mystikmind2005 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Hi My first post here; As a fairly insecure person, i am very strict not to indulge that side of myself anymore. But as it turns out, that is not so simple... because i am also a very intuitive person and i want to trust my intuition to the benefit of my new relationship, and try to be in tune to what my partner is feeling and needs. But in doing that, a bit of insecurity slipped through and now I'm on the 'i need space' bench. So right now I'm looking for insights on how to tell the difference between the lies generated by insecurity and the truths generated by genuine intuition? Is it simply a matter of having confidence in ones self?
todreaminblue Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 the only way i know how with intuition is to bring it out in the open when it is a little thing......and not snowball it into everything....if you use phrases like i feel this way instead of YOU ARE MAKING ME FEEL or use an accusatory tone......when you accuse someone you are normally lashing if you make your intuitive side known.....it can be used to sort out problems before they become massive problems...start little be generous in giving up how you feel....and realize it is possible to be mistaken.....a loving honest generous partner will encourage intuition and let you know when you are mistaken...for the most part my ex if i said i feel...would be supportive....except of course when it came to him cheating and then he grew cold and distant which verified my concerns in the first place.....he didnt appreciate intuition then..... be honest thats all you can do......and dont throw blame......just explain what you feel and why...gently.....deb 1
Author mystikmind2005 Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 the only way i know how with intuition is to bring it out in the open when it is a little thing......and not snowball it into everything....if you use phrases like i feel this way instead of YOU ARE MAKING ME FEEL or use an accusatory tone......when you accuse someone you are normally lashing if you make your intuitive side known.....it can be used to sort out problems before they become massive problems...start little be generous in giving up how you feel....and realize it is possible to be mistaken.....a loving honest generous partner will encourage intuition and let you know when you are mistaken...for the most part my ex if i said i feel...would be supportive....except of course when it came to him cheating and then he grew cold and distant which verified my concerns in the first place.....he didnt appreciate intuition then..... be honest thats all you can do......and dont throw blame......just explain what you feel and why...gently.....deb Sorry to hear about your experience, and that is another frightening side of intuition, when you confuse it with insecurity and you try so hard to be mature and trusting but it just sets you up for a much bigger fall. Yes being calm and honest, that is good advice, and i thought i did that.... I felt my intuition telling me things were cooling off, so i tried to talk to her about it, then i got the 'i need space' speech. She says she was not thinking of doing that until i raised the issue, but i have to wonder? A seam does not rip apart so easily unless it was already weak?
preraph Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 You can have intuition but still have self-discipline and not let yourself act out in in appropriate ways.
Emilia Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 You can't. This is why people can't hold down relationships. They can't separate intuition from negative self chat. Best thing is not to pre-empt and to keep a level head. 1
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