fldoglover Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 If you have read my posts, my ex broke up with me after I found out he was on a dating app and set up a date with a girl I knew in college. Almost a month later, I am feeling better and have gone out with a friend I have known for a while. My ex knows I had gone on a few dates with him before we go together, so he had always kind of asked about him. In the past two days, my ex has been asking a lot of questions as to whether or not me and this guy have been dating, what we’ve been doing, if I’ve hooked up with him and then making snide comments about how he thinks we’re going to be cute together. Since we have mutual friends, I tried to play nice and I also don’t want him to tell me what he’s been doing. Yes, I am moving on but it would still upset me. Last night, my ex called asking if I wanted to go see a movie with him. I declined. He then brought up the other guy again. When I told him I wasn’t dating anyone and that this guy is just a friend for now, he went nuts. Making comments like “sorry, I’m on a date right now, so I’ll talk to you later”. Today he told me not to “f*cking text him again”, so I didn’t. An hour later, he texts me saying “Just for the record, I haven’t hooked up with anyone since you, but I am definitely going to tonight”. Again, I wished him the best of luck and told him that it was unfortunate that he was intentionally trying to hurt me and he responded with “it’s so you can move on with your new guy, just like I’m going to”. I didn’t respond and blocked his number. My question is, why is he going out of his way to make comments like that when I have been nice and haven’t rubbed anything in his face?? Especially since he broke up with me! I tried to get him back the first week, but then backed off. I don’t see why people have to be so cruel.
jap26 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 It sounds to me like someone is very immature and incredibly jealous of you. Why does a bully intentionally bash someone else for no reason? Jealousy and insecurity. You keep doing you. It sounds like you're in a pretty good place in your life, and you shouldn't let anyone - whether it be him, or someone else, or even yourself - bring you down. Keep kicking a** and being awesome!! 1
elaine567 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 He is jealous. He may or may not want you back, but he sure as hell doesn't want you dating anyone else. Seems like you don't want to go back to him ever, and I do not blame you after the way he treated you, so block him to protect yourself. 1
sandylee1 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Why not block him. He's behaving like a kid right now. Don't call or text him. Try not to go out when you know he'll be there. You don't need his stress. Keep on going out with friends and on dates if you wish.
GorillaTheater Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 He may or may not want you back, but he sure as hell doesn't want you dating anyone else. Absolutely. Happens all the time. "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to want you, either." You'd be well-served by never communicating with him again.
mightycpa Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 My question is, why is he going out of his way to make comments like that when I have been nice and haven’t rubbed anything in his face?? Especially since he broke up with me! I tried to get him back the first week, but then backed off. He's doing this because you didn't back off nearly enough. You should have shut down things with him then for a while, to allow the change in relationship to settle into its new form. But you didn't, you tried to go from black to white nearly overnight. So shut it down now, and give the wounds some time to heal.
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