Is it wrong if i'm undecided on whether I should attend my distant cousin's funeral,

[MiaMckenz]

My cousin's funeral is this Friday, and i'm undecided if i should go. He is my cousin from my mom's side; he's like my 4th cousin and we didn't really know each other at all. My mom is going to support because she's cousins with his mom and they grew up together. My mom said that i didn't really have to go if someone from our family is there to support, but or some reason I think i'll feel a little bad if I didn't go. The funeral is in NY and I live in MD. Thoughts if it's okay if I didn't go?

[Torii]

My cousin's funeral is this Friday, and i'm undecided if i should go. He is my cousin from my mom's side; he's like my 4th cousin and we didn't really know each other at all. My mom is going to support because she's cousins with his mom and they grew up together. My mom said that i didn't really have to go if someone from our family is there to support, but or some reason I think i'll feel a little bad if I didn't go. The funeral is in NY and I live in MD. Thoughts if it's okay if I didn't go?

 

 

 

It all depends on how you feel about attending. Your mother already said she'll be there to support the family since she was closer to them than you were. If you weren't close to your cousin when they were alive, I don't see the point in attending their funeral to show respect - because you really didn't have much of a relationship with them.

 

 

It's completely okay to not attend funerals. You should know how you feel about the person, how you've impacted their life before you decide to attend and pay your respects. I didn't attend all funerals of family members that passed, because I knew I didn't have to be there during that time. I wasn't part of their life for a long time so I had the impression that it wouldn't be right for me to go there. Instead, I showed my respects privately so anything unresolved got resolved for the both of us.

 

All depends on how you feel.

[minime13]

My cousin's funeral is this Friday, and i'm undecided if i should go. He is my cousin from my mom's side; he's like my 4th cousin and we didn't really know each other at all. My mom is going to support because she's cousins with his mom and they grew up together. My mom said that i didn't really have to go if someone from our family is there to support, but or some reason I think i'll feel a little bad if I didn't go. The funeral is in NY and I live in MD. Thoughts if it's okay if I didn't go?

 

It's okay not to go to a funeral of a very distant relative you never really knew. If you think you'll feel bad, and it's not a huge burden on you (distance/travel, etc), then go. It won't hurt you, but it's also okay not to go.

[Tayla]

Funerals are two folded, to comfort the family and to show respect for the person who passed.

 

In so much as it can be looked at from a comfort or respect aspect, choose wisely for your current plans. Be it to stay back and respect their loss in private or to go and show regards for the deceased. Its your own decision to make.

[Sugarkane]

If you barely knew the cousin, I don't see why you should go.