mapleleaves Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I’ve been dating this man for 2-3 months. We are still early on in the dating stage, no commitment yet. Last month he went out of town for a week to visit some friends, and he continued messaging me and we exchange conversation every day as before--we typically like to text each other since we are both busy during work, texting gives us more flexibility on when to talk. Before he came back from his trip, I also went on vacation. I texted him to wish him a good drive back home before I left. The hotel I stayed at has internet, so I sent emails to him when I’m free. He replied like before and we chat sporadically throughout the time I was away; not every day, but still good conversations. His last email to me says that he will be on business trip the day after I returned. I sent my last message saying I’m about to board the plane and asked how long his business trip is. He didn't respond to that message. It’s been about 4~5 days. I can’t tell if he’s giving me time to settle down, or he’s busy with business, or is he just trying to ignore me now. Girl friends told me I shouldn't initiate contact with him. But I don't want to look like I'm playing hard to get or not friendly. I texted my close friends when I'm back even though they already know from my Facebook status. Should I send him a casual text/call him up just to say "hey I'm back, how have you been?"
d0nnivain Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I don't care for power games. I think it takes more strength & self confidence to be straightforward & upfront. Send him the text but if you still don't get a response move on. He may have concluded that your schedules don't mesh
SunnySide0418 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Sure, I would text him. You have nothing to lose. If he doesn't respond then move on.
Gary S Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Jet-setters are going to find it difficult to maintain a relationship. It's hard to kiss when you are never in the same city.
aloneinaz Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I'm on the fence here. I like the direct, I don't give a $hit approach as well but.. the fact that he never replied to your last contact is concerning to me. Since he didn't reply to you last and his MO is to always reply and not go days before doing so, I don't think I would text him. I always felt that if someone stopped communicating w/me suddenly there was a reason why. If I didn't hear from them again, then I knew they lost interest or had someone else. I didn't need them to tell me they lost interest and good luck. There silence told me that.
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