Mark1 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I work as a waiter while I'm in school. A girl, Danielle, about 21 started working there about a week after I started. I could tell she liked me off the bat. Always talking to me, touching me, saying we should hang out etc. Unfortunately, I am not attracted to her at all. She's nice but just not my type. I've made sure to shut it down and make sure we're only work friends. Yesterday, a new girl Lara started working there. She's 18 and I want to hook up with her (Im 25). We've talked alot and I make her laugh pretty easily but I dont want to get in her way too much because she just started and needs to learn, The three of us were talking about signs (I dont believe this crap but Danielle does) and I jokingly asked Danielle if my sign and Lara's sign means we are compatible. Danielle laughed and said, "oh cmon WhichCar, you think you have a chance with HER?" Lara's face turned bright red. Not a good sign IMO for my prospects for hooking up with Lara. On the other hand, maybe Danielle thinks I DO have a chance with Lara, feels jealous, and therefore put me down like that. A bigger issue is that Lara is 18 so I can't take her out for drinks. We also both live at home. I was thinking to invite her over on Friday (my family is out of town) after work to hang out and watch netflix, and have some alcohol there already. The thing is, I don't want working with her to be awkward if she says no, especially since this Friday will be only the 2nd time I've met her. What should I do?
losangelena Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Have you ever heard the term, "don't **** where you eat?" I would leave sexual relations completely separate from the work environment. Sure, you're worried right now if things get awkward if she shoots down your advances. But how much more awkward will it be in the aftermath of a potential hook up? When she wants more, but you're happy with a one and done? Think through the entire scenario before proceeding. 1
Lansing Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 In ppppwhere I live, if someone can't legally buy alcohol then it is also illegal to buy alcohol for them or give them alcohol . I agree you should find someone else outside of work to "hook up" with 1
adamastor Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Ok here are my 2 scents about it. I don't see anything wrong with you hooking up with a girl from work. It's just a job while you're in school so not a big deal it's not like you are the CEO of some corporation. Actually the workplace is one of the places where many people meet their SO. In school it can lead to drama, at work it can lead to drama, off the street it's unappropriate, I mean you have to meet them somewhere even if some people object to it. Since she's underage I would refrain from giving her alcohol just to make sure you stay out of trouble and invite her to hang out at your house. Good luck! 1
Popsicle Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I think she blushed from embarrassment. I mean, I would be embarrassed too if a guy said that to me at work. It seems normal to me. I also agree that Danielle is jealous. I think you should not ask her out so fast and let her learn at work. You can flirt and be playful with her at work and build up some tension (women love that) while also guaging her interest. Once she's learned and you both seem more comfortable, ask her out. And refrain from giving her alcohol and dogging her out, if you were thinking about doing that. That's just mean, immature and also makes work awkward. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 (edited) My last relationship was a work one.... Its not a great idea, and I've sworn I'll never do it again.... But damn it can be so much fun. If you're in a lower paying job, I say go for it. Ask her out for drinks sometime and ramp up some flirting on her and see if she's receptive. Oh she's 18.... Well do a public date and ask her later on if she wants to come back and have a drink with you. Just make sure she doesn't drive. Risky? Yes. Although, Me and my last gf drank together when she was 20, but she didn't drive so it worked ok. Just whatever you do don't get her smashed or she can't consent... Don't be that guy. Edited June 1, 2015 by barcode88
hollycraze Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 If you're attracted to her, you shouldn't be embarrassed. You said it would be awkward if she rejects you because she's your workmate...that's the risk! If you really want to hook up with her, take the risk! If you're afraid of the risk, leave her immediately! But watching Netflix & having alcohol for the first date is not a wise choice...why not going out to somewhere fun & adventurous, like beach/park/theme park/game center... btw, I'm a professional Dating coach...send me message if you want to know more...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 If you're attracted to her, you shouldn't be embarrassed. You said it would be awkward if she rejects you because she's your workmate...that's the risk! If you really want to hook up with her, take the risk! If you're afraid of the risk, leave her immediately! But watching Netflix & having alcohol for the first date is not a wise choice...why not going out to somewhere fun & adventurous, like beach/park/theme park/game center... btw, I'm a professional Dating coach...send me message if you want to know more... I think doing something like going to get ice cream and taking a walk, or something really light and fun to set the mood, and then AFTER ask her back to his place to watch a movie and have a drink together... That would be perfect if he's looking to hookup Yes giving minors under 21 alcohol is bad - blah blah.. Most countries 18 is legal limit and kids under 21 drink anyway. The only thing he has to watch out for is making sure she doesn't get caught and rat him out, could be a legal problem especially if she gets behind a wheel.
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