Coolsbreeze Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 So I just recently went on this amazing date with this amazing woman. She was in town for a week for my cousin's wedding and was one of the bridesmaids. When she was going to be leaving a few days later she said we should do lunch. Obviously I jumped at that opportunity because I like her a lot and wanted to spend more time with her but didn't have the balls to ask her out, so I quickly scheduled one with her. She wanted to invite my sister but she was busy. She has this cute, quirky, funny and innocent personality to her, which always grabs my attention. When it was time for our "date" we were supposed to only spend a few hours in the day together, but we ended up spending a majority of the day together. I showed her around the city and all the important sights, I tried my best to be the best guide as possible as I wanted her to have the best possible time. We took many memorable pics together and she took a few selfies with me. And towards the end she wanted to have dinner with me and I couldn't say no or wanted to. I wanted to spend as much time as possible with her. When we were done dinner and it was time for me to go, I was kind of sad because I knew that I would possibly never see her again just because she lives so far away. We hugged and I said a few things like "I'll miss you" and then I left. She said let's keep in touch via text and phone. So I have a few questions: what should I talk about with her over the phone? I'm not very text savy and always have trouble starting up conversations or making small talk via text. I'm always the person who only texts if there's an answer I need to a question. And what should I do to get her more interested in me? I wanted to text her when she went back home was yesterday but I don't want to annoy her with texting too much. And from what I told in the story do you think she feels anything for me or just sees me as a friend? I've met a few women who had that kind of sweetness and kindness to me in them and always thought that I was nothing more then just a friend. So obviously my receiver from signals is pretty defective.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 You hugged - well gOOD! could have been worse. But why didn't you KISS HER?!?!?! It sounds like it would have been received well. She "asked" to do dinner huh? Hmm lol. When women usually do this they want a free meal, maybe not though. Honestly, just play it cool and give her a buzz within a day or two.
Lansing Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 How does she know your sister? How close is she to her? Maybe she feels comfortable around you and feels you are more like " a brother" to her? I understand your desire to keep extending the date but in general I advise against that. Better to leave her wanting more.
Author Coolsbreeze Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 @Lansing Well I've known her a bit longer then my sister. But her and my sister are the same age. I've known her for like 3 months but met my sister met her recently and only started talking to her now. She was the one who wanted to have dinner with me and suggested it. I obviously jumped on that oppurtunity. She was willing to pay for dinner too but I couldn't let her do that either. @barcode88 Well I hugged her twice. My signal receiver is way off if she wanted me to kiss her I wouldn't have known. When we were also eating she would smile at me with her eyes too. I thought that was so cute lol.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 @barcode88 Well I hugged her twice. My signal receiver is way off if she wanted me to kiss her I wouldn't have known. When we were also eating she would smile at me with her eyes too. I thought that was so cute lol. Women don't tend to hang neon signs above their head that say "please kiss me" If you feel the date went well and you want to see her again, you just need to man up and go for it. You'll either kiss, or she'll turn her cheek. But regardless, you find out what she thinks about you within a few seconds. That way you know to either never contact her again, or have your next contact be an invite to set up plans, and not having to chase her down wondering.
Author Coolsbreeze Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 So what should i text her about then? Like I said before I'm not really text savy.
d0nnivain Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Text her: Hope (or glad) you got home safe. I had fun. Send me some of the pictures from our phone. When you get the pictures call her to say thank you & discuss your favorites. Then talk about when you can get together again. 1
Author Coolsbreeze Posted June 4, 2015 Author Posted June 4, 2015 Well looks like the whole thing has pretty much fizzled out, she rarely texts back or responds to my texts when she is on. And I've only sent a few texts. Well it was good while it lasted.
Perrier Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 OP sounds like you were fantasising in this woman's company. I haven't read anything that suggests she saw you as a romantic prospect.
PogoStick Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Sounds like desperation on your end, putting your hopes on a woman who isn't even available (considering the long distance). Instead let's focus on how you can do better with women in the future. 1
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