bmh Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 This guy and I have been friends for several months. We are really close hang out at least once a week. We talk all day pretty much... But he treats me like a gf minus the physical part. Goes out of his way to buy me my fav candy, brings me dinner to work occasionally, says things about how great I am and if he doesn't see me for a week tells me he misses me etc. when I ask him if he has feelings for me he responded with I love you you're my friend and pretty much that's as far as it will ever go... I don't have some hope he will want to date me I'm taking him at his word on this. But I can't seem to understand why he treats me the way he does..any insight? We are both in our late 20's and he is recently divorced.
yxalitis Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I guess he loves you, but doesn't want to admit it (maybe even to himself) as he is still close to his divorce, and all the emotional aspects of that. Didn't leave her because he secretly loves you...?
Author bmh Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 No nothing like that.... We didn't even become friends really until after the divorce... I think initially him contacting me was as a rebound but when he realized I was too smart for that we became close friends. He sees other women goes on dates ect.. But is very adamant that what we have is strictly friendship. Which is fine with me, especially at this point in his life being recently divorced, I just can't figure out why he treats me better than most bfs in the past have..lol it's all very confusing.
h0000 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 does it matter why ? do you want it or not? YES-proceed. NO-distant yourself.
Methodical Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 He's not a jerk looking to bed you. There are some really good gentlemanly guys still out there who value platonic friendships. He has set and reaffirmed boundaries to ensure his kind gestures aren't misconstrued. Respectable guy. 1
toscaroscura Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Hmm, he might enjoy the attention he gets from you, especially if you are obviously crushing on him. If it were me, I'd gently ask him to please cut back on the BF stuff, because it messes with my feelings. If he really cares about you as a friend (and not just as a mirror for his ego!) he will cut back.
Author bmh Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 He's not a jerk looking to bed you. There are some really good gentlemanly guys still out there who value platonic friendships. He has set and reaffirmed boundaries to ensure his kind gestures aren't misconstrued. Respectable guy. Lol I like this answer!!!
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