kturner16 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 My ex called me on FaceTime (he is away at school) last night, and we talked. He told me his reason for breaking up with me was because he left like I didn't support him but when he went back to his ex, he realized that wasn't true. He said that she just made him feel good about himself, but I kept him levelheaded and realistic and he realizes that now. He told me that while we were broken up, towards the end of our NC, he was unhappy also and that he smoked a lot more and also cried a lot because he was so upset with himself. He also read me something that he wrote for me saying how sorry he was. When I talked to him, I still felt something there, like my feelings were still the but I just kept thinking about the depression I went through when he was gone. He told me he would do whatever it takes to get me back and to make our relationship but he also agreed to take things slow. I feel so lost guys. I want him back but I don't know how i would ever be able to trust him again to not leave me like he did before. I guess I just have a lot of thinking to do. all my friends keep telling me he's not worth going back to but I don't know if I believe that because I know we both did hurtful things to eachother. My ex coming back for me has made my life even more confusing! Be careful what you wish for guys!!
Ruby65 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 He wants you back because the woman he dumped you for.... dumped him? That's not exactly a dream come true.
erklat Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Yes, whatever he had going on with the other woman fizzled out and now he's back - only until there is another woman to entice his imagination.
Thecondor1991 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Well it would seem the ball is in your court. Now you can accept his apology and hope that everything will go back to normal, or you can realize that that while you may still have feelings for this person, your better off with out him.
aloneinaz Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Here's what you should do.. Read all your threads you started about this relationship and what he did. Then, ask yourself if this is really the guy you want to go back with? I'd agree with the others. The girl he went back to dumped him and he's falling back to you or he's simply lonely or horny and thinks you're in his back pocket. This appears to be classic dumpers behavior. They sometimes come back when the grass isn't greener, try and say all the right things and expect that you'll be grateful for their reappearance. You stated "be careful what you wish for in regards to wanting a dumper back".. Well, my dumper came back and she was told NO THANKS. I couldn't EVER trust her again and I'd already suffered through the first break up. You're young, enjoy it and find another boyfriend who won't put you on an emotional rollercoaster.
na49 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 The reason you aren't just jumping right back into his arms is because you realize how messed up this is. He jumps from you back to his ex, then jumps from his ex back to you. Sure, he's willing to make it work right now, but there is no guarantee he will stay forever. His past behavior should make you believe that he'd leave you again. He might be someone who just needs to have a girlfriend. Whether it's you or his ex doesn't matter.
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 The way I see it, you have two choices: 1. You can take him back. Things will be "good" for a little while until he decides he can pursue others again and blame you again for him leaving, and you'll be left even more devastated. 2. You can give him he proverbial "Eff you!" and leave the situation with the satisfaction that you had the self respect enough to do what will benefit you more in the long run. Otherwise, it seems it's just a matter of time before he does this again.
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