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She essentially blew off two opportunities to see him again, with no offer for alternative day.

 

 

I only saw one opportunity she couldn't make (the festival), not two.

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I only saw one opportunity she couldn't make (the festival), not two.

I did this after a 2nd date.

 

I never got a response back, but honestly it HELPED me move on.

I mean if the girl can't even message me back.

 

Well, then I rather not waste my time on her. I have had a few women actually TELL me why they weren't interested. In the end, I became friends with those women. We had hit it off as friends, but nothing more.

 

And, honestly, I was okay with that because in the end they provided me some feedback for future dates with other women. And, in the process I made a friend from the other gender, who is going to give me some good info.

 

So I know the feeling of it driving you crazy. But, at some point you just realize the person wasn't that great. She can't even msg you back, so don't waste your time. There are LOADS of women out there that WILL give you time and show interest.

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I only saw one opportunity she couldn't make (the festival), not two.

 

First opportunity was when he offered to cook her a Thai dinner....she blew it off.... never even responded to the offer. The festival was her second opp.

 

It's in his original post.

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First opportunity was when he offered to cook her a Thai dinner....she blew it off.... never even responded to the offer. The festival was her second opp.

 

It's in his original post.

 

Phew never asked her if he could cook for her. He made a hypothetical.

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First opportunity was when he offered to cook her a Thai dinner....she blew it off.... never even responded to the offer. The festival was her second opp.

 

It's in his original post.

 

He never asked her if he could cook for her. He jokingly made a hypothetical.

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He never asked her if he could cook for her. He jokingly made a hypothetical.

 

Lol....that's your interpretation. If it was only a hypothetical why did he expect/hope for a response back?

 

He said he asked her "half-jokingly" (which also means "half-seriously) that is *not* a hypothetical. And IF she had been into it, into him, she would have been all over it... half-joking/half-seriously or not. That is how I interpret it anyway.

 

Anyway, it's silly for us to be debating about it.

 

It is clear she is not interested regardless. He knows it and is cool with it.

 

That is all that matters.

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Lol....that's your interpretation. If it was only a hypothetical why did he expect/hope for a response back?

 

He said he asked her "half-jokingly" (which also means "half-seriously) that is *not* a hypothetical. And IF she had been into it, into him, she would have been all over it... half-joking/half-seriously or not. That is how I interpret it anyway.

 

Anyway, it's silly for us to be debating about it.

 

It is clear she is not interested regardless. He knows it and is cool with it.

 

That is all that matters.

 

It's not clear to me, and maybe not to her either. That was my point.

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Um, if you did not get a second date, chances are she does not want to talk to you... let's not be a stalker, okay?!

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It's not clear to me, and maybe not to her either. That was my point.

 

Fair enough...:)

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I don't recommend asking why you didn't get a 2nd date. I recommend asking her out again. If she declines again, then leave it alone.

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Your first date with seemed boring...yupz, she said she had fun...but not attraction-building enough! What if I told you...movie/dinner on first date is do old-school, and boring! Cute girls have experienced this for 175th times with 175 different guys...so what makes you special?

 

My best advice: stop talking/texting her for a while...go out with another girl...when you meet her again, be someone new with attractive characters & lifestyle...

 

Send me message if you want to know more...

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Your first date with seemed boring...yupz, she said she had fun...but not attraction-building enough! What if I told you...movie/dinner on first date is do old-school, and boring! Cute girls have experienced this for 175th times with 175 different guys...so what makes you special?

 

My best advice: stop talking/texting her for a while...go out with another girl...when you meet her again, be someone new with attractive characters & lifestyle...

 

Send me message if you want to know more...

 

Lol I'll only do a movie date if I know there is going to be PDA/Cuddling or something... Otherwise it's the worst date idea ever.

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