Jonbones Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I wouldn't say that me and this girl are close friends. We have hung out once alone. I just see her a lot at the pool. She mentioned she was single. She also had been a lot more outgoing as of late such approaching me to talk. I did ask her out and she wen through her schedule and she was busy. An acquaintance of mine and friend of hers was told by her that I asked her out. She told him she would when she wasn't busy. She always texts back quickly like within 5 minutes. And I had an asthma attack and she iniatiated the conversation that day asking if I was alright. She kept texting me that day for hours. She said that we needed to go do a hike together again. I would say she does laugh at my jokes a lot but she does that to everyone. She's just a happy outgoing person. I don't know if I should ask her out again. I don't want to make it weird. The problem is every time I talk to her I like her more and more.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 (edited) Texting reply time doesn't matter. What does is who is initiating contact the most. Aside from the day you had the asthma attack, you're the one who is always reaching out to her. Also, the one time you did ask her out, she gave you an open ended busy and didn't offer any sort of re-schedule option. So my advice? Don't talk to her again until she initiates contact with you. If you never hear from her again, you've got your answer. If she does reach out don't engage in a lot of texting with her. Just cut to the chase and ask when she's free to get together. If she gives you another busy, says maybe, etc then tell her you have to run but to get in touch when she's more sure of her schedule. Then go back to no contact. I get that you like talking to the girl and have been enjoying getting to know her. However, if you continue to be her texting buddy like you have been, she'll always see you as one. Since your goal is to date this girl, you need to give her the space to reach out to you, and when she does you ask her out. Edited June 3, 2015 by fitnessfan365 1
Author Jonbones Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 Texting reply time doesn't matter. What does is who is initiating contact the most. Aside from the day you had the asthma attack, you're the one who is always reaching out to her. Also, the one time you did ask her out, she gave you an open ended busy and didn't offer any sort of re-schedule option. So my advice? Don't talk to her again until she initiates contact with you. If you never hear from her again, you've got your answer. If she does reach out don't engage in a lot of texting with her. Just cut to the chase and ask when she's free to get together. If she gives you another busy, says maybe, etc then tell her you have to run but to get in touch when she's more sure of her schedule. Then go back to no contact. I get that you like talking to the girl and have been enjoying getting to know her. However, if you continue to be her texting buddy like you have been, she'll always see you as one. Since your goal is to date this girl, you need to give her the space to reach out to you, and when she does you ask her out. Alright makes sense. The good thing is for the most part we don't really text that often like 3 conversations in past month. I do see her a lot though since she works at the pool and I go swinming a lot. I'm just confused because she is the one who told me she was single and on her day off kept hinting she had nothing to do or anybody to anything with. She is the one who forcibly took my phone to put her snapchat in. Like I said a friend hers told me that she said she d go out with me when she wasn't busy. I do know for a fact that week she was actually busy. I will follow this advice though. I'm just confused if she is a even a little interested.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 If you see her all the time. I'd try asking her out once more in person. If she gives you another blow off response, I'd leave it alone after that.
Author Jonbones Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 If you see her all the time. I'd try asking her out once more in person. If she gives you another blow off response, I'd leave it alone after that. Alright sounds great. Do you think she is even a little interested?
fitnessfan365 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Hard to say really. Her reaching out after you had your asthma attack is something any good person would do. Also, some women are nice and just like to talk. So that could be why she responds when you text her, but never reaches out to you. Then again, if a woman goes out of her way to stress that she is single that is a good sign, So at the very least you have nothing to lose by trying again in person. That way you'll be able to find out where you stand and not be wondering indefinitely. 1
Gary S Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Girls who seriously like you don't turn down dates. Talk to another girl. You guys are too easy.
minime13 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Alright sounds great. Do you think she is even a little interested? Didn't her friend tell your friend that she'd say yes if she wasn't busy? Words from her own mouth say ask again. What's the question here? EDIT: to restate - you said she was kind of shy, but has become more outgoing. She'd probably ask you out if not for the shyness. 1
Author Jonbones Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 Didn't her friend tell your friend that she'd say yes if she wasn't busy? Words from her own mouth say ask again. What's the question here? EDIT: to restate - you said she was kind of shy, but has become more outgoing. She'd probably ask you out if not for the shyness. No she's not shy. She is outgoing. She just wasn't narly as outgoing to me. Don't get me wrong she'd say hi but that's about it. Then she started going out of her way to approach me like changing her direction. And yes her friend did say she said that. The exact words were he said "you should go out with him he's a good guy." She said "I will I'm just busy right now." He did even mention that she is actually busy. Also he brought it up to me I didn't bring it up. The question is should I ask her out and do you think she is interested?
fitnessfan365 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 In the end, you just need to man up and ask her out one more time in person. That's the only way that you'll know for sure. All this hesitating and second guessing will only end up making you miserable. If you're always waiting around for an obvious sure thing, life will pass you by. Fortune favors the bold.
Author Jonbones Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 In the end, you just need to man up and ask her out one more time in person. That's the only way that you'll know for sure. All this hesitating and second guessing will only end up making you miserable. If you're always waiting around for an obvious sure thing, life will pass you by. Fortune favors the bold. You're absolutely right and I will. I just wanted to see if people thought she was interested.
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