TaraMaiden2 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 She didn't dump me. I dumped her then within a day contacted her saying I should not have done so. By not taking you back when you re-considered your decision - she dumped you. Or to be precise, you dumped her "in haste," She dumped you "at Leisure." I never made it a point that she cater to my insecurities. Whose to say I wouldn't have dumped her if I wasn't drunk? Well, we'll never know, but it would have been less likely.... Sure that added to the unnecessary chaos of the situation, but the fact of the matter remains that the whole incident with the dickpic made me uncomfortable. Could we have talked it out, absolutely. Then insrtead of flying off the handle, why didn't you? Why shouldn't she be mindful of her boyfriend when she's friending people who just sent them a pic of their junk? Trust is earned and built, not just handed to someone. To me, that in some way disrupted the trust. Different people see things in a different light. This guy was already someone they knew as a friend. Maybe it was just intended to be risqué humour.... talking it over would have cleared things up and made things better, to be sure.... I brought up the exam because the fact that I can go that far to help someone yet they barely have a second thought about me when doing what she did, says it all about her perhaps. That having another Facebook "friend" was more important than my feeling comfort in an uncomfortable situation. So now this is no longer about what you did to her, but about you...? 1
Fleur de cactus Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 You dumped her , or you dumped each other. Anyway, I dont think she wanted to cheat. I received dick's picture from men after the first meeting, but it does not mean I solicited the pic or I was interested. She trusted you and asked you to find out. Your response was to get mad and dump her. Let it cool down, both of you are angry still. There is a chance to give you a second chance, but give her a time to think about your relationship, to miss you. However, try to see how you can control you drinking. It is not good. Also, you have anger issue. Even if she comes back, she will be afraid to tell you anything. Would you like her to receive those pics and hide them??? Seriously why were you mad?
Author arsenal78 Posted June 2, 2015 Author Posted June 2, 2015 I truly do appreciate all of the opinions. I might be reaching but I'm looking at her keeping our Facebook pictures as a positive that maybe she isn't ready to move forward yet, also the fact that she caved and let me know she passed the exam. Probably false hopes. If she doesn't contact me by the 6th week, I plan to write a letter, at this point I'm not sure what I have to lose. The letter will not be one asking for reconciliation but more along the lines of thanking her for being a part of such a wonderful experience in my life despite the way it ended. I'd rather have her in my life, even as a distant friend rather than not be there at all. As for my drinking, it's not worth it anymore even if there's the slight possibility that I'll ever behave that way again. My ex is someone who struggled with drug addiction in her past so I'm hoping that maybe she'll understand my struggle. While I do not drink often, when I do; occasionally I have issues. At 31, I've had three meaningful relationships, this one hurts the most. She was the one I fell in love with and truly my other half. But it taught me that relationships can be fragile, things can change in an instance and in my case all it took was a night. I'll forever be mindful of that going forward. Thanks again.
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