Broken engagement over 1 on 1 lunch-coffee w/ male boss

[applej4]

No, sorry, no pass.

 

I understand getting bitter and frustrated, but even so, you still have a responsibility to consider other people. Otherwise, you're going to pass off on all sorts of behavior in the name of temporary disgruntlement. People still are required to exercise some degree of self-control.

 

I agree with Fugu.The OP posting their name and the name of the restaurant on a public internet forum (thus encouraging cybermobbing) ….wow. In addition to a few other things it shows a lot about his character. It’s been obvious for a long time that his so-called girlfriend was tired of his bs and was blowing him off. Whether it’s her boss or someone else, she’s not obligated to stay with OP. Sounds to me like he has issues and is potentially violent. I understand hurt, but he refused to get a clue and move on.

[Chi townD]

Wow! I didn't know I was surrounded by perfect people that can do no wrong. My Bad!

[NoLeafClover]

I agree with Fugu.The OP posting their name and the name of the restaurant on a public internet forum (thus encouraging cybermobbing) ….wow. In addition to a few other things it shows a lot about his character. It’s been obvious for a long time that his so-called girlfriend was tired of his bs and was blowing him off. Whether it’s her boss or someone else, she’s not obligated to stay with OP. Sounds to me like he has issues and is potentially violent. I understand hurt, but he refused to get a clue and move on.

 

This guy over here... Really big guy...reallyyyy.

 

No one is saying she cant f whoever she wants...she can do anyone on here as anyone on here can do anyone they please...and the beauty of it is that it also doesn't matter if they are married, engaged or just holding hands..

 

So thanks for bringing up the obvious about human right with your stereotypical way of thinking Now sit down before you make yourself look like a tool.

 

You dont know the guy he could be a serial killer for all we know but we know enough to where he thought her behavior was inappropriate and turns out she was cheating.

So yes she doesnt have to be with him, she can do whoever she pleases .....BUT SHE COULD JUST BREAK UP WITH HIM AND NOT STRING HIM ALONG.

 

You are not only encouraging cheating but also are very quick at judging someone who came on here and made a mistake at weak moment. Yes it was wrong and got him in trouble...but whats her excuse for screwing her boss while engaged? She tripped , fall and landed on his ****?

There is no excuse for a cheater and a lying backstabber. On top of the fact that you see it playing in front of you, one has to also deal with the embarrassment and the struggle to move on and trust and love again.

 

You must have lived a perfect life and never got cheated on because if you did you would understand the numbers it plays on you.

Edited June 18, 2015 by NoLeafClover

[applej4]

This guy over here... Really big guy...reallyyyy.

 

No one is saying she cant f whoever she wants...she can do anyone on here as anyone on here can do anyone they please...and the beauty of it is that it also doesn't matter if they are married, engaged or just holding hands..

 

So thanks for bringing up the obvious about human right with your stereotypical way of thinking Now sit down before you make yourself look like a tool.

 

You dont know the guy he could be a serial killer for all we know but we know enough to where he thought her behavior was inappropriate and turns out she was cheating.

So yes she doesnt have to be with him, she can do whoever she pleases .....BUT SHE COULD JUST BREAK UP WITH HIM AND NOT STRING HIM ALONG.

 

You are not only encouraging cheating but also are very quick at judging someone who came on here and made a mistake at weak moment. Yes it was wrong and got him in trouble...but whats her excuse for screwing her boss while engaged? She tripped , fall and landed on his ****?

There is no excuse for a cheater and a lying backstabber. On top of the fact that you see it playing in front of you, one has to also deal with the embarrassment and the struggle to move on and trust and love again.

 

You must have lived a perfect life and never got cheated on because if you did you would understand the numbers it plays on you.

 

 

I never said I was encouraging cheating, and in fact I am not encouraging cheating. that’s what you chose to read into it and interpret it – must likely because you have been cheated on and I don’t find that hard to understand – although I don’t condone it. OP’s ex was not engaged to him when he caught her – I guess you missed that part earlier when OP told us she broke the engagement and downgraded him from fiancé to bf. You and the other poster are trying to make all this about ME, and it’s about OP. Hey, I’m not having the problem. You don't know SQUAT about ME. I didn't start the freakin' thread. I'll chalk it all up to your poor reading comprehension skills. And you wanna call ME a fool? HAHAHAHAHA!!!

 

If some guy said “let’s not be engaged anymore, let’s just be gf/bf” well, DUH that would be my signal that sometime is…uh…not right in that relationship, such as it is/was. (Frankly, I suspect they were not even engaged....all that was probably wishful thinking on his part.) Anyway,it would be time to lay the cards on the table and end it – not be a whiner and a stalker, which he must be if he was following them and watching them at the restaurant.

 

Sure, I’ve been cheated on but I didn’t go on the internet to a public forum and encourage people to cybermob. That’s way out there….what’s his next smooth move – cutting letters out of a newspaper and sending threatening letters? Ordering pizzas from 10 places and having them delivered to her? Breaking into boss’s house and decapitating a pet? His ex gf – cheater or no cheater – dodged a bullet, and that is putting it mildly. Wish the contact info was still there because someone needs to show her all his ramblings and caution her to get a restraining order. Throw a net over that one.

Edited June 18, 2015 by applej4

[applej4]

Wow! I didn't know I was surrounded by perfect people that can do no wrong. My Bad!

 

Then you should let this be a learning experience.