mtber75 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 We had a group outing with some friends over the weekend and I really connected with this woman in the group. She said any time we can go camping and hiking together in the future. I got her number and we been texting on and off for a few days like fun stuff, nothing serious. I asked if she was free next week for a hike or food? She replied back I'll let you know how my work stuff turns out. It been crazy at work. I have done this too where I said I'll let a you know. I always got back to them because I was legit busy with work. I read that if a girl does this, more often than not its her blowing you off.... If this is the case, I'm pretty disappointed because we really seem to click! She even asked about my family and all that! What is up with that! Should I wait for her to reply back? It could be that she is legit busy because she told me that she has a real ******* for a boss that makes her work hard! I think I'll call her one more time!
PegNosePete Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 She said she would let you know. Let her get back to you. If she lets you know, all systems go. If she doesn't, then she has let you know that she's not interested. 4
fitnessfan365 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Give her a week to get back to you. If you don't hear anything by then, try following up once more with another date invite. If she gives you another maybe, don't ask her out again. 2
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I have a hard time understanding how things can get crazy at work. I have times where it gets crazy where I work but come 5 o'clock it's done and I can do the heck I want so what is the problem unless you are working overtime all the time? We had a group outing with some friends over the weekend and I really connected with this woman in the group. She said any time we can go camping and hiking together in the future. I got her number and we been texting on and off for a few days like fun stuff, nothing serious. I asked if she was free next week for a hike or food? She replied back I'll let you know how my work stuff turns out. It been crazy at work. I have done this too where I said I'll let a you know. I always got back to them because I was legit busy with work. I read that if a girl does this, more often than not its her blowing you off.... If this is the case, I'm pretty disappointed because we really seem to click! She even asked about my family and all that! What is up with that! Should I wait for her to reply back? It could be that she is legit busy because she told me that she has a real ******* for a boss that makes her work hard! I think I'll call her one more time!
GTR King Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Just let her come to you. if she hasn't given you date within a week just message her one more time then leave it and go from there.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Give her a week to get back to you. If you don't hear anything by then, try following up once more with another date invite. If she gives you another maybe, don't ask her out again. This. In general it sounds like she MIGHT be interested, or just being noncommittal and not wanting to sound dismissive. Hard to tell. All you can do is wait, and like FF said if she is still evasive when you ask again, don't ask again.
Lansing Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I agree. Don't ask her out again so quickly. She asked for time, give her time. Regarding getting busy at work.. not everyone works a 9 to 5 job and I definitely know the feeling of being overwhelmed and not having time for anything. I had a girl use the "work is really" busy excuse on me and I thought it was legit because she had started a new job/etc. Well, I left it for a while and tried once more and she was still "busy". No effort on her part since then so I moved on completely. I will still see her around in social settings I am sure but I won't ask her out again.
sid3 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 It sounds like you may have a little neediness trying to take over. Over thinking things seems to be our own worst enemy. Been there. I don't care for anything PUA related, but I do have multiple women on my mind when I'm not dating one exclusively, meaning there's too many to spend any wasted time thinking about what one meant when she says (blank)
Author mtber75 Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 It sounds like you may have a little neediness trying to take over. Over thinking things seems to be our own worst enemy. Been there. I don't care for anything PUA related, but I do have multiple women on my mind when I'm not dating one exclusively, meaning there's too many to spend any wasted time thinking about what one meant when she says (blank) Neediness hardly! It been almost a week since I last texted her. I may be over thinking this a bit though because I was sure that we had a connection! I spent the entire weekend with her (part of a group) and she was eager to go out with me again in the future (I ask directly if she wants to go out and she said sure anytime). If she is blowing me off, what changed?
aloneinaz Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Neediness hardly! It been almost a week since I last texted her. I may be over thinking this a bit though because I was sure that we had a connection! I spent the entire weekend with her (part of a group) and she was eager to go out with me again in the future (I ask directly if she wants to go out and she said sure anytime). If she is blowing me off, what changed? Some people are not good at rejection in person. They are anti-confrontational. In my experiences and that w/friends, if you're interested in meeting up w/someone, you'd never reply with "I'll get back to you". In my opinion, you asked her out once and she wouldn't commit. I wouldn't contact her again. If she contacts you, then depending on the conversation, decide if asking her again is worth prudent.
Juha Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 It sounds like she is not that interested in you. If she was very interested in you she would have made plans when you asked her. See if she gets back to you in a week or so, if she does not then get in touch once more about going out and if she again does not make plans then throw her number away and write her off. If her interest grows or wonders where you went she will be in touch. Don't waste time on someone who is not interested in you or won't make plans.
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