DexterLS Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 If you haven't read my story, here it is. TL;DR Girlfriend (24/F) of 6/7 years dumped me for the guy (25/M/Ukrainian) she cheated on with me (24/M). She is now in Dubai and enjoying her life. I made a mistake about reading this article on G.I.G.S (Grass Is Greener Syndrome) from Homebrew. It was poison to me. It gave me hope that she will be back later on. I know I sound pathetic. How can I accept someone that has cheated on me? How can I forget all this pain? Point is, I will probably not and I don't realise this now as I feel a big void in my life which only she can fill. Why do I think my Ex has the G.I.G.S? She is now drinking and partying a lot. Something which she did not do here, probably because she wasn't allowed to do so by her parents too. She has become seriously arrogant and think she is above everybody else. Just because she moved to Dubai and is having the time of her life, everybody else is below her. That's how it is in her mind. She couldn't tell me she was dumping me and she gave me several reasons which were very contradicting. She told our mutual friends she still thinks about me everyday and stuff like that. At one point, she was missing me and came back to talk and then left me to dry again. Today is day 7 of strict NC. No communication whatsoever with the ex. I left on a good note (I think). I told her I forgave her for her betrayal although she thinks she didn't betray me and I wished her well for the future and for her relationship with the new guy. How do I feel today? Like ****. I want her relationship with this guy to fail so hard. I want her to be happy just not with THIS GUY. This guy is a douche and knew I was in a relationship with her but continued flirting and his interest anyway.I want her to come back 7-8 months down the road to tell me she is sorry for all the **** she put me through. If she comes back now, I would probably be still very weak and take her back.I know she is no good for me but I still want the satisfaction of seeing her come back. Anybody can relate?
Ariess10 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Sounds like you dodged a bullet, she doesn't seem like a very nice person and she cheated.. Thank your lucky stars that you weren't stuck with her .. 1
ZiggyZoo Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I think that what you're going through isn't that uncommon. Good job on seven days, NC is tough in the beginning. Just keep focusing on why the relationship wasn't good, and on making YOUR life better. Time will do its thing, and you'll get to the point where it'll sting less and less. And someday, I promise, you'll look at her and feel nothing. But for right now, you're doing the right thing. Try (I know it's hard) to not dwell on her and this other guy. If you have to, tell yourself "STOP" when/if you find your thoughts drifting that way. This little trick really helped me in the past. It's too easy to get caught up in all that, you might have to make extra efffort right now to stop dwelling on it all. Good luck, and hang in there! You'll get through this. 1
Author DexterLS Posted June 2, 2015 Author Posted June 2, 2015 Thanks guys. She disappeared completely from my life. She blocked me everywhere so I can't even stalk now which is making this a lot easier. 2
SankeCoffee Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Thanks guys. She disappeared completely from my life. She blocked me everywhere so I can't even stalk now which is making this a lot easier. I know this hurts at first when you realize that they completely cut you out, but she is doing you a favor, not seeing her online will help you move on much easier. Just focus on yourself, go to the gym, work on yourself. This will all be behind you in no time and you will be a stronger person going forward 1
coryreply Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 NC is not easy. A lot of people can't do it and they only make things much, much worse for themselves. Hang in there. Things will get easier and better for you soon!
Thecondor1991 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Yeah man I hate to say it, but if she cheated on you that's more than enough reason to just completely forget about her. I wouldn't even worry about whats happening in her current relationship, just know that someone else is going to have to deal with that cheating Jezebel and your not.
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