Gaeta Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I have been exchanging with this man (45) for a couple of days. This morning he sent me a good morning and it's followed by the question: when was your last hook-up?. I lost it and hit him hard on the nose for asking such a question then I told him I am looking for another kind of man and wished him luck. Do you ask or answer these types of questions? 2
losangelena Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I'm not sure I would have "hit him over the nose" with anything, but I would have demurred from answering. What business is if of his? Why does he want to know? Every man I've gone on a date with who asked those kinds of questions early-on was fishing for something. I've never appreciated it. 1
Syberia Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Not after "a couple of days." When you're more comfortable around each other, sure, ask each other whatever the hell you want.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 If a Woman asked me, I would be annoyed... It's really not appropriate to ask before you're getting more intimate/physical, let alone meeting. Here is how I'd see it going down. I would not tell her and she'd be annoyed. I'd tell her it was a week ago and she'd be disgusted, I'd tell her never, and she would think I have no game. It's not a question to ask before you know someone well lol. 5
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Discretion being the better part of valour... Discreet implies the showing of reserve and prudence in one’s behaviour or speech. (Noun: Discretion) Discrete means something quite different: “distinct, separate, unrelated.” (Noun: Discreteness) I will deny I ever actually posted this..... 3
GemmaUK Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I wouldn't have replied to him at all and no, I don't ask indiscrete questions.
deadelvis Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Depends on context. I would have said "not for several hours"
Author Gaeta Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 Discretion being the better part of valour... I will deny I ever actually posted this..... English is not my first language lol but I am sure you got the meaning of my question.
carhill Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Do you ask or answer these types of questions? Generally, no, but sometimes stuff of this nature does come up in conversation, overwhelmingly after meeting and dating a bit. When asked (when was your last hook-up?), my answer was when I was last married so xxxx ago. Prior to being married, the answer would have been last relationship xxx ago. Next topic. I don't tend to dwell on such matters. Adults have sex and it's a free world. A sensitive man doesn't get very far with women so perhaps it's a learned behavior, IDK.
Author Gaeta Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 I just find it extremely juvenile coming from a 45 years old man! When was your last hook-up - What made him think I do hook-ups at all. That's his best stuff to seduce a woman my age. 2
rester Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I find those types of questions to be highly inappropriate and neither ask nor answer them. 2
losangelena Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I just find it extremely juvenile coming from a 45 years old man! When was your last hook-up - What made him think I do hook-ups at all. That's his best stuff to seduce a woman my age. Probably because he's trying to figure out how easy it'd be to hook up with you! 1
Author Gaeta Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 Probably because he's trying to figure out how easy it'd be to hook up with you! hmm, another one pretending to be serious 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 English is not my first language lol but I am sure you got the meaning of my question. I did... It was just a point with humour.... Anyway, if I spoke your language as well as you obviously speak English, we'd be able to communicate on all levels! Maybe we do share a language...? ... Gaeta is a Town in Italy.... Sorry, Off-topic.... just responding..... 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I'm never quite sure precisely what is meant by 'hook-up'.... is it serious dating? Intimacy? Actual sex? Heavy petting? Kissing? Can anyone from "across The Pond" actually clarify, for sure for sure, precisely what 'Hooking Up' is....?
Author Gaeta Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 I'm never quite sure precisely what is meant by 'hook-up'.... is it serious dating? Intimacy? Actual sex? Heavy petting? Kissing? Can anyone from "across The Pond" actually clarify, for sure for sure, precisely what 'Hooking Up' is....? Actually before giving him a taste of my French blood (even though my mother gave me an Italian name) I asked him exactly what he meant and he answered sex with no strings attached. 1
Shining One Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 While I don't ask this question specifically, I do ask sexual questions. My favorite one is: What is the weirdest place you've had sex? Of course, I wait for the banter to be at the appropriate comfort level first. I certainly don't ask this question over email or text.
aloneinaz Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I think the question could be appropriate in certain contexts but if out of the blue, no, it's wrong, especially if you've never met yet. I did find it surprising while dating in my 40's how many women would turn initial texting conversations sexual. Trust me, I'm no prude and in some cases, they can be fun and entertaining. To one of the other posters points, there usually isn't a good answer for that. You don't want to come across as a player/slut but also don't want to come off as someone who's desperate to get laid either.. I had a date with this gal on a Friday night. It was our first date. I'd suggested a drink at this one Mexican restaurant. The problem? I had a date the night before that turned out going to that place. So, I texted the Friday night date "where'd you want to meet"? She said "how about the Mexican place you suggested"? I replied that I wasn't feeling that and how about this place. Well, we met there. Within 5 minutes, she came out and asked if I was on a date last night at the Mexican place.. I wasn't sure how to answer it but knew honesty is always a good thing. So, I said yes. I think she appreciated the honesty and I think it made me more attractive as I was out actively dating.
jen1447 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Gaeta, you should start wearing a tarp in your profile pics (and on dates) to keep them at bay. 2
Author Gaeta Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 ONCE I answered an indiscreet question. The man and I had met once and it was during a phone conversation afterward he asked me when was the last time I had sex. I said: You sure you want to ask me this question He said: yes I replied: I had sex not long ago. He said: What do you mean not long ago. I replied: Last week He said: Wow, I didn't think you were that kind of woman I thought you would answer something like 6 months. He never called me again
Arieswoman Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 When I was single and OLD I had a few guys tell me (either in the first 'phone call or on a first date) that "they like to get into a sexual relationship quickly". I responded by thanking them for telling me that they were looking for an "easy" woman, but unfortunately they had the wrong girl. I then walked out or hung up. Never heard from them again. I don't really know why they gave me that information but i suspect that they were on a "fishing expedition". 1
Shining One Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 ONCE I answered an indiscreet question. The man and I had met once and it was during a phone conversation afterward he asked me when was the last time I had sex. I said: You sure you want to ask me this question He said: yes I replied: I had sex not long ago. He said: What do you mean not long ago. I replied: Last week He said: Wow, I didn't think you were that kind of woman I thought you would answer something like 6 months.Last week! It's been too long. We need to get you into bed right now!Edited for how I would have used this question. 3
mammasita Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I can't believe a 45 year old man lead with a question like that.......will wonders never cease LOL 2
gaius Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I asked a girl if her mother wears a two or one peice to the beach one time. Yes, while we were dating. 2
candie13 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I asked a girl if her mother wears a two or one peice to the beach one time. Yes, while we were dating. i take it the mom was hot
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