tiredofthecrap Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Just wondering how many of you have sought revenge for being hurt from lies and how it made you feel? I haven't myself, but my sister did on my behalf, and I am so angry, even though I am grateful that I found out the information that I did, I surely wouldn't have found out anything had I waited for him to tell me. I'm extremely hurt, but I don't think I could ever possibly do something so evil. But when I think about all the women that this guy is and has been lying to especially to his wife, I am torn. I have another post I think it's in the Long Distance Relationship forum about my situation if you wanted to know what happened.
slubberdegullion Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Been there, done that. To make a VERY long story VERY short... Got shafted... sought revenge... got revenge... didn't help, I was still in the same boat. Much time and energy was wasted. "Success is the best revenge" - French proverb (http://brianx.com/quotes.html)
Linlin Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Everyone fantasizes about revenge. It is another thing to do it. Too much trouble to get into. TIME is the best revenge. Revenge is a dish best served cold. This was my favourite quote when I split with my ex when I found out he was having an affair with a friend of ours. "The love of his Life." Well when I kicked him out and told him he could have her. It was over in 5 months. Now my life is fairly awesome , his sucks and hers sucks . The are now reaping what they sowed. "Sorry about your luck!!!" Remember it is karma. What comes around goes around.
ConfusedInOC Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Revenge? What's the point? It would just bring you down to their level.
Moose Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Revenge? What's the point? It would just bring you down to their level. Had I known that in my partying days.....I probably wouldn't of beat this punk half to death for braggin' on raping a 15 year old. Should've just turned him in......instead we shared a cell for the weekend.......stupid, stupid, stupid.......
ConfusedInOC Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by Moose Had I known that in my partying days.....I probably wouldn't of beat this punk half to death for braggin' on raping a 15 year old. Should've just turned him in......instead we shared a cell for the weekend.......stupid, stupid, stupid....... D'oh!
goodnbad Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 I'm with you, Linlin. Time always takes care of the bad weeds. Sadly, sometimes this may take decades, but yeah, it catches up to them, sometimes in a quite poetic fashion. I was always a little on the heavy side as a teen, not huge you understand, but maybe 20 pounds overweight. But my best friend was maybe 60 pounds over. There was this girl who was part of the "in" crowd, very popular and thin. She harassed my friend (not to mention anyone else deemed worthy) on several occasions, and once made a comment when we were together about us being in the 'fat club'. I always hated her with a passion but being a pretty shy person, never did anything about it (although I did daydream on many occasions!). I saw her 10 years later and she was hugely overweight. Perhaps nearing 100 pounds over. I have to admit that my first thought was: haha, how's it feel? I gloated big time over that. And then, I felt a little shame for that, and wondered if maybe she was now a little more humble about other peoples' problems. But I won't go so far as to say I felt any sympathy for her. Pretty evil thought, I know, but she was such a major cruel b*tch, she got what she deserved, IMO. So time did indeed get revenge for us, and we didn't have to have the police come calling for it to happen. goodnbad
RecordProducer Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Revenge will make him angry and he might wish to hurt you. I have fantasized about revenge a lot but never did it. I didn't even do it to the person who molested me as a child. When my ex-husband left me, I fantasized about finding someone just to make him jealous. It never happened while I was in love with him. Four years after we split I am happy with a guy I will marry and my ex now doesn't want to let my kids out of the country (my BF is a foreigner). I am annoyed by his jealousy and might actually have problems because of him. We're all vulnerable and if you express hate towards someone and hurt him bad, he will find his own way to hurt you when you least expect.
RecordProducer Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by Moose Had I known that in my partying days.....I probably wouldn't of beat this punk half to death for braggin' on raping a 15 year old. Should've just turned him in......instead we shared a cell for the weekend.......stupid, stupid, stupid....... Well you revenged by kicking his ass, but it was the wrong choice. Reporting him would also be a revenge (punishment), but the right one.
johan Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Had I known that in my partying days.....I probably wouldn't of beat this punk half to death for braggin' on raping a 15 year old. Should've just turned him in......instead we shared a cell for the weekend.......stupid, stupid, stupid....... I think revenge should be differentiated from seeking justice or just getting angry at someone and trying to hurt them. Revenge would be the right term in your case, Moose, if you had been the 15 year old. I hope you don't try to get me back for bugging you about semantics.
ziggue Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 The only thing I have ever done is send nasty messages to my Ex and his girlfriend after he left me for her. The SMSing only lasted a week or two and that was because I was very hurt and felt like I was lied to throughout our whole relationship. While I was getting over what happened did the no contact thing (it does work if you stick to it) and have never looked back since.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 I've had some very nice revenge moments, and I regret nary a one. You have to be careful with that sort of thing though. If you are taking revenge on someone else's behalf, you have to understand that your efforts will often not be appreciated and its not unusual for people to want to take out the messenger as well when they unleash a blinding swath of anger.
XNemesisX Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I don't regret any of the revenge I have got on some people. Not at all. Moose, I think you sound awesome for doing that! Ok, but anyway. I got revenge on my ex. One thing is for sure...I don't take crap off people who treat me like sh*t. It's a loooong story but yeah....I chose the username Nemesis for a reason when I first signed up on LS
CurlyIam Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 There was this very popular love song "les histoires d'amour finissent mal, en général"- love affairs generally end up badly! I also believe that life takes care of everyone. There's absolutely no need to do one thing about it. I have never gotten revenge on anyone. All I did was write some nasty emails to my ex. He started it so we were even. We didn't take it too personally, were both upset and hurt. Saw eachother once, had dinner and then when he saw there was no chance he could ever get me back, asked me to go NC. I respect that. I have lots of faith in karma. On the other hand, no one disrespected me, so maybe I'm not the best person to listen to.
Devildog Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Getting revenge is not the answer. It isn't going to accomplish much beyond making you look immature. And it isn't going to change the situation. Besides, if you just be patient, give it some time, you will find that eventually karma takes care of itself. Just remember, I am evil, and I am advising you not to go for revenge on an ex.
Mz. Pixie Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 DD- you are far from evil- You're a sweetie pie- but I won't tell.......... Karma is a great equalizer.............and getting revenge might mess with your karma so don't do it!
NiCoLe20 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 i got revenge on oneof my x's, and even though it was wrong, i felt really good!! lol... it was kind of immature what i did but it was funny! one ofmy ex's was starting to hook up with a 16 year old. yea.. sad. he was 22, i was 19 and she was 16. she looked older though but thats besides the point. a few days after i broke up with him, me and my friend went to the grocery store and bought diapers and baby bottles! (this showed that he was hooking up with a baby, a young girl, and that he looked pathetic) we went to his car real late at nite and taped the diapers all over his car!!! it was the funniest thing! we put a baby bottle by his window too... they stopped talking after a week. good times!
ConfusedInOC Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by Devildog Getting revenge is not the answer. It isn't going to accomplish much beyond making you look immature. And it isn't going to change the situation. Semper Fi and AMEN, brother. Revenge does NOTHING but drop you down to their level. Besides, if you just be patient, give it some time, you will find that eventually karma takes care of itself. I wholeheartedly believe that if you treat people badly that it will eventually come back to haunt you. And it's not just karma that does it. It's the simple fact that people who do bad things to others will most certainly find themselves without a friend. All revenge does is feed hate. Just remember, I am evil, and I am advising you not to go for revenge on an ex. You're a very smart man, DD. Semper Fi, Bro!
FolderWife Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Yeah...I sought revenge once...it's not that sweet. In a nutshell, there was this hoochy who had a boyfriend. Well...*sigh*..this poor hoochy couldn't decide if she was ready for a relationship, so she ditched her boyfriend and they became "friends" So he and I started going out. We never became official, because as soon as the poor indecisive hoochi found out that her "friend" had found someone else, she made a bee line to get him back. And she did...he stopped going out with me, and went running back to her...as all men in my home town did So what did I do? I continued to flirt with him. And one night, we made out in his car...while she was still dating him. After I had him like that, I dumped him like a hot rock...I just wanted to prove to her that even though she THOUGHT she had taken him from me, all she got was a sneaky cheating jerk! hee hee but looking back...she never found out as far as I know...so what purpose did it serve except to let me know that I was ditched by a cheating loser.... so...I've never reaped sweet revenge..my revenge was bitter.
whichwayisup Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I like to think it, but I would never follow through on it. Fun to think about though!!! This one guy I used to work with was SUCH an A-hole. The things he would do on purpose to piss people off, ya know the kind...Never works hard but tries to look like he is...Kisses the boss's ass and gets him coffee all the time...Anyway, one day he pissed me off so bad I nearly (glad I didn't) put sugar in his gas tank. I hear that would really f up his car. Turned out 2 weeks later he pissed the wrong person off and he got introduced to the meat sandwich fist! He went down like a sac of tater's! (Both the puncher and punchee were in s***loads of trouble at work for that, but it was worth it! SO that guy said...We all shook his hand and said he had it coming to him and it was only a matter of time!)
XNemesisX Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I'm almost embarrassed to tell everyone about the revenge I got on my ex but oh well here goes... This happened March '04. I told my ex that I was pregnant and not only did he stop all contact with me out of nowhere but he also went around screwing any girl that was willing while I was at home by myself worried to death about the pregnancy. (we had been together for well over a year, and were very serious up until that point). Ok, to make matters even worse he went around calling me a psycho to EVERYONE and saying that I was making up being pregnant. (I sure wasn't). Well, me and a girlfriend egged his car, completely did the car in and put a picture on his car window that had a donkey f*cking an elephant on it. (My ex was president of college republicans). Also, I broke in his email account and sent emails out to everyone telling the truth about what he did. My ex tried to make himself out to be a wonderful Christian republican but really he was just a scumbag. I was sick and tired of him being such a fake to everyone so I got the word out. I ended up losing the baby probably greatly due to the intense emotional stress that I was under at the thought of my *wonderful* boyfriend just cutting and running when I got pregnant. And yeah, I felt extreme hate at the time of my revenge tactics. We did end up getting back together a few months later though...like an idiot I took him back. I also think that he somewhat understood the revenge I got on him. But the crap started resurfacing itself again. He became even more abusive and violent than before.... 6 months after we got back together we broke up. I found out that he had cheated on me with even more people and lied about it. He was also still going behind my back and telling people lies about me. So, I slept with his best friend and also made it a point to get my side of the story out..about his beanie weanie and all Dang....I'm evil.
faux Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I got my revenge, if one could call it that, with one person. Words are very powerful things, and when strung together with careful thought can motivate an individual to do drastic things. I explained to an ex of mine how horrible I believed her to be, but I chose the words very carefully. Shortly thereafter, she attempted to commit suicide, suffered from a "mental breakdown", was committed to a short-term mental hospital, then shipped into a long-term hospital. I could not be held responsible in any way for what happened; this woman chose to hurt herself of her own free will. I did not forsee that my words would upset this woman so much, and I certainly did not plan to say something to her in order to drive her insane. I simply wanted to express to her how deeply she hurt me, and then move on with my life. Apparently, I expressed my distaste for her rather clearly.
XNemesisX Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 faux, you have me intrigued now. What sort of things did you tell her? You got some damn talent to break someone down that good. I know this sounds bad, but I'm actually pretty impressed right now.
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