talkatone Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Been dating/seeing this girl for about 2 months however she sent me a text after a night out drinking together and it caught me off guard. basically saying she is in a transition stage of moving out and getting a new job so isn't pushing for anything serious, however she wants to be with me and looks forward too seeing me, introducing me to her friends as someone she is sort of with. i haven't questioned or asked about it but it has confused me a bit. i'm enjoying what we have going and if theirs potential there then i am interested, however now i feel like i don't whats happening.
Redhead14 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Been dating/seeing this girl for about 2 months however she sent me a text after a night out drinking together and it caught me off guard. basically saying she is in a transition stage of moving out and getting a new job so isn't pushing for anything serious, however she wants to be with me and looks forward too seeing me, introducing me to her friends as someone she is sort of with. i haven't questioned or asked about it but it has confused me a bit. i'm enjoying what we have going and if theirs potential there then i am interested, however now i feel like i don't whats happening. It's clear, she doesn't know if she can handle a serious relationship yet due to some big life changes and so wants to keep it casual until at least all the other stuff is behind her. If you're that interested and invested in her, be a little patient and let things unfold as they will. In the meantime, you date others and live your life.
Arieswoman Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 talkatone, Are you happy for her to be introducing me to her friends as someone she is sort of with. ??
d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I don't see anything negative in there at all. She's living life -- which comes with change -- and she wants you to be a part of it but in her inebriated state she didn't define the relationship yet. Relax. Do not over-analyze this.
smackie9 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 She just putting it out there that her time might be limited and won't be able to focus on seeing you. I think if you let her know that you will be for her if she needs some emotional support during this transition, it will show her you are in this for the long haul.
Author talkatone Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 talkatone, Are you happy for her to be ?? of course i like her, she is very reserved so i didn't expect her to say that
Author talkatone Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 i see thank for the responses, im seeing her Friday for another date. i wont mention anything and just have fun as that's what is about. so a quick question is it still ok that i date other women from what she has said? i just really don't want to ruin anything with this girl though.
smackie9 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 That's a touchy one. I would suggest you get that straightened out with her. If you both agree to date other that's one thing, but if you do it behind her back, that could ruin any chance. It really depends on her perspective, and it should be discussed. Some (most) people have an expectation that you are only seeing them unless stipulated.
d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 so a quick question is it still ok that i date other women from what she has said? i just really don't want to ruin anything with this girl though. Based on the fact that she said that she "isn't pushing for anything serious" and is looking forward to "introducing me to her friends as someone she is sort of with" I think you are almost crazy not to date other women. She only has one foot in this relationship so there is no need for you to be all in.
fred123 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 A woman who is moving out and looking for a new job is an excuse. When She meets the right guy she would not use this as an excuse just watch! Also im sure girls on here would agree with what women say when they arent into you...
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