What is it with guys on OLD, sending me messages first and never responding back?

[Bobbi7]

So, I get a few messages from guys that I could be potentially interested in, they message me first, so I respond back with interest. Then, they don't wrote back. I'm like wth? Why do guys take their time to send me a message then decide they don't want to??? Geez, then they accuse women that we are picky? I wouldn't take the time to respond back if I wasn't interested obviously.

[LookAtThisPOst]

pendulum swing both ways I guess

[No Limit]

Perhaps they're just seeing who they can attract for their ego and aren't actually interested in OLD. Or there are other candidates who have written to them who seem more interesting to them than you.

[Mascara]

Because they're the ones who carpet bomb every profile and then decide who they're interested in from the ones who reply back.

[misspond]

Don't forget to add in to the equation the men who are just trying their luck and then can't get past the fact that you got back to them. If they've no confidence then let them go.

[minime13]

It's a numbers game. They'll spread a net, and see what they can catch. Once they get a couple bites, they'll zero in on them and cast out the rest.

 

That's my experience with OLD, at least.

[aloneinaz]

A lot of truth has already been posted here. As a male who's used OLD I can say that I would email several "potentials" at once. Would I "carpet bomb", no but it wouldn't be unusual for me to reach out to say 8-10 women.

 

 

I will say that I wouldn't reach out to anyone that I wouldn't follow up with if they got back to me. I wouldn't waste my time sending an email to someone I wouldn't potentially meet.

 

 

Now, what possibly could be happening is your replies maybe turning them off. I know a lot of guys are very insecure and hate rejection. Some replies I received to emails where a turn off or could of been construed that way. I always tell friends to be "light" with emails and hopefully funny and witty. Oh, and keep the email and reply SHORT..

[impatiently_patient]

Because they're the ones who carpet bomb every profile and then decide who they're interested in from the ones who reply back.

^

This. The ROI is so low from the male side of the fence that blasting out a boilerplate becomes the sensible thing to do.