I feel like there could be something going on she isn't telling me...thoughts? NOt so sure that having a talk about facebook status' will go over too well. I made that mistake, as I was on the flipside of things. My BF of almost 2 years still has himself listed as single...I never put my status on there, but I have since. Take it from me, a talk about facebook status' will not go over well. It almost caused a breakup between myself and my mate. Good luck...Keep us posted, unless you have already, I will read the whole thread.
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Well maybe it is what it is.....she is planning to breakup, and right now she is just prepping herself for it.
minime13 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 NOt so sure that having a talk about facebook status' will go over too well. I made that mistake, as I was on the flipside of things. My BF of almost 2 years still has himself listed as single...I never put my status on there, but I have since. Take it from me, a talk about facebook status' will not go over well. It almost caused a breakup between myself and my mate. Good luck...Keep us posted, unless you have already, I will read the whole thread. Apples and oranges. You talked to your BF about why he didn't update his status. This girl changed her status and then hid it. Then went through the trouble of making a lot of their pictures together hidden. That's a conversation.
Mrlonelyone Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 This means something. It means for some reason she is not comfortable with someone in her life knowing about you two. I had a relationship with a girl who blocked me off her FB in part because her friends would say ignorant stupid things to me. Didn't think much of it since we were hanging out, dating, and working together we were joined at the hip 50-60 hours of the week. In your case I'd be much more worried. She could have a total double life.
salmagundi Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Do you want to know the reason she's hiding all traces of her relationship status? Go check out the guys she has friended recently. One of them is the reason…guaranteed... 1
Mrlonelyone Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Do you want to know the reason she's hiding all traces of her relationship status? Go check out the guys she has friended recently. One of them is the reason…guaranteed... ^^ THIS Or some person/ people in her life who have a problem with your relationship.
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