titipornstar Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 ok ill try to keep it brief 4.5 years engaged with her we broke up 4 months ago, no contact for 3, 1 week begging. I never trusted her there was cheating involved i took her back, a year later she broke up with me as the relationship completely broke down. after a month of breakup she is seeing someone from work, now as it seems her boyfriend. I also met someone new same timeframe though i still have feelings for my ex. Break up was pretty bad not amicable. So she has her company drinks at my restaurant which she NEVER comes too. (it would be awkward) a few days ago she came to her company drinks with her now boyfriend. Very Odd and very brave considering the high probability of me being there. Thankfully I wasn't. 2-3 hours into the function she calls me , i didn't respond, so she called again... i was skyping the girl I'm seeing, i got the phone to a highhhh how are you doing ?? (as if nothing, considering all the pain and torment I've been going through) i simply said hi, i cant speak at the moment, she said ok and i put the phone down. Why would she call me? why would she call me when she was with him? how did she have the balls to come to my place with him? 2 people from the bar reported back to me, 1 said they seemed to have no chemistry, the other said they saw them kissing if she wants to contact, she can try again though i don't know if i'll pick up though Any thoughts? answers on a postcard
Jamesdk Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 It seems pretty obvious to me that she's not happy with new guy! If she really cared about him why would she bring him to where her ex works and also be calling you? Does she typically like a lot of attn from men? Maybe she can't stand you not paying attn to her. 2
ZiggyZoo Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 She's trying to keep you as a Plan B. She goes to your restaurant because it gives her a thrill to think that seeing her with another man makes you jealous, regardless of whether it reallyy does. She also knows that your friends will report back to you. Go true NC and BLOCK HER. She shouldn't be able to get through to you in any way, shape, or form. These stupid games will continue until you let her know that you're not playing them. 2
hunk Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Yeah, this was 100% some twisted jealousy game, she wanted you to see her or at least hear about her with her new boyfriend. Block her for your own sanity or this crap will continue. 3
jen1447 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 She wanted to put it in your face. If you'd been there there probably would have been a lot more kissing and physicality, etc. 3
Author titipornstar Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 why on earth would she want to rub it in my face? she's broken up with me twice in the past causing me to almost lose my mind twice, is she sick in the head? As soon as she told me about the new guy at work i went total no contact, its been 3 months and I'm feeling much better. she knows I'm with someone new and so is she, to walk into my business with him and be kissing and .... is out of order, cheeky to come, but at least some respect. i don't get what she wanted anyway, theres no reason to talk. and to call me about some triviality would've been out of line since we haven't spoken in ages.
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 why on earth would she want to rub it in my face? she's broken up with me twice in the past causing me to almost lose my mind twice, is she sick in the head? As soon as she told me about the new guy at work i went total no contact, its been 3 months and I'm feeling much better. she knows I'm with someone new and so is she, to walk into my business with him and be kissing and .... is out of order, cheeky to come, but at least some respect. i don't get what she wanted anyway, theres no reason to talk. and to call me about some triviality would've been out of line since we haven't spoken in ages. I don't want to be mean but.. why on earth did you answer her call? You knew she has a BF. She's dumped you twice, cheated on you so you really owe her nothing, especially taking her calls. I understand you still have feelings for her but it's still fresh. You need to focus on this new girl and have ZERO contact with this ex. She's clearly a peach and like the others have said, hasn't heard from you so she decided to piss you off by bringing in her boyfriend to rub in your face. That alone should make you grateful that you're not in her life anymore. What a classless POS.. Block her number, change your number, but don't give her the time of day. She'll take the hint that you can careless what she does and stop the contact. 1
Author titipornstar Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 I took her call but didn't engage in any conversation as i was on a Skype call. 'I cant talk now bye' If i hadn't been on the call i possibly would have been curious enough to ask what she wanted, if she would have answered with any bs i would have told her to go and do one.
NoLeafClover Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 She has no dignity for herself and wanted to throw it on your face. She doesn't respect you and she wants to hurt you every chance she can get clearly even to get out of her way to call you. Dont pick up when she calls and dont get any ideas to get back with her. She is already screwing someone else and you wont get over that even if they dont work out and you two got back together. Good luck 2
jen1447 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 why on earth would she want to rub it in my face? she's broken up with me twice in the past causing me to almost lose my mind twice, is she sick in the head? As soon as she told me about the new guy at work i went total no contact, its been 3 months and I'm feeling much better. she knows I'm with someone new and so is she, to walk into my business with him and be kissing and .... is out of order, cheeky to come, but at least some respect. i don't get what she wanted anyway, theres no reason to talk. and to call me about some triviality would've been out of line since we haven't spoken in ages. Some people get off on hurting others, yeah. Some people get off on hurting those who they think hurt or wronged them. Some people even get off on hurting others who didn't hurt them. Power trip, ego stroke, taboo behavior, etc., etc. It takes all kinds. Probably the NC actually contributed ....she may want to think you obsess over her and want to dangle what you can't have anymore in your face at the same as as making it obvious someone else does. And the call was probably an attempt to 'summon' you. (With the timing there's really no other plausible explanation.)
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 If i hadn't been on the call i possibly would have been curious enough to ask what she wanted. There's no value in wanting to be curious or having any interest in taking this persons call. You need to get your head wrapped around that. Is this really the type of person you'd consider reconciling with? You're not going to move past this lovely person until you block any chance she has in contacting you or you her. 99% of the people on this form would vanish from her life after the BS she's pulled on you.
Author titipornstar Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 oh mate that is just really the tip of the iceberg to what a classy pos she is
pidgeon1010 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Yah she came over there with him to rub it in your face and see what your reaction would be, and since you weren't there, her plan was foiled. She then wondered what you were up to and resorted to Plan B--let me call him and see what's his up to and then sneak in there that I just happen to be with my new guy at his restaurant. You pretty much dismissed her with that one line on phone but I would not have picked up her call at all. I don't think this is the last you've heard from her though. Based on what people reported back (i.e. no chemistry/kissing), she is probably miserable and may have put a "front" to show people she has moved on.
Thecondor1991 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Yeah, If your with someone now, I would just leave your ex alone. If your seeing a nice girl then just keep seeing her.
minime13 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I took her call but didn't engage in any conversation as i was on a Skype call. 'I cant talk now bye' If i hadn't been on the call i possibly would have been curious enough to ask what she wanted, if she would have answered with any bs i would have told her to go and do one. Keep it absolutely NC. She's doing this to get a reaction from you and see if she's still got you on the hook. No more answering calls, or interaction, period (unless it's forced and she comes to your restaurant again - even then you should avoid interaction when possible). She cheated on you, dumped you twice, and now is wondering why you aren't pining after her. That's what this is. 1
Author titipornstar Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 so, another smaller work function this evening, and she's there again, looks like on her own this time. don't know why but even knowing this gets under my skin... maybe she just dosent care, but makes me wonder
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