Eggplant Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 There is nothing wrong in wanting to be loved and having a partner to share your life experiences with but believing in soul-mates and holding out for them, is in my opinion a recipe for disaster. What happen when the person you thought was your soul-mate turns out not to be? What do you do? Look for another soul-mate? You can have good an enriching relationships where both of you grow together and build something for yourselves. Whether or not you stay together, you come out of it as better man and woman; they add to your life and you add to theirs. Anyways, that is my point of viewOn the other hand, what happens if you don't hold out and then a soul-mate-type comes along after the fact? It's better not to make promises you can't keep.
jen1447 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 100% happiness isn't a thing. I think happiness is really an umbrella term for the positive components of life - security, fulfillment, comfort, contentedness, occupation, satisfaction, etc. Therefore the 'amount' of happiness you have could be reflected by how many of those things you have.
SammySammy Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Happiness is a state of mind. Happiness is not having the right combination of people and things in your life. Babies can be happy. They haven't accomplished anything. They own nothing. They are not in a romantic relationship. Yet, I've seen completely joyous and content babies. Poor people can be happy. I've heard about people traveling to some of the "poor" places in the world and are surprised at how happy the people are. Yes, single people can be totally happy. Being happy is not dependent upon who you have or what you have. It's a state of mind. A way of being. A choice. 2
Rejected Rosebud Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 I don't think 100% happy is possible. Also people who feel like they can't life their life or they have a giant hole that they want another person to fill are not good candidates for partners, you want your partner to be a whole person who knows how to live!!!
Torii Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Happiness is a state of mind. Happiness is not having the right combination of people and things in your life. Babies can be happy. They haven't accomplished anything. They own nothing. They are not in a romantic relationship. Yet, I've seen completely joyous and content babies. Poor people can be happy. I've heard about people traveling to some of the "poor" places in the world and are surprised at how happy the people are. Yes, single people can be totally happy. Being happy is not dependent upon who you have or what you have. It's a state of mind. A way of being. A choice. I agree. Happiness is a state of mind. You can be in the worst of situations and experience happiness. You can be in the best of situations and experience loneliness. How you interpret and perceive daily life has to do with how we were raised as babies, what we figured out as we grew up and the ability to do self-exploration in your life. Somebody once told me, and I'll never forget this: If you don't know who you are, if you don't know why you do what you do and why you feel the way you do, you'll never achieve the actual fulfillment that happiness can give you. Happiness takes many forms, just like love does and it is experienced in many different ways as well. How I experience happiness, what makes me happy is different from what makes you happy. I compare this to my love of reading, the comfort I get out of being along with a great book. Sometimes we get so consumed about providing happiness to others that we forget about ourselves, we forget about the basic needs in our lives that have a huge impact on our success rate to feel happy.
sportygirl89 Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 My ex left me when I was sick two years ago and have been single since. Don't get me wrong I've dated people and such but never fully committed to people. I couldn't believe how selfish my ex was leaving me while I was sick. But I now realize it's just as selfish to stay with someone you may not see a future with. As much as I hate him for what he did at least he didn't lead me on. I am just waiting for someone who has same qualities of my ex (and most guys don't have it--chivalry, good manners, treating their woman well when with them, etc). I want same qualities, but better, and someone who wants to be with me (he had PTSD from having been in military). It seems to be so hard these days with how casual dating is. While I'm waiting for that person to arrive in my life, I'm not stressing out worrying about Mr. Right. In the last two years I got two cats and one amazing dog. That is all I need until Mr. Future for good comes into my life. I go to the gym, hang out with friends, and volunteer.
Camaro Guy Posted June 3, 2015 Posted June 3, 2015 It's a key component of Maslow's pyramid to reach self-actualization. A good relationship will do you wonders. However, if you keep getting duds that prevent you from progression, you're better off just being single.
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