HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 (edited) Today I made a previous post with me and my fiancee's pic. But probably the rules here is to not make any photo posts.... Anyway, its a long story. After lots of family discussion I agreed to marry this girl. Her name is Nikita. Yesterday was my engagement. Marriage in October. Lots of time to get to know each other..... I sent my ex the pictures of my engagement by email. The b**** must be burning in anger and jealousy. Because she wrote back to "Go to hell" :D I literally rolled on the floor laughing after seeing her reply Edited June 4, 2015 by HurtOfGlass
Jessie1231 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 How does your fiancée feel about being used to make your ex girlfriend jealous? That would irk me a bit. 9
Jessie1231 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 My fiancee doesn't know Then maybe you should be honest with her so she goes into the marriage knowing the truth. That seems more fair than being engaged to her for now while trying to make this other woman jealous. What would you do if your ex girlfriend broke down and said she wanted you back? You're hoping for some reaction, is that it? Is that fair at all to your fiancée? 1
VeryBrokenMan Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 The best revenge is her seeing you living happy and content without her. Good for you. 2
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 @Jessie....my ex and me are totally through. Because of our history, I will never again try anything with her. But most importantly, she hates me now too and probably wants nothing to do with me... As for my fiancee, she knows I was in that relationship and she has seen her photo too...
Jessie1231 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 @Jessie....my ex and me are totally through. Because of our history, I will never again try anything with her. But most importantly, she hates me now too and probably wants nothing to do with me... As for my fiancee, she knows I was in that relationship and she has seen her photo too... If you're totally through why are you emailing her about your engagement trying to get a reaction? 6
Diezel Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 I sent my ex the pictures of my engagement by email. I feel very bad for your fianceé. 5
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 If you're totally through why are you emailing her about your engagement trying to get a reaction? To be totally honest, I loved her too much and she cheated and broke my heart. Thats why I hate her too much now. Thats why it gives me a sadistic pleasure to see her suffer. And she also insulted my family. I can bear anything but not the insult of my parents...
Mr. Lucky Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Based on your posts, you broke up with your Ex in April. And now 6 weeks later, you're engaged to someone else with October wedding plans? Sounds like a total rebound/revenge play. Hate to see you posting here 2 years from now sorry you rushed into this. In short my friend, slow down... Mr. Lucky 11
BetrayedH Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Your fiance is a rebound relationship. How do I know? Because you're still emotionally invested in your ex. The opposite of love is not hate; it's indifference. You are clearly not indifferent about your ex. You haven't had nearly enough time to heal from your ex in order to be a healthy partner in a new relationship. The revenge photo sent to your ex demonstrates that. Since you've only mentioned that your fiance has "seen a photo" of your ex, I'm also going to guess that you haven't fully disclosed everything that happened to your fiance. Deception is not a healthy way to begin a marriage. She's going to be your partner in all things in life. There should be no secrets between you. 7
elaine567 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Does your new fiancée know about the 22 visits to prostitutes and how you treated them? You treated those women like garbage and when you were done, you threw money in their faces saying, "thanks" and walked off. Does she know that? 2
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Yes you are right. Within 6 weeks I am engaged. But this is not a love marriage. Its an arranged marriage. Nikita comes from a known family of mine. Though we were not familiar to each other, but we knew each other through family connections.
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Does your new fiancée know about the 22 visits to prostitutes and how you treated them? You treated those women like garbage and when you were done, you threw money in their faces saying, "thanks" and walked off. Does she know that? Nope. And I can't tell her that. Not now.
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Is this a marriage set up by your parents? Yes. Its arranged by my parents and family.
Redheaded Mistress Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 I read stuff like this, and I think of the words of the famous philosopher, No One Ever: "Nothing could go wrong here." 4
Mr. Lucky Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Yes. Its arranged by my parents and family. Won't ask why you'd do this but will ask why you'd do this right now? Mr. Lucky
No Limit Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Are you sure an arranged marriage is what you want? And even if you do - since you're still caught up in emotional turmoil, are you sure you want it right away?
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Won't ask why you'd do this but will ask why you'd do this right now? Mr. Lucky Lots to say. In the aftermath of the discovery by my parents that I was visiting prostitutes, lots of discussion happened. My whole family was distressed. I started going to a counselor. I showed my parents the results of my STD tests which said I was clean. To make long story short, since my previous break up, lots of matches were coming my way. But I rejected them all. But Nikita is known to my family. And her parents also wanted to get her married. Basically my mother wanted that I get married now to Nikita and leave all this to the past. The brothel episode would be too shameful if it spread more (if not already). And I obliged with the expectations of my family
Noirek Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 This is a disaster in the making. Usually agreed upon arranged marriages do not carry so many lies and secrets into them. The baggage in this one makes me feel sorry for the poor girl. She has no idea. 3
BetrayedH Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 This is a disaster in the making. Usually agreed upon arranged marriages do not carry so many lies and secrets into them. The baggage in this one makes me feel sorry for the poor girl. She has no idea. I'm not an expert on arranged marriages but I would think that they somewhat routinely involve more secret-keeping than romantic marriages, at least until the two have really had a chance to get to know and trust one another. Perhaps this won't be disastrous. I do encourage hurtofglass to eventually make the disclosure, to show her respect, trust, and to build intimacy with her. 1
Noirek Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 I'm not an expert on arranged marriages but I would think that they somewhat routinely involve more secret-keeping than romantic marriages, at least until the two have really had a chance to get to know and trust one another. Perhaps this won't be disastrous. I do encourage hurtofglass to eventually make the disclosure, to show her respect, trust, and to build intimacy with her. I have very close Indian friends and the arranged marriages usually are made out of trust and mutual agreement. The future couple meet before they are married. And while I am sure there are people who bring skeletons into the relationship, the OP is the one that knows exactly what those issues are. It is his choice to do this, no one is forcing him. And he and his family are breaking the honesty assumed in these matches.
Author HurtOfGlass Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 This is a disaster in the making. Usually agreed upon arranged marriages do not carry so many lies and secrets into them. The baggage in this one makes me feel sorry for the poor girl. She has no idea. I respectfully disagree. Everyone here are part of two clubs - WS and BS. So even in our love marriages and relationships, there were no gurantees that this will be successful because we were choosing for ourselves. So why should there be a gurantee for an arranged marriage? Just because its arranged by parents? This will only be a disaster if I don't give my best. I fully intend to do my best in this marriage.
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