Ever felt like you met your soul mate?

[limited]

Ever felt like you met your soul mate? Where the connection was just so strong that you couldn't explain it? Even if you don't believe in soul mates, I'm just wondering if others out there have ever felt such a strong connection before.

 

A couple of years ago, I started a new job and walked into the meeting room with 50+ employees. I scanned the room where to sit and I noticed a guy looking at me. He looked at me like I was the most beautiful thing that walked into his life (or at least that room). I decided to go sit right across from him and from there, he acted really jittery. I didn't think much of him after that, but I would always remember that moment whenever I ran into him. He worked on the floor below me, so I didn't get to see him very often. I would run into him occasionally in the elevator, and for some reason, whenever he left, I just didn't want him to leave. I didn't even know him other than the fact that we worked for the same company.

 

Three years later, his department moved to my floor, and I got to see him more. Well, the more we saw each other, the more intense the chemistry became. I was strongly attracted to him on every level. The more I found out about him, the more I admired him. The problem was we were both married, and it did not end very well.

 

It took me a while to get over him. Truth is in every man that I seek today, I still seek for him, at least the qualities that he had. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone again, but at the right time. I feel like I have the worst timing, but I do feel lucky that I was able to experience such a thing. It was the best feeling in the world even though it hurt like hell.

[Gaeta]

Here's what I think on situations like yours.

 

This connection you are talking about is highly over-rated and you need to see it for what it really was and stop idealizing it.

 

You were 2 unhappy married people and found excitement into each other. Your encounters were thrilling because they were forbidden. If you had both being single and fully available to date you would have had much higher expectations toward each other and the day to day routine, his flaws, his annoying little habits, would have gotten to you like it does to any other regular couples.

 

You really need to take a step back and understand what you had with him was a fairy tale story and in a regular world he probably would have disappointed you and not live up to your expectations.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

I thought so, but she turned out to be a pathological liar. Her actions contradicted the image she fed me about herself. She did what she thought would reel me in & keep me, until she found the guy she really wanted.

 

 

Be wary of intense feelings that develops too fast. "The candle that burns twice as bright, lasts half as long."

[Mrlonelyone]

I have met one person where I felt they were a soul mate but it did not or has not worked out. It was an ex I wrote about here M.

 

Not so much a soul mate but things connect us like... My mother was a nurse in the emergency room where her father and mother worked when they met. So my family knew them before she was born. Her father likely treated my little sisters chronic ear problems.

 

Us meeting up years latter, her finding a job near my family home researching a condition that effects my family and staying in this city etc... that's a lot of coincidences.

 

I don't believe in soul mates and know it means nothing. Odds are I will just find someone to be with and not feel much for them but instead build it up over time. Someone ready to love me and accept me without fear or judgments of themselves.

 

 

In real life where there is more passion, more intensity, and more coincidence it never works. I real life people just settle for someone. That is the truth.

[limited]

 

 

In real life where there is more passion, more intensity, and more coincidence it never works. In real life people just settle for someone. That is the truth.

 

You are probably correct.

[d0nnivain]

Growing up my Mother swore to me that when I met The One I would just know. I met this guy in grad school & when he shook my hand the 1st time I felt a jolt of electricity & immediately thought OMG I just met my husband! my mom was right.

On the strength of that incorrect assumption I put up with a dysfunctional relationship for more than a decade.

 

What a crock.

[deadelvis]

I still believe. Every time I've met someone who I was going to be in a LTR with, I knew within seconds we would spend years of our life together. I've never felt that more than with my current SO. I have known we were supposed to be together for 10+ years and now that we are together we are incredibly happy and in love. Sometimes I think (sorry if this sounds mystical and silly) we are actually remembering the time we shared with someone before it happens. I believe time is not linear but subjective to the individual. We are just as much the 12 year old kid falling in love on the playground as we are the 80 year old looking back on our life and remembering our great loves. You are no more here and now then you are either of those two people. Never forget to remember your future and you will never grow old regretting your past.

Edited June 2, 2015 by deadelvis

[Mrlonelyone]

I still believe. Every time I've met someone who I was going to be in a LTR with, I knew within seconds we would spend years of our life together. I've never felt that more than with my current SO. I have known we were supposed to be together for 10+ years and now that we are together we are incredibly happy and in love. Sometimes I think (sorry if this sounds mystical and silly) we are actually remembering the time we shared with someone before it happens. I believe time is not linear but subjective to the individual. We are just as much the 12 year old kid falling in love on the playground as we are the 80 year old looking back on our life and remembering our great loves. You are no more here and now then you are either of those two people. Never forget to remember your future and you will never grow old regretting your past.

 

I feel happy for you and hope you prove right about your LTR. Let me tell you from experience and observation don't idealize them too much. Realize things will not always be rosy.

 

If you are remembering a future does that future include heartbreaking transgression, remorse and forgiveness? Does that future include sickness, money problems, death in the family, insecurity and depression? If the future you "remember" is all roses, puppies, babies, graduations, and good times it is not a memory it is an illusion.

[deadelvis]

If you are remembering a future does that future include heartbreaking transgression, remorse and forgiveness? Does that future include sickness, money problems, death in the family, insecurity and depression? If the future you "remember" is all roses, puppies, babies, graduations, and good times it is not a memory it is an illusion.

 

We already have a lot of sickness, money problems, insecurity and depression. So it's par for the course.

[Mrlonelyone]

If you are remembering a future does that future include heartbreaking transgression, remorse and forgiveness? Does that future include sickness, money problems, death in the family, insecurity and depression? If the future you "remember" is all roses, puppies, babies, graduations, and good times it is not a memory it is an illusion.

 

We already have a lot of sickness, money problems, insecurity and depression. So it's par for the course.

 

Good for you for having found someone worth being with.

[central]

I don't believe in the idea of soul mates, or destiny, but I do believe that some people can be extraordinarily compatible with each other. (Like most such things, the majority of couples fall in the middle regions of the normal distribution curve, and some populate the tails - the "soul mate" group in several standard deviations away from the median on the positive end.)

 

In the sense of extraordinary compatibility, my second wife fills all the criteria. Even after 15 years we are passionate about each other, deeply in love, and are amazingly in tune on values and goals and shared interests (while still having our own distinct areas of interest and expertise). Being together is an uplifting experience.

[Noideanow]

how old are you? how old is he? is he still alive? so sad there is so few people in this world right and happy with each other, once in a while when i see such a couple i feel relieved and happy as if i were them

[Michelle ma Belle]

I will admit that my definition of a soulmate has changed with every year I get older and each experience I have.

 

These days I subscribe to the way Elizabeth Gilbert describes soulmates in her book Eat, Pray, Love;

 

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

 

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

 

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.

 

Having said that I do believe that some come into our lives and stay but even more come for a purpose then leave.

 

Either way, they appear to help us become better versions of ourselves. That's my take on it anyway

[cessna]

Like central I don't believe in soul mates or destiny and I certainly don't believe in the idea of a soul or any kind of spirituality but that's going a little off topic.

 

I do believe in love though in the conventional sense. That two people can be very close to one another and enjoy each others company. It's as simple as that.

[jen1447]

I think I may have met mine (or one of mine) last night. Jesus! :love:

[bippy123]

Ever felt like you met your soul mate? Where the connection was just so strong that you couldn't explain it? Even if you don't believe in soul mates, I'm just wondering if others out there have ever felt such a strong connection before.

 

A couple of years ago, I started a new job and walked into the meeting room with 50+ employees. I scanned the room where to sit and I noticed a guy looking at me. He looked at me like I was the most beautiful thing that walked into his life (or at least that room). I decided to go sit right across from him and from there, he acted really jittery. I didn't think much of him after that, but I would always remember that moment whenever I ran into him. He worked on the floor below me, so I didn't get to see him very often. I would run into him occasionally in the elevator, and for some reason, whenever he left, I just didn't want him to leave. I didn't even know him other than the fact that we worked for the same company.

 

Three years later, his department moved to my floor, and I got to see him more. Well, the more we saw each other, the more intense the chemistry became. I was strongly attracted to him on every level. The more I found out about him, the more I admired him. The problem was we were both married, and it did not end very well.

 

It took me a while to get over him. Truth is in every man that I seek today, I still seek for him, at least the qualities that he had. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone again, but at the right time. I feel like I have the worst timing, but I do feel lucky that I was able to experience such a thing. It was the best feeling in the world even though it hurt like hell.

This is a feeling that comes from outside of the physical realm . I would call it a spiritual connection . Even though we try to describe it with words, words don't do it justice .

 

Have u tried to find him again ?

[SmartDude]

I found my soulmate.

She put me in the friend zone because she wants to keep her options open.

[PogoStick]

I think I may have met mine (or one of mine) last night. Jesus! :love:

 

But I don't even remember meeting you

[jen1447]

I found my soulmate.

She put me in the friend zone because she wants to keep her options open.

 

^ That was funny. Better that than being "too busy."

[DJOkawari]

My relationship experience is relatively sparse but all of my LTRs have begun like this. The sort of connection where both of us knew we'd be together for years immediately...and it felt like neither of us had a choice.

 

I've never really had any other type of LTR but based on my history it might be wiser to be a bit less "passionate".

[limited]

This is a feeling that comes from outside of the physical realm . I would call it a spiritual connection . Even though we try to describe it with words, words don't do it justice .

 

Have u tried to find him again ?

 

We both know where to find each other if we really wanted to. Like I stated before, things didn't end well. We have since work for new employers, but we still work in the same downtown area, and occasionally, I would still run into him. We don't even say hello to each other anymore. He still comes around to my workplace and stare at me from afar, but that's it. He's still married to his wife and I am now divorced. He was just another reason that came into my life to tell me I needed to get out of my marriage. As wrong as it was to fall for him, I hadn't been that happy for the longest time until him, and that, I'm still grateful for.

[PrettyEmily77]

On my 4th soul-mate . Hopefully, this one is for keeps.

[whirl3daway]

I tend to agree with Michelle's stance about soulmates. I think my most recent ex was probably a soulmate, we were compatible on levels that I didn't even anticipate. We knew [and still know] exactly what the other is thinking, we share several core values, are staunch atheists, love to read, etc. We had a tumultuous relationship but he really did help me become a much better person than I was before. I'm happy, and in large part that was due to him showing me that life could be different from what I knew before. My problem now is that I don't want to settle for anything less than what we had. Different is okay, but not less.