Confusion12 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Myself and my girlfriend was in a relationship for 2 years, we ended it approximately 4 months ago due to problems we had both been having in our relationship, recently we got back together about 2 weeks ago, as she was crying saying that she misses me and to be honest i had missed her. she told me yesterday that she was so heartbroken from our relationship she went with another guy and had a one night stand, NO condom was used, and she had taken the morning after pill the following morning, so you can only imagine, i have booked us both a sexual health clinic as she told me after we had sex. i am really confused and don't know what to do, is it normal for someone to do something so irresponsible.
Author Confusion12 Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 can anyone give their advice please?
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 If you were broken up for 4 months, her or you having sex with someone else would be expected. As far as her not asking the guy to wear a condom, it happens in the heat of the moment. I think we're all guilty of that in our single lives. You both should get checked and hopefully things are all good. Then you can both access where you stand with continuing the relationship. I don't think you should harbor any animosity towards her if you were broken up.
SankeCoffee Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Agreed with post above. Respect her being honest with you about it, you can't hold what she did when she wasn't with you against her. If you truly love her and want to be with her you won't let this affect you. If you continue to let this linger in your head and can't look past it 100% then yall are doomed, might was well call it off now.
minime13 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Myself and my girlfriend was in a relationship for 2 years, we ended it approximately 4 months ago due to problems we had both been having in our relationship, recently we got back together about 2 weeks ago, as she was crying saying that she misses me and to be honest i had missed her. she told me yesterday that she was so heartbroken from our relationship she went with another guy and had a one night stand, NO condom was used, and she had taken the morning after pill the following morning, so you can only imagine, i have booked us both a sexual health clinic as she told me after we had sex. i am really confused and don't know what to do, is it normal for someone to do something so irresponsible. Somewhat normal. Not using a condom with a stranger - not quite so normal, but it happens. Not thinking clearly, getting over a break-up, and heat of the moment. Get tested and go from there. I somewhat applaud her honesty, but she should have told you before having sex with you.
ZiggyZoo Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Totally normal. Irresponsible, yes, but totally normal.
coryreply Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Sorry you've had to deal with this. When ppl are hurting fro ma breakup I thin they often do things that may be out of character for them. It's a good sign that she confessed it to you. Let us know how things go. Good luck!
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