EveAFlame Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race. Trashy, tacky, and tactless ascends race. As evidenced above. OP, yes we black women (not girls because we are adults) love educated black men. My brother is one and he has black women falling all over themselves for him. We were raised in an upper middle class home in a very mixed neighborhood. We went to college. We've travelled. My mother is an engineer. And honestly, we are the norm for black people where I'm from. 4
thestaircase Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 (edited) And to answer the question. I like "Street Smart" guy. I do NOT, repeated I do NOT like "Book smart" guy. I'm Financially independent, with my own job and my own money. I go for the guys that I love. I don't give a rat ass if he educated or not. Both me and my husband, none of us have College degree. But we both working and have our own jobs. I married my husband with nothing. We got married very simple, at the City Hall/ Courthouse with 2 witnesses: his mother and my older brother. There was NO engagement ring, NO wedding reception, NO honeymoon. In defense of my husbad, it was me that chose not to have any of those stuff. All I need was him only. When we dated, I insist on split bills. Or one date I pay, next date he pay. When we married, I insist on keep our Financial separate, separate Checking/Saving accounts. I don't like to touch his money and I don't care his money. As married couple, our Rent/Mortgage is this month I pay, next month he pay. All our monthly household Bills are split equally too. Grocery is this time I pay, next time he pay, etc... All these is very FAIR for both, and I insist on stay this way. Different strokes for different folks. It all depend on the individual couple, I speak for myself and my marriage only. Financially, me and my husband are capable of walking out of this marriage anytime because we both are 'Financially independence". We still together because we love each others, and we WANT to be together. And if you wonder why a Chinese (Asian-American) girl like reply in this thread. Because my husband is Black. His ancestor come from Sierra Leone (West Africa). But he born in USA, his father and grandfather also born in USA, so he pretty much very African-American. I don't care if the guy is educated or not. As long as I love the guy and we are compatible, his education have NOTHING to do with it. My husband is not educated, I'm NOT educated neither. So I guess we match, 'Same Feather Flock Together' for us. Edited June 3, 2015 by thestairs 2
ThaWholigan Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Depends on demographic, but black women I know would fall over themselves trying to date an educated black dude, but it's easy to think in generalizations and especially in school, see the "bad guy" go off with the girl. It's a big world, with a lot of women - there are lots of women, including lots of black women, who would date an educated black man.
Zoyalover Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 It really depends on where you socialise as well. I never socialised or went to hip hop clubs or concerts, or anywhere that I was going to be surrounded by boys in the hood. If I was at a house party and a guy hit on me, I'd soon find out if he was my type intellectually from the way he spoke and from whether he was in college or working. I have absolutely no attraction to guys with very low intellect. I don't have to go to a hip hop club or a concert, from my experience it doesn't matter where I go. I could be going to or leaving the grocery store, and still someone will hit on me...I will look at him and say to myself "I guess I'll give him a chance" and then find out that he has no ambition or is not as goal oriented or intellectual as I had hoped. You can't always tell by the way guys speak initially, especially considering if you don't have time to talk much. I too am not attracted to guys with low intellect. Maybe my problem is not judging a book by its cover or being an open opportunity "employer"? It doesn't have to be formal qualifications, because a college degree means nothing, if you're a fool and there are many educated guys that are not boyfriend or husband material. It's about ambition and achievement. You can be a successful businessman, with no formal qualifications. I agree There's a couple of black guys I know from about 20 years ago, when we hit the clubs and partied. They are still in crap jobs and have only got older. No woman would really see them as a husband, despite their good looks. What do you consider a "crap job"? I failed to mention that if he is black, not educated and with me or trying to pursue me, he should be working. I'm not really picky about the type of job, as long as he ain't strippin', selling drugs, the job pays the bills and he gets paid more than minimum wage were good! Lol The good looks work to get girls for a while, but when you're from a decent family, they won't approve of marrying this kind of guy, that can't support his family. My family is not like that... See last response Zoyalover, if you met someone via networking events, they would be on the same page as you. This is true in a sense. I did meet someone at a networking event and he was full of himself so we went nowhere, smh.
GravityMan Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 In mean every girl in generl but specifically black girls . Im talking about the guys who are non-hood nor gangsta or a thug in anyway .The type of guy who would rather whatch a documentary on an ancient civilization on the discovery channel than love and hip hop on bet not saying anything's wrong with it it just something not appealing to this guy . the kind that never uses the N word when speaking and talks very proper without the use of slang. The ones that have something to talk about rather than drugs,money and sex. The guy that likes all kind of music besides rap/and hip hop like pop, rock even blues,gospel and 60s and 70s Music in general . There are black guys like this the black girls or other girls in my school does not seem to want this type in my school . Can someone explain why and are thier some that do ? You can't really apply what you've noticed at your school in South Florida to all black guys and women everywhere else... I'm black and have met quite a few black girls and women who dig educated black guys (and educated guys of any other race or ethnicity). Those women usually tend to be pretty educated themselves. I've also met some black women who are fine with lowlife black guys who treat women like crap and can barely hold down a job. Those women usually aren't paragons of society themselves. Also, they (as well as the lowlife guys and girls in other races) are often anti-intellectual and some of them will even openly ridicule black people who are smart and educated. Black women are diverse in the types of guys that they like, just like women of any other race. They aren't some monolithic hive mind. While there are certainly exceptions...when it comes to things such as education, intellect, socioeconomic status, direction in life and morals...like usually attracts like. Such people are more likely to just "get" each other...i.e. it's easier to relate. Oh, and another thing. Some of these educated and successful black guys, myself included, do listen to rap music. They may listen to The Roots or Lupe Fiasco or Jean Grae on their headphones at work and then go watch something educational on the Discovery channel at home that evening and then read a few chapters of a novel before going to sleep. And some may use a bit of slang in appropriate situations (and stick to "proper" English in other appropriate cases). It boils down to recognizing the situation and using good judgment. I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race. WTF, dude. You deserved all the heat that others in this thread flung at you.
sandylee1 Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Maybe my problem is not judging a book by its cover or being an open opportunity "employer"? Sometimes, it's just luck. Sometimes it's being proactive. Have you tried OLD? What do you consider a "crap job"? I failed to mention that if he is black, not educated and with me or trying to pursue me, he should be working. I'm not really picky about the type of job, as long as he ain't strippin', selling drugs, the job pays the bills and he gets paid more than minimum wage were good! Lol I would generally call them 'dead end jobs'. I don't want to name any particular job or profession, but if I could go on annual vacations, have a decent vehicle, afford to go on girls weekends before I get married, then get married and can no longer do these things because his income isn't enough, that would be a problem. I don't want my lifestyle (which could certainly be better) to drop below what I was brought up with and had as a single lady. Just like I wouldn't want my daughter marrying a guy who couldn't maintain the lifestyle she has when she gets to that stage. I'm not saying be with a guy for his money, most important is a man who loves her, would not mistreat her, cheat on her and is a kind hearted person. Money doesn't make you a good person or give you morals. One of my male friends (black) said he was looking for a wife. I asked him straight up, what he had to offer, because while he's a nice guy, he wouldn't provide security to any woman. I wouldn't go for him, I wouldn't recommend him to a single friend either. This is true in a sense. I did meet someone at a networking event and he was full of himself so we went nowhere, smh. Yes, some of these guys can be so very full of themselves. I knew a guy like this and he though he was God's gift to women just because he was a Doctor. He felt I should be falling at my feet because he showed interest. 1
Zoyalover Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Sandylee1 No, I haven't. I'm scared to do OLD plus I've heard too many unsuccessful stories and not many success stories about it.
preraph Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I know there are, but you may have better luck once you give it a couple of years and the rowdy ones a chance to mature and start thinking about their futures. If I were you I'd join plenty of academic clubs, where hopefully you'll find the more studious women who are maybe not as out and visible as the ratchet ones you're noticing. I would also say go to church, even there at college once in awhile if you are at all religious, and maybe you'll meet a serious girl. Don't settle. There are women out there for you. I think maybe they're just not in the places you're looking right now. Good luck!
stillafool Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 There are black guys like this the black girls or other girls in my school does not seem to want this type in my school . Can someone explain why and are thier some that do ? What difference does it make to you? Just date the girls you like who like you back. It doesn't matter the race of the girl as long as you two like each other.
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