Tinder, cuddling, abroad

[siber]

Hey guys,

 

So, I recently met this guy on Tinder and we really hit it off which I did not see coming.

 

I made this Tinder account out of boredom and curiosity (a friend of mine told me not to ever make a Tinder account so of course that's what I did). I recently ended a long-term relationship in which I didn't feel appreciated and loved and i just wanted to talk to guys. But this is not important. What is, is that... I met this guy who is a couple of years older than me. We started texting. He caught my attention with his sarcastic, witty humor. I agreed to go out with him for drinks. The "date" went well... I mean, he talked a lot, very openly about his family, his job ( working in another country other than the one we are both from). He offered to take me home by car. I thank him and that was it. No kissing or anything. 20 minutes later he texted me, which was nice.

 

The next day I left town for a couple of days to a town nearby and we continued to talk. But it was more of a sexting kind of thing. Which I didn't mind. However, everytime we would end up talking about more serious stuff, he would back down l. He explained this by saying that he is really screwed emotionally and very skeptic about people. So, I didn't push it.

We continued sexting and one day we ended up talking about ourselves and he confused that he is surprised that he is talking about this.

Then the day I got back to the city, we met again.

It was a cold evening and while we were walking he took my hand and put it in his pocket and we were holding hands.

I didn't talk too much because I was getting mixed vibes from him for so many days and I was afraid that I would fall for him too much... ( I really liked him and still do).

Then we ended up kissing om the street and went even further but not all the way. Then we went back to his car and he asked me if I don't want to go to his place. I agreed.

We slept together and afterwards, we cuddled. He kept kissing my head, my lips, made sure I was not cold, tucked me in, caressed my face and so on. I loved it. But it was soon to be over because he had to catch the plain next day.

The second day we texted a bit (kisses lalala) and the day after, I decided to tell him that it's a pity he had to leave but that I was happy to have met him. That even though this might not lead anywhere I would like to become friends and get to know eachother better in time.

(With this message I just wanted to let him know that I like him but that I'm mot sure where this will lead since he is not in the same country as I am)

To this he replied "me too :)"

 

So, i'd like to get ask you guys what does this mean? Do you see this growing into something more meaningful? Is he interested in me or not? I'm not interested in just casual sex; i'd like something more. And I don't really mind a long-distance relationship because I know that would be temporary and we would find a way to be together.

 

To add: we talked about our fantasies and such. I am very open minded and I never had a problem with swinging couples. He was quite thrilled when he found out. I told him that as long as i feel loved, there is nothing wrong with a little extra fun.

 

Thank you for your opinions. And sorry for my English ... it's not my native language.

[kenmore]

Hi siber and welcome!

 

Nobody can tell how things will go but a lot will depend on his communication level from here on out. I'm no expert on tinder but I hear there are many people on it who are just trying to get some sex, and some may not be honest about it.

 

Then again, if he likes you and feel something fro you he will keep in touch. I'm not really sure I understand the different country situation. Do you get to the same areas often or was this a chance thing? If he only visits your country every year or so, he may have just been looking for a way to pass some time. If he's there more regularly like a couple times a month, it may be more serious.

 

As for the long distance relationship thing, I tried it and I thought it sucked. I think it makes a relationship so much more difficult and there's too much temptation to find someone closer, after all, there are lots of people around!

 

Good luck to you, I hope you find what you're looking for. If not, I hope you transition nicely along. Let us know how it goes!!

 

Ken

[Redhead14]

Hey guys,

 

So, I recently met this guy on Tinder and we really hit it off which I did not see coming.

 

I made this Tinder account out of boredom and curiosity (a friend of mine told me not to ever make a Tinder account so of course that's what I did). I recently ended a long-term relationship in which I didn't feel appreciated and loved and i just wanted to talk to guys. But this is not important. What is, is that... I met this guy who is a couple of years older than me. We started texting. He caught my attention with his sarcastic, witty humor. I agreed to go out with him for drinks. The "date" went well... I mean, he talked a lot, very openly about his family, his job ( working in another country other than the one we are both from). He offered to take me home by car. I thank him and that was it. No kissing or anything. 20 minutes later he texted me, which was nice.

 

The next day I left town for a couple of days to a town nearby and we continued to talk. But it was more of a sexting kind of thing. Which I didn't mind. However, everytime we would end up talking about more serious stuff, he would back down l. He explained this by saying that he is really screwed emotionally and very skeptic about people. So, I didn't push it.

We continued sexting and one day we ended up talking about ourselves and he confused that he is surprised that he is talking about this.

Then the day I got back to the city, we met again.

It was a cold evening and while we were walking he took my hand and put it in his pocket and we were holding hands.

I didn't talk too much because I was getting mixed vibes from him for so many days and I was afraid that I would fall for him too much... ( I really liked him and still do).

Then we ended up kissing om the street and went even further but not all the way. Then we went back to his car and he asked me if I don't want to go to his place. I agreed.

We slept together and afterwards, we cuddled. He kept kissing my head, my lips, made sure I was not cold, tucked me in, caressed my face and so on. I loved it. But it was soon to be over because he had to catch the plain next day.

The second day we texted a bit (kisses lalala) and the day after, I decided to tell him that it's a pity he had to leave but that I was happy to have met him. That even though this might not lead anywhere I would like to become friends and get to know eachother better in time.

(With this message I just wanted to let him know that I like him but that I'm mot sure where this will lead since he is not in the same country as I am)

To this he replied "me too :)"

 

So, i'd like to get ask you guys what does this mean? Do you see this growing into something more meaningful? Is he interested in me or not? I'm not interested in just casual sex; i'd like something more. And I don't really mind a long-distance relationship because I know that would be temporary and we would find a way to be together.

 

To add: we talked about our fantasies and such. I am very open minded and I never had a problem with swinging couples. He was quite thrilled when he found out. I told him that as long as i feel loved, there is nothing wrong with a little extra fun.

 

Thank you for your opinions. And sorry for my English ... it's not my native language.

 

None of the preceding story means anything. Until he is consistent with quality communication, consistent in trying to see you and demonstrating sincere and focused interest, he's just another guy to came to your country, had a one night stand and went to see another girl in another port. A man who is this sexual and sexting and talking about fantasies so quickly, is only looking for sex. If a woman accommodates that quickly, he knows he's going to get it.