Bobbi7 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 So.. I decided to put "causal sex" on my OLD profile, and the messages came flooding in. However, the majority of the guys want me to go over to their house to do the deed. Well, I don't feel safe going to a strangers house, especially if its a guy I met off the internet. I don't know, should I forget about causal sex?
CarrieT Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I don't know, should I forget about causal sex? Yes. Go back to dating for a connection but, internally, you KNOW that you would be open to casual sex with a guy if you like him. Putting it out there just gets you what you got: Horny Guys looking for a quick and easy lay. 2
smackie9 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 You play a very dangerous game by meeting strangers for sex. You are best to look for casual ''dating''. At least with dating you can meet, go out together, get to know one another, let a friend meet them, even do a back ground check, before sex. Or you can look for a FWB with someone you already know. 3
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 If you want the best casual sex, treat it like a normal date, go out for drinks together and find out whether you have any chemistry with each other, and more importantly that he seems like a trustworthy guy. After that, let the sparks fly.... Haha. Or like Smackie said, do a FWB with a male friend/acquaintance that you know is a trustworthy person. 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 The OP used the term 'Causal' three times... might one assume she's actually trying to cause something...? 1
Gaeta Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Even for sexual encounters you meet them first in a public place over a coffee. Do not go to their home, you have no idea what type of trap you could end up in. share the cost of a hotel room. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Even for sexual encounters you meet them first in a public place over a coffee. Do not go to their home, you have no idea what type of trap you could end up in. share the cost of a hotel room. Ehh... Well I guess there are some weirdos out there, you never know. After you meet and establish the other person is safe, you could always go to one of your places. Hotel seems a bit overkill, if you're that worried you could let a friend know where you're going. 2
Gaeta Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Ehh... Well I guess there are some weirdos out there, you never know. After you meet and establish the other person is safe, you could always go to one of your places. Hotel seems a bit overkill, if you're that worried you could let a friend know where you're going. I am not going to some dude's home and then learn he's been filming us or we're direct live online or he's got 3 buddies in his closet or...use your imagination
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I am not going to some dude's home and then learn he's been filming us or we're direct live online or he's got 3 buddies in his closet or...use your imagination It's good to be safe, but no need to be super paranoid lol. If you don't trust his place can always suggest going back to your place where you have control.
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 It's good to be safe, but no need to be super paranoid lol. If you don't trust his place can always suggest going back to your place where you have control. Really? Have you any idea how many women are raped in their own homes....? 1
oberkeat Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 After having casual sex with women I met online, I realized it really wasn't what I'm looking for. I had sex with girls I really didn't find interesting on an intellectual or personal level. I want a deeper emotional connection, i.e. An actual relationship, not just sex.
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Really? Have you any idea how many women are raped in their own homes....? (Too late to edit above post): The ‘myth of the safe home’ is well established in the literature surrounding violence against women. Evidence from the current study confirms that women are far more likely to be sexually victimised in their own home than any other location Source.
Gloria25 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Impressive.... You are offering free sex and these lazy farts are so cheap and lazy that they won't even get off their arses and drive to your place and/or meet you for a cup of coffee... I need to switch genders...I really do. I was watching some lesbian porn the other nite and I believe I could really please a woman. I could make a woman happy. Even as a woman.... Women deserve to be treated better than this. If I were a man and some woman offered me casual sex, I would be grateful enough to get off my arse, show up at her place and/or meet her in public and at least buy her a drink and/or a cup of coffee. Well, if I showed up at her place, I'd at least bring a small bottle of wine or fruity-girly drink for her.
smackie9 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Nothing wrong with just dating and see where it goes. You can always stipulate after a few dates or even on the first date you would like things to be casual and take it from there.
smackie9 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 These types are probably not the type any woman would date in the first place. The majority are prob losers that can't get a woman and too cheap to pay a hooker. 2
Popsicle Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 As a woman, if you just want causal sex, why do you need online dating? You can easily get that around every corner. Just go down to the local bar and proposition a guy you think looks interesting. 2
Gaeta Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 As a woman, if you just want causal sex, why do you need online dating? You can easily get that around every corner. Just go down to the local bar and proposition a guy you think looks interesting. Then bring the stranger home or go to his place? What's the difference? This guy probably IS online anyway. People off line are the same as online
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Really? Have you any idea how many women are raped in their own homes....? Well yeah there's always the risk! You have to meet the dude somewhere public and try get a good read on him and determine if they're safe or not. Of course you could also wait until the 2nd or 3rd date and get a more accurate read on them. Or you could just FWB a friend/acquaintance - however If I recall correctly, statistics said that most rapes the victim and the rapist know each other. So according to those statistics that might be a bad idea too! Heck you could get raped in the hotel! You shouldn't let the fear of what could possibly happen prevent you from doing what you want to do. You should take precautions though to minimize the chance of anything happening. 1
Redhead14 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 So.. I decided to put "causal sex" on my OLD profile, and the messages came flooding in. However, the majority of the guys want me to go over to their house to do the deed. Well, I don't feel safe going to a strangers house, especially if its a guy I met off the internet. I don't know, should I forget about causal sex? Seriously? You put down casual sex, and most of the guys want you to go to their house and have sex? C'mon!
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Seriously? You put down casual sex, and most of the guys want you to go to their house and have sex? C'mon! Most of those are probably desperate virgins and would be a pretty bad lay anyway... Any guy with any social smarts knows you need to properly date a woman when she's a stranger and make her feel comfortable and secure... That can be easy as just meeting at the bar and having a couple drinks for an hour or two
Elam Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 So.. I decided to put "causal sex" on my OLD profile, and the messages came flooding in. However, the majority of the guys want me to go over to their house to do the deed. Well, I don't feel safe going to a strangers house, especially if its a guy I met off the internet. I don't know, should I forget about causal sex? No, you shouldn't give up on casual sex. Its great, and there are a lot of guys out there who'd love to have sex with you, and if you go forward with this, I'll have to praise you for doing god's work. Tell them you want to meet-up in a motel or something. They'll probably pay for the room.
Redhead14 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Most of those are probably desperate virgins and would be a pretty bad lay anyway... Any guy with any social smarts knows you need to properly date a woman when she's a stranger and make her feel comfortable and secure... That can be easy as just meeting at the bar and having a couple drinks for an hour or two Maybe, maybe not. If you put it out there fast, the message is they are going to get it fast. Either you're down with the whole message or you're not. It's the same as saying "I don't want sex on a first date, but if you spend an hour or so with me, I might get drunk enough to do it and then play coy and recoil to recover my virtue".
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Maybe, maybe not. If you put it out there fast, the message is they are going to get it fast. Either you're down with the whole message or you're not. It's the same as saying "I don't want sex on a first date, but if you spend an hour or so with me, I might get drunk enough to do it and then play coy and recoil to recover my virtue". I'd like to ask the Women on here... Would any of you go straight to have sex with a guy you just met before meeting in public? This is of course if you're looking just for casual sex.
Redhead14 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I'd like to ask the Women on here... Would any of you go straight to have sex with a guy you just met before meeting in public? This is of course if you're looking just for casual sex. If I were just looking for casual sex, no, I wouldn't. I wouldn't go anywhere that wasn't public with a stranger ever. You need to add a caveat -- I'm looking for casual sex with someone I've spent a little time with.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 If I were just looking for casual sex, no, I wouldn't. I wouldn't go anywhere that wasn't public with a stranger ever. You need to add a caveat -- I'm looking for casual sex with someone I've spent a little time with. Well yeah but the OP is asking in regards to OLD where it's presumed it will be a total stranger each time.
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