enchanted771 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 (edited) I was talking to thisguy online over a month ago. It was shortly after I stopped talkingto this other guy who basically broke my heart. He was not a boyfriend, but heled me to believe that he wanted a relationship with me. Anyways, I startedtalking to new guy but I felt very nervous. I didn’t feel I could trust anyoneat that point. He asked me out and I told him I was busy until the followingweek. I never got back to him what day. Never heard from him again, as I expected.I just wasn’t ready to meet anyone. Two weeks later, he likes a couple pictureson my facebook (public, he isn’t on my friend list) and I message him. Andbasically he tells well I could have known him, but I decided I didn’t want to.Then tells me to take care. Then like 2 days later he wishes me a happy mothersday. I say[/sIZE][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][sIZE=3]“ Thank you” and nothing morebecause to me he made it sound like he didn’t want to talk to me so I figured Iwont even bother. Two weeks later, I reach out to him and we were talking offand on all day, and he calls me later that night.[/sIZE][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][sIZE=3]I explained my situation that I hadn’t lostinterest, but I was feeling nervous. So he is telling me he is a good guy, andhow I need to decide if I want a good man who will respect and love me, etc.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]We had a decent convo but he was about to leave on a trip the next day and Hetold me he would call me when he returned from his trip. He has been back 2days and I have not heard a wink. Perhaps I am being too inpatient because heis also in the process of moving. I would like to meet up with him and see ifwe click but I am unsure if he is going to ask because I shot him down. I thinkthat he tried to get my attention on facebook by liking pics but why do that ifyour just going to be bitter? [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] Edited June 2, 2015 by enchanted771
Gaeta Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Two weeks later, I reach out to him and we were talking off and on all day, and he calls me later that night.I explained my situation that I hadn’t lost interest, but I was feeling nervous. So he is telling me he is a good guy, and how I need to decide if I want a good man who will respect and love me, etc.We had a decent convo but he was about to leave on a trip the next day and He told me he would call me when he returned from his trip. He has been back 2days and I have not heard a wink. Perhaps I am being too inpatient because he is also in the process of moving. I would like to meet up with him and see if we click but I am unsure if he is going to ask because I shot him down. I think that he tried to get my attention on facebook by liking pics but why do that if your just going to be bitter? You spoke together on the phone. He expressed his interest in meeting you. My question to you is did you express a desire to meet up with him upon his return? or you played the girl that's not too sure? If you are interested in this man then send him a message that you hope his trip went well and you are looking forward to get together when his schedule allows it. Sometimes you've got to give a man a clear green light.
Redhead14 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I was talking to thisguy online over a month ago. It was shortly after I stopped talkingto this other guy who basically broke my heart. He was not a boyfriend, but heled me to believe that he wanted a relationship with me. Anyways, I startedtalking to new guy but I felt very nervous. I didn’t feel I could trust anyoneat that point. He asked me out and I told him I was busy until the followingweek. I never got back to him what day. Never heard from him again, as I expected.I just wasn’t ready to meet anyone. Two weeks later, he likes a couple pictureson my facebook (public, he isn’t on my friend list) and I message him. Andbasically he tells well I could have known him, but I decided I didn’t want to.Then tells me to take care. Then like 2 days later he wishes me a happy mothersday. I say[/sIZE][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][sIZE=3]“ Thank you” and nothing morebecause to me he made it sound like he didn’t want to talk to me so I figured Iwont even bother. Two weeks later, I reach out to him and we were talking offand on all day, and he calls me later that night.[/sIZE][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][sIZE=3]I explained my situation that I hadn’t lostinterest, but I was feeling nervous. So he is telling me he is a good guy, andhow I need to decide if I want a good man who will respect and love me, etc.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]We had a decent convo but he was about to leave on a trip the next day and Hetold me he would call me when he returned from his trip. He has been back 2days and I have not heard a wink. Perhaps I am being too inpatient because heis also in the process of moving. I would like to meet up with him and see ifwe click but I am unsure if he is going to ask because I shot him down. I thinkthat he tried to get my attention on facebook by liking pics but why do that ifyour just going to be bitter? [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] So he is telling me he is a good guy, andhow I need to decide if I want a good man who will respect and love me, -- How could he know and tell you that he will love you when you haven't even met? You wait until he calls you. You go out on a first "meet up". Something short -- coffee or a couple of drinks and go from there. And, in the early part of a new dating scenario, when a man tells you he's looking for a relationship, he has no idea if it will be with you yet. It takes time to know if the person you're dating is good relationship material. The only thing that is important in the beginning is to know that they are at least looking for a relationship for themselves at some point and that the two of you are on that same page to start with. And, if they say the want a real relationship, you need to observe their behavior and words as you move forward. They can say they want a relationship, but if they don't treat the dating scenario the way it needs to be treated in order to try to secure that, then you move on. In other words, if they aren't dating you properly, aren't respectful of you and your time, etc. they aren't serious about looking for a relationship. 1
Vintage79 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 OP - get some confidence! You sound a bit crazy, and that won't work when trying to attract a guy. I kind of think the ball is in your court, so just ask him out if you're interested - getting impatient waiting for him to ask you out is pretty ridiculous, given that it may never happen. He asked you out, you said no, you made no other suggestions - this one's on you. To rectify it, you need to take positive action and follow-through with what you propose...
minime13 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 You're putting too much thought into this. Text or call, and ask him out. You blew him off when he asked you out initially, and I doubt he's going to set himself up for that again. You also don't want to wait for him to do the same, and pick another date where you will be unavailable. Call him and set a date already.
Author enchanted771 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 Two weeks later, I reach out to him and we were talking off and on all day, and he calls me later that night.I explained my situation that I hadn’t lost interest, but I was feeling nervous. So he is telling me he is a good guy, and how I need to decide if I want a good man who will respect and love me, etc.We had a decent convo but he was about to leave on a trip the next day and He told me he would call me when he returned from his trip. He has been back 2days and I have not heard a wink. Perhaps I am being too inpatient because he is also in the process of moving. I would like to meet up with him and see if we click but I am unsure if he is going to ask because I shot him down. I think that he tried to get my attention on facebook by liking pics but why do that if your just going to be bitter? You spoke together on the phone. He expressed his interest in meeting you. My question to you is did you express a desire to meet up with him upon his return? or you played the girl that's not too sure? If you are interested in this man then send him a message that you hope his trip went well and you are looking forward to get together when his schedule allows it. Sometimes you've got to give a man a clear green light. Yes I did reach out to him before and after he came back. He flaked. So moving on....
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