Jet96 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 In mean every girl in generl but specifically black girls . Im talking about the guys who are non-hood nor gangsta or a thug in anyway .The type of guy who would rather whatch a documentary on an ancient civilization on the discovery channel than love and hip hop on bet not saying anything's wrong with it it just something not appealing to this guy . the kind that never uses the N word when speaking and talks very proper without the use of slang. The ones that have something to talk about rather than drugs,money and sex. The guy that likes all kind of music besides rap/and hip hop like pop, rock even blues,gospel and 60s and 70s Music in general . There are black guys like this the black girls or other girls in my school does not seem to want this type in my school . Can someone explain why and are thier some that do ?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race.
empresario Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Black culture is actually really, really intriguing. I don't know how to answer your question as a white guy, but I do have a sister that chases chocolate and a beautiful black niece. Black women are probably the most prejudiced (against)* demographic in the USA. Like an abusive relationship...hear enough times what you're supposed to do, feel, or like and eventually you turn into what people expect you to be. 4
shvrk Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 In mean every girl in generl but specifically black girls . Im talking about the guys who are non-hood nor gangsta or a thug in anyway .The type of guy who would rather whatch a documentary on an ancient civilization on the discovery channel than love and hip hop on bet not saying anything's wrong with it it just something not appealing to this guy . the kind that never uses the N word when speaking and talks very proper without the use of slang. The ones that have something to talk about rather than drugs,money and sex. The guy that likes all kind of music besides rap/and hip hop like pop, rock even blues,gospel and 60s and 70s Music in general . There are black guys like this the black girls or other girls in my school does not seem to want this type in my school . Can someone explain why and are thier some that do ? As a black woman, I will tell you right now, not every black girl is after the next hood nword. In the real world, outside of high school, there are plenty of woman, even black, that would be interested in an educated black man. I would consider a "documentary night" a dope ass date lol. 3
shvrk Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Black culture is actually really, really intriguing. I don't know how to answer your question as a white guy, but I do have a sister that chases chocolate and a beautiful black niece. Black women are probably the most prejudiced (against)* demographic in the USA. Like an abusive relationship...hear enough times what you're supposed to do, feel, or like and eventually you turn into what people expect you to be. Yep. I encourage everyone to be open-minded, especially black woman that I come across and build relationships with. Surprise the people around you. 1
realisticbound Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race. You're like a broken record every time a black woman's name appears but always one of the first in line to comment for someone that's so disgusted.. Maybe it's the socioeconomic class you can afford to live in if you're seeing this at such a high rate. 3
LoveMachine67 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Jet, there are black women out there that do appreciate non street ghetto black men, but I personally have not found one that I've connected with. As a result, I do date women of other races now too. While I will never cut black women off completely, I do keep my options open. "Black women are probably the most prejudiced (against)* demographic in the USA. Like an abusive relationship...hear enough times what you're supposed to do, feel, or like and eventually you turn into what people expect you to be." I believe Empresario may be on to something with the above quote. Because that seems to have been my experience when dealing with black women in past relationships. Black women that do appreciate educated and successful black men, seem to be a rare commodity and are in great demand.
shvrk Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race. How did I miss this...
sandylee1 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I'm a black woman, married to a black man. My husband is not from the ghetto and into rap and hip hop. I've never been attracted to that type of black guy at all. My husband is very smart and well educated. He likes a range of music including soul, dance and a little bit of rock. He's ambitious and watches a variety of TV shows. We are both religious and have values. I've never been one to date people going nowhere and when I discovered a couple of guys were like that, I dropped them straight away. It's a matter of upbringing and values. The black girls who would only date guys into rap /ghetto type, have probably had a similar upbringing themselves. We often gravitate to people like us. It's extremely ignorant to brand all black women as obnoxious. I guess it depends where your slumming it to only meet this kind of person. 13
Gloria25 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women WHO ARE very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date CERTAIN black girlS lol. Nothing to do with race. Fixed it for ya ^^ Women, regardless of race - who are loud, obnoxious, and/or full of drama are not going to want an educated man that will treat them with respect. Watch the Jerry Springer show....lots of people who aren't black on there, country as heck, and full of drama... 7
Radu Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 (edited) In mean every girl in generl but specifically black girls . Im talking about the guys who are non-hood nor gangsta or a thug in anyway .The type of guy who would rather whatch a documentary on an ancient civilization on the discovery channel than love and hip hop on bet not saying anything's wrong with it it just something not appealing to this guy . the kind that never uses the N word when speaking and talks very proper without the use of slang. The ones that have something to talk about rather than drugs,money and sex. The guy that likes all kind of music besides rap/and hip hop like pop, rock even blues,gospel and 60s and 70s Music in general . There are black guys like this the black girls or other girls in my school does not seem to want this type in my school . Can someone explain why and are thier some that do ? Hmm ... i have 2 answers for this (i'm not from the US) : - probably yeah, there are more sophisticated black girls/women who would enjoy this but you will find that there are probably few of them; i happen to have the same exact taste (audrey hepburn in breakfast at tiffany's; that kind of look is amazing for me), and it's not easy to find someone like that, with those tastes and that classic feminine look ... For reference, i'm caucasian and from eastern-europe. - if the guy referenced in the OP is you, you need to work a little more on your grammar and punctuation. Don't take it personal, i make a lot of mistakes too, but women like the one you described will judge you from the start on how you present yourself. In the same way, i -guy- don't even bother looking at the online dating personal page of a girl who can't form a few coherent sentences in her personal description. Fixed it for ya ^^ Women, regardless of race - who are loud, obnoxious, and/or full of drama are not going to want an educated man that will treat them with respect. Watch the Jerry Springer show....lots of people who aren't black on there, country as heck, and full of drama... Bingo ! Edited June 2, 2015 by Radu 1
sandylee1 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Black culture is actually really, really intriguing. I don't know how to answer your question as a white guy, but I do have a sister that chases chocolate and a beautiful black niece. . Black people don't all have the same culture though, as it depends on your country of origin. Although I expect if you live in America you're referring to black Americans /African Americans, very different to those from the Carribean and Africa. 2
Davey L Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race. My wife, who is black, was never as loud or obnoxious as many English girls. Also, unlike most English girls, she knew how to cook and keep house. To respond to OP I have noticed that educated black men are more likely to choose a white woman than their less educated counterparts, and likewise, the educated (and less loud/obnoxious) black women are more likely to choose a white man. 4
sandylee1 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 To respond to OP I have noticed that educated black men are more likely to choose a white woman than their less educated counterparts, and likewise, the educated (and less loud/obnoxious) black women are more likely to choose a white man. Do you know, I've never really noticed this . I think educated people seek out other educated people. Especially women, who tend not to go for men less educated than themselves. Guys are more likely to go for a pretty girl on their arms, without the brains. 3
Quiet Storm Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Yes, my son is a 19 YO college student. He is mixed (black/white). He is very well spoken and very smart. Girls of all races love him, but black girls really love him. I was in the grocery store the other day and one of his "friends" ran up to me and told me that I'm going to be her mother-in-law one day! I got home and my son said "WHAT?" He is not looking for anything serious, but apparently she is! You need to just find women that value education. I'm surprised about this post, because the black women I know want an educated & successful black man. As educated black women, they often feel that their choices are limited and they have to "settle", while educated black men seem to have many options. 4
Davey L Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Do you know, I've never really noticed this . I think educated people seek out other educated people. Especially women, who tend not to go for men less educated than themselves. Guys are more likely to go for a pretty girl on their arms, without the brains. Until guys grow up and mature a bit - then we appreciate intelligence a bit more, and other qualities too. My wife is intelligent, though not highly educated, which is mainly a reflection of her African origin and less opportunities. 1
sandylee1 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Until guys grow up and mature a bit - then we appreciate intelligence a bit more, and other qualities too. My wife is intelligent, though not highly educated, which is mainly a reflection of her African origin and less opportunities. I understand about limited opportunities for some and agree that with age you value education. I can't imagine any well educated black woman, not wanting an educated black guy, unless her preference is for another race. My father is really big on education and went up to phd level, so he would have been terribly disappointed if I married someone who wasn't highly educated or at least resourceful, having invested in my education. He always says knowledge is power and the best thing he could give us was a good education. My father in law (over 80) is also educated to the same level as my dad and my MIL is also well educated. 2
davidromero43 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't know for sure, but in my experience Black Girls/Women are very loud/obnoxious and aren't as feminine/submissive as white girls... That's the main reason I won't date a black girl lol. Nothing to do with race. This observation might fit my exwife. But my current wife is not loud, obnoxious, or submissive. But she is very feminine. Both are black. Really, that description doesn't even fit the majority of the black girls I have dated. But a few do come to mind, that it perfectly fits. I might not be black, but I have a college degree, love documentaries, the Discovery channel, hate drugs, don't say the "N" word, never have watched Love and Hip Hop, might know one rap song, and certainly not hood. Almost all women want an intelligent mate for marriage and producing children. In school they will date guys they feel will never measure up to marriage potential. Difference between Mr Right Now and Mr Right. So you will win in the long run. Just keep being you. 4
loverboy69 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Black people don't all have the same culture though, as it depends on your country of origin. Although I expect if you live in America you're referring to black Americans /African Americans, very different to those from the Carribean and Africa. This is particularly true here in the United States especially in the inner city areas of Los Angeles, New York, Detroit etc. Black Americans even have their own speech and dialect that differs from those living even in the same region: African American Vernacular English - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Entire verbs are removed from sentences (or put in reverse order) and certain combinations of letters like: "ks," are pronounced like the letter: x. Whenever I hear a black person talk from the UK they seem to sound just like everyone else. I could be entirely wrong (someone from the UK correct me if I am) Definitely some huge regional differences. I have friends from Kenya and they all talk with British styled English. 2
Zoyalover Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I'm an educated black woman who has a master's degree and seem to only be able to attract men who are not as educated as me and have hood tendencies I'm thinking it's where I live. I too am attracted to educated men of all races but would like to experience being with an educated, well rounded African-American man... I'm not loud, ghetto or anything else, I'm pretty calm. If anything I'm super emotional, but isn't that most women? 2
Author Jet96 Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 I'm an educated black woman who has a master's degree and seem to only be able to attract men who are not as educated as me and have hood tendencies I'm thinking it's where I live. I too am attracted to educated men of all races but would like to experience being with an educated, well rounded African-American man... I'm not loud, ghetto or anything else, I'm pretty calm. If anything I'm super emotional, but isn't that most women? Hope there are more like you . 1
sandylee1 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 I'm an educated black woman who has a master's degree and seem to only be able to attract men who are not as educated as me and have hood tendencies I'm thinking it's where I live. I too am attracted to educated men of all races but would like to experience being with an educated, well rounded African-American man... I'm not loud, ghetto or anything else, I'm pretty calm. If anything I'm super emotional, but isn't that most women? It really depends on where you socialise as well. I never socialised or went to hip hop clubs or concerts, or anywhere that I was going to be surrounded by boys in the hood. If I was at a house party and a guy hit on me, I'd soon find out if he was my type intellectually from the way he spoke and from whether he was in college or working. I have absolutely no attraction to guys with very low intellect. It doesn't have to be formal qualifications, because a college degree means nothing, if you're a fool and there are many educated guys that are not boyfriend or husband material. It's about ambition and achievement. You can be a successful businessman, with no formal qualifications. There's a couple of black guys I know from about 20 years ago, when we hit the clubs and partied. They are still in crap jobs and have only got older. No woman would really see them as a husband, despite their good looks. The good looks work to get girls for a while, but when you're from a decent family, they won't approve of marrying this kind of guy, that can't support his family. Zoyalover, if you met someone via networking events, they would be on the same page as you. 1
sandylee1 Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 Whenever I hear a black person talk from the UK they seem to sound just like everyone else. I could be entirely wrong (someone from the UK correct me if I am) Definitely some huge regional differences. I have friends from Kenya and they all talk with British styled English. I'm from the UK and not all black people speak like everyone else. It depends on where they were born and even if they were born in the UK, if they live in certain areas , I'd know they are black with my eyes closed. It very much depends on the level of education. I think there's a difference if you have a Carribean or African accent, because that's where you grew up, but there's another way a lot of black people speak, ,which is more associated with street talk. None of my siblings speak that way. My children don't either and I would stamp it out if they tried it. They only do it in jest. Years ago, I used to call my H at work and sometimes colleagues answered. When they saw me, they were surprised because they thought I was white. 1
thestaircase Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 (edited) I'm not Black, I'm Chinese (Asian-Americna) But I just want to said that all the negativity--it just stereotypes and genrealization against Black women. I think Black women are beautiful, and they are strong women. I respect Black women alot, and I admire them. And btw, not everyone who live in the ghetto/the hood are bad neither. Both me and my husand is live in the hood right now, we have been living in the hood. We both are equally poor, we both are working to save money to buy a small foreclosure house. The ghetto is just a place where people with low income live. The word "ghetto" it originated from Jewish, where the Jewish used to live back then. The 'ghetto' have NOTHING to do with race. I'm Chinese and I live in the ghetto too. Not everybody born with a silver spoon in their mouth. There people who struggles in life; there people who have low income so they have to live in the hood, nothing is wrong with that. I live in the ghetto, and I'm not ashamed of it. Why? Because I don't cheat, I don't steal, I survived with my own working money. I have NOTHING to be ashmed of myself or where I live. And not all guys (Black or not) who wear baggy pants/the "Thug" clothing is bad neither. My husband wear my baggy pants, and he is Not a thug. He just like the style, and he find it comfortable to wear. He is an all round awesome guy, and he is an awesome awesome husband! I don't like it how people tends to 'judge the book by it cover'. It more than the outside, it more than the skin color. I wish people would stop judge the book by it cover, and see others for their heart--their inside character. Edited June 3, 2015 by thestairs 5
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