Butterfly88 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Me and my ex were quite different but I accepted our differences because I lvoed him so much, after our last big row he said it was over. He said were too different and don't work together it's been two weeks of me constantly hounding him with texts and calls sometimes he comes back with that he misses me but breakups are suppose to hurt and that he still seems cold. He's adament we shouldn't be together and the relationship is spiteful and untrusting. The untrusting comes mostly from him he had a bad childhood so I think he doesn't believe people want good for him but he used to constantly accuse me of cheating which sometimes it would be so ludicrous it would make me paranoid that he was doing something he constantly went through my phone but I never went through his. But I was intensely in love with him , it wasn't going sour and we weren't slowly falling out of love we still foundeach other incredibly attractive and I'm just left broken he really seems like he's made up his mind and he says things like 'you need to let go now' 'I miss you but we get caught up in ourselves and we soon are back to arguing' but why am I the one who's accepted him never trusting me and always made up and now he's just ended it i need strength how do I get over this? I'm crying all day every day calling him texting him... I want him back so badly and he doesn't seem to care. Someone please help 1
browntorontonian Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 (edited) hi dont be so sad. I know exactly how you feel. Its been a week since my gf broke up with me after 17 months. I never suspected her with anything and she would never suspect me but she always had a thing for her ex she felt like it was a path she had to try and she finally wants to pursue that. Imagine how i feel after being with her for so long and taking care of her on her worst days. I babysat her, supported her in every way, avoided speaking to other girls so i wont get mixed feelings and this is what i end up with. I feel like texting her and calling her but im trying so had to control that urge. Please dont do it its a bad idea. Sometimes its better to let them go for our own sake. While i was trying to make her happy i realized i wasn't making myself happy. And you cant satisfy someone else if you are not happy with yourself. EVERYTHING you wanna say to him tell me, it will help to let things out. Every remorse or regret you are feeling you should share your heart will feel lighter. Edited May 31, 2015 by browntorontonian
dumbass2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 #1 thing to do right now, without question, is stop calling and texting him. It is going to be hard, but you have to try and find some other things to do right now. Talk with a good friend or family member. Post on here, but do not try and contact him any further. You are only pushing him further away and not helping yourself. Give this some time and we will try to offer advice and talk to you as well. It is very fresh, so you are going through acting and feeling just like most that go through this, so it's normal.
Thecondor1991 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Unfortunately if he has it made up in his mind that you two aren't meant to be together, then there is literally nothing you can do about it. Only he can decide if he wants you back or not. That being said I don't think you should sit around waiting for him to come back. Stop texting and calling him for a while, Just give him space, maybe in time he'll realize he needs you, but if he doesn't dont be surprised, instead go hang out with some friends and give yourself some well deserved YOU time. Go work out, read a book, take some bubble baths, or go hiking. Basically go do some stuff that is beneficial to you health and can keep your mind off of him for a bit. If you ever need to talk let me know, I've come to find I'm a hell of a listener
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