loneyBird Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Long story short Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago. We were together for 2 years. during this while...he would not take me back..but he wanted me to go be "free, wear short skirts on my college campus...but NOT date anyone". I was hurt..and confused.... and a week ago we had a fight and I found out that he had a girlfriend. He met her at work, and he claims they became together after I broke up with him. We were going to get married..and I was going to move in with him....but I had school to attend to. Now i have a boyfriend and my ex constantly asks me if i had sex with him. Then he ignores me. Then he says hes worried about me...but then he avoids me. here is a word for word example of our conversations... me- i miss you him - did you get laid this weekend? lol me- no, did you? him - yes lol what the hell does he want from me???
Author loneyBird Posted April 26, 2005 Author Posted April 26, 2005 p.s. the whole time i was with this man, he called me a whore and degrading names..such as those. Now whenever he contacts me online he is very intrusive, asking me about my sex life and getting mad at me for moving on with another boyfriend...but he just wont leave me alone. I want to know why...he wont leave me alone. Whenever he tries to contact me...he will say a few words to me...and then ignore me, leaving me hanging. Then I am a mess. please help
Jess xx Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Why are you even in contact with your ex??? He does not respect you at all! I get the impression he broke up with you? If he did he cannot have the best of both worlds..if he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore then you can do whatever you want with whoever you want. Are you guys at college together? If you are I understand that having NC with him is tricky but although you might have to see him you do not have to engage in a conversation with him.. You are setting yourself up to get hurt every single time you speak to him...I know you must have that desperate feeling of wanting to hear from him but honestly Im sure everyone will tell you as difficult as it is, no contact is the only way. Have respect for yourself, you have a new boyf who hopefully does respect for you? Why do you need to speak to your ex anymore! and also it can't be very nice for your new boyf knowing that you still speak to him! Give NC a chance.
Auz Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 He probably just enjoys the power of being able to pull on your emotional strings. And it seems its working He sounds like an absolute a***hole to me and not somebody you need in your life. Probably he has some resentment towards you for something you may not even have done - often people can convince themselves that they were right and you were wrong, even if its all in their imagination. What you need to do, is block him on whatever messenger program you use for starters. If he emails you, then delete them, or if you are scared of deleting something then put it into some folder straight away so you can maybe read it in a few months when you have some more control back. If he was calling you a whore and other degrading names when you were going out with him, then he doesnt deserve any respect in my opinion. If he tries calling you, then dont answer - or if you unknowingly answer then tell him you have someone on the otherline, or you were just going out. Take back some control, because at the moment he has you hanging on every point of contact and he knows it. Why does he decide if you can date or not? He was the one that broke you up wasnt he? So it was his choice. If he asks about your sexlife, then tell him its none of his business. If he needs to flaunt to you that he got laid, then he is a very insecure person indeed. Arrogant pricks like this give guys a bad name
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