freebutterfly86 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I have been talking to this guy for 5 months now. I met him online, from day one we were really into each other. We eventually met up & realized we were really into each other. He said he was one of the good guys & that he wants to be in a relationship with someone by the middle of the year. We seemed to be on the same page. From that point on we would text all the time, call sometimes, & hangout from time to time. We didn't see each other as much as i would have liked b/c he would always say he was really busy a lot b/c he was trying to work, go to school, & do music on the side b/c he was trying to make it big. He later tells me that these things are his top priority. I would get mad when he would suggest doing something but when the time came there would always be some excuse or I would not hear from him that day. Slowly things didn't look so promising so I stopped talking to him for a couple of weeks. Also by this point it had been 3 months & we had never kissed. He would touch & rub me & coversate about being intimate. It was like he was holding back. I was really confused by this point. Eventually he reached out & then we were back cool again. I tried to be understanding from that point but he still was not trying as hard as I thought he should but I really liked him. Fast forward to a week ago, we finally became intimate. He seemed scared about kissing me. I had to initiate the kissing but we both had wanted to have sex b/c we had joked about it for months. Afterwards he told me he really enjoyed it. Two days after I still hadn't heard from him. I was concerned so I texted him a simple hello. No reply back. A day later I texted him again. I asked him what is wrong, he said we were cool. Avoiding the situation. We talked a little after that but then again he stopped all of a sudden. From that point on he has avoided my calls, short text replies, & now completely ignoring me. I haven't attempted to contact him over the past two days. I am hurt b/c i am now feeling rejected. What should i do ? I just don't understand anymore.
Redhead14 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I have been talking to this guy for 5 months now. I met him online, from day one we were really into each other. We eventually met up & realized we were really into each other. He said he was one of the good guys & that he wants to be in a relationship with someone by the middle of the year. We seemed to be on the same page. From that point on we would text all the time, call sometimes, & hangout from time to time. We didn't see each other as much as i would have liked b/c he would always say he was really busy a lot b/c he was trying to work, go to school, & do music on the side b/c he was trying to make it big. He later tells me that these things are his top priority. I would get mad when he would suggest doing something but when the time came there would always be some excuse or I would not hear from him that day. Slowly things didn't look so promising so I stopped talking to him for a couple of weeks. Also by this point it had been 3 months & we had never kissed. He would touch & rub me & coversate about being intimate. It was like he was holding back. I was really confused by this point. Eventually he reached out & then we were back cool again. I tried to be understanding from that point but he still was not trying as hard as I thought he should but I really liked him. Fast forward to a week ago, we finally became intimate. He seemed scared about kissing me. I had to initiate the kissing but we both had wanted to have sex b/c we had joked about it for months. Afterwards he told me he really enjoyed it. Two days after I still hadn't heard from him. I was concerned so I texted him a simple hello. No reply back. A day later I texted him again. I asked him what is wrong, he said we were cool. Avoiding the situation. We talked a little after that but then again he stopped all of a sudden. From that point on he has avoided my calls, short text replies, & now completely ignoring me. I haven't attempted to contact him over the past two days. I am hurt b/c i am now feeling rejected. What should i do ? I just don't understand anymore. You continue to live your life. Don't reach out to him anymore. When/if he reaches out to you, don't respond in any way. Move on. If a man has sex with me for the first time and doesn't keep up with communication, he's off my radar. I don't care if he was scared, busy or run over by a bus. 3
Vintage79 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 It sounds like you have been rejected - start the healing process and move on - there's not a lot more you can do.
spiderowl Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I'm really sorry, this guy was never serious about you and he knew it. Put it down to experience and abandon this guy. You need to look for better signs in the next guy you like. A guy who really likes you will go to a lot of trouble to make sure you feel happy and cared for. You won't feel so confused and unsure about him because he'll want you to know he's really interested. He will also be around for you when you need support - your average player isn't interested in anything more than gratification. 1
spiderowl Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 You continue to live your life. Don't reach out to him anymore. When/if he reaches out to you, don't respond in any way. Move on. If a man has sex with me for the first time and doesn't keep up with communication, he's off my radar. I don't care if he was scared, busy or run over by a bus. Or even better WAS run over by a bus!
dyna85 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Honestly? He sounds gay to me. Either that or super religious. Somethin'... but I definitely don't think it has to do with you. I'm not too familiar with guys who take very long to become intimate with women they are dating. Usually it's the woman who exerts the self-control, if anything. I think you were right to stop talking to him when he didn't kiss you for months. You can and will do better. I would toss this one to the side. Not to be mean towards him, but seriously, he sounds very strange and like a MAJOR time waster.
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