slipped halo Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 We had a long drawn out and messy break up which dragged on because neither of us could let go and I'm now trying hard to after a massive final showdown over his friendship with his housemate (female) .we were high school first loves . He told me he didn't want me . I childishly packed all his gifts up as closure and posted them back . He told my best friend this has really hurt him and I've been so cruel throwing it all back in his face and of course I mean something to him more than anyone will ever know apparently !! I told him never to contact me again too but didn't mean it and he hasnt to date . My issue is he is now wearing a special chain with a key on the end that he bought for our first Christmas together that I wore every day . Why would he do this ? Am I reading something into it which isn't there ??
ZiggyZoo Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Is this the SAME guy you essentially broke up with last September? If so, that's nine months-NINE MONTHS-that you've been posting about, trying to figure out, going back and forth NC with, playing games with, and getting nowhere with. First it was his female roommate (guess they weren't fooling around after all). Then you were clingy, but kept forcing contact. Then his drug use. Then him choosing a ski trip over seeing you. Then sorta reconciliation, but he wouldn't commit just yet. Then you were kind of seeing someone and posted a picture to Instagram to make your ex jealous. Now where are we? I've honestly lost track. This is a mess. How you can remain involved yet not involved in a "relationship" like this is mind boggling. Here's the only, ONLY thing you need to know about what he's thinking, or what he's doing...he doesn't want to be with you. Period. If he did, he would. It doesn't matter one bit that he's wearing some necklace. That isn't his way of somehow saying "Oh, please come back. I mean it this time". He's just wearing an effing necklace. My god, you've got to let this go. Go NC for real (not like in September, when you did it to make your relationship stronger). Don't follow him on social media. Don't talk to him, don't get updates on him. This is sad, and you have wasted so much time already. Pull out of this. 2
Satu Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 This is how it goes with relationships that are based on dysfunctional attachment rather than love. 2
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