TaraMaiden2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Keep all texts and show them to who matters. One: The Police. Two: your family. Three: His boss. If he is sending abusive texts on his company's provider, I'm sure they'd have something to say about that. 4
CountessKerouac Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 "I'm not a f'ing coward like you. I want to dump you to your face because of all your lies and bull****. The One person who shouldn't be giving me any **** and treating me like I'm worth something is the first one to give me **** and brush me off like I'm some piece of ****. F*ck you, ignorant f*ck. Keep ignoring me. It just makes things that much better." You need to stop speaking to him and go somewhere safe. Don't give in to the insanity. Just be safe and if that means involving police don't hesitate to do so. 3
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 Keep all texts and show them to who matters. One: The Police. Two: your family. Three: His boss. If he is sending abusive texts on his company's provider, I'm sure they'd have something to say about that. I'm saving everything. I get what you're saying about notifying his boss but although he works for my service provider, his personal phone is through a different company. It makes me wonder if he did that on purpose. Besides, I want him to go on with his life, not get him fired. He would just come after me for vengeance.
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 You need to stop speaking to him and go somewhere safe. Don't give in to the insanity. Just be safe and if that means involving police don't hesitate to do so. I'm not speaking to him at all. These are a few of the MANY messages that keep coming. When the officer arrives, I'll show hiim/her all of them. 2
Satu Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 "Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need." Source here. 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 In the UK, psychological/verbal abuse is counted as being just as serious,) if not more so, at times), as physical abuse. It is also scheduled shortly, to become an arrestable and chargeable offence, later this year. However, it is still taken extremely seriously, even now, before legislation has been passed. 3
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 "Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need." Source here. Thank you. 1
CarrieT Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Turn your phone off and go to a movie. I'd suggest a double-feature. Stop reading what is on your phone. In fact, why don't you go buy a new phone RIGHT NOW with a different provider? Get a new number. Seriously. 3
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I think that ^^^ is probably the best advice you've received. ETA: With regard to your current predicament. Keep your old phone, and let him think it's the only one you have. Never, ever use it again. Enjoy the movie! 2
katiegrl Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 call the police, now! Show the police all his text messages! He is verbally harassing you which IS against the law here in the U.S. 1
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 Has he hit you or done things like that physically? Have him meet up with you at the lobby of the local police, sheriff or state police station, to officially break with with him in person. He's not going to pull any crap in there. He hasn't hit me but he breaks things and gives the impression that he will get physical if his intimidation tactics don't work. He calls me a lot of nasty names and has made threats via text.
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 Sheriff's Deputy just left. I have a report number and I will add it to the restraining order form. I'm leaving for a while and if he shows up wherever I am, I'll call 911. 3
katiegrl Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 He hasn't hit me but he breaks things and gives the impression that he will get physical if his intimidation tactics don't work. He calls me a lot of nasty names and has made threats via text. Again, show the police those texts....all of them but especially the ones threatening you. That is against the law....they will arrest him....as well they should! It will also send him the message that you are strong and will NOT be messed with!! 3
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 If he's made legit threats like: I'm gonna kill you, etc you can probably get his CCW license pulled. 4
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 If he's made legit threats like: I'm gonna kill you, etc you can probably get his CCW license pulled. Yes, the deputy said the same thing. He said that by filing a restraining order for dating violence, he will likely lose his CCP for at least 90 days. If the judge grants the RO indefinitely, his CCP will be indefinitely suspended as well. He can file for permission to have it reinstated but that will be up to the judge as well. 1
KSCHV Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Well it looks like your on the right path. My thinking though is this guy sounds like he won't go away easy is/would be my fear. I'd be fearful that he might try to kick in your door ect. Might be a good idea to invest in some hardware to protect yourself if you don't already have something. You can't rely on the police to protect you, they're usually a day late and a dollar short when you REALLY need them. Best of luck to you. 3
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 Well it looks like your on the right path. My thinking though is this guy sounds like he won't go away easy is/would be my fear. I'd be fearful that he might try to kick in your door ect. Might be a good idea to invest in some hardware to protect yourself if you don't already have something. You can't rely on the police to protect you, they're usually a day late and a dollar short when you REALLY need them. Best of luck to you. Agreed. I'm on board for filing the RO but I know it's just a piece of paper. Pardon me for repeating myself but he completed a 6-week anger management class last year. The day it was over, he conveniently ran into me at the store. He wanted to tell me all about how he was a new man and have learned so much. Flash forward one year and we're right back in the same pattern. I don't really expect this to be any different. The plan is to move, change my number, and I will probably have to change my car as well. 2
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 CCW...? CCP? Don't know what those are...... Conceal & Carry Permit... We're talking about the fact that he is licensed to carry a gun... and he does carry a gun everywhere he goes. 1
CarrieT Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Conceal & Carry Permit... We're talking about the fact that he is licensed to carry a gun... and he does carry a gun everywhere he goes. Oh, Jesus-Mary-Joseph... Please check with your landlord about ending your lease sooner and getting the heck out of there. 4
KSCHV Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Agreed. I'm on board for filing the RO but I know it's just a piece of paper. Pardon me for repeating myself but he completed a 6-week anger management class last year. The day it was over, he conveniently ran into me at the store. He wanted to tell me all about how he was a new man and have learned so much. Flash forward one year and we're right back in the same pattern. I don't really expect this to be any different. The plan is to move, change my number, and I will probably have to change my car as well. Well do what you have to do, I was just trying to offer some different advise that I hadn't seen mentioned yet. 1
jen1447 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 What state do you live in (I'm assuming Florida), and does he have a criminal record? 1
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 What state do you live in (I'm assuming Florida), and does he have a criminal record? Yes, FL. He has a few speeding tickets and one DUI but no other arrests. 1
katiegrl Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Agreed. I'm on board for filing the RO but I know it's just a piece of paper. Pardon me for repeating myself but he completed a 6-week anger management class last year. The day it was over, he conveniently ran into me at the store. He wanted to tell me all about how he was a new man and have learned so much. Flash forward one year and we're right back in the same pattern. I don't really expect this to be any different. **The plan is to move, change my number, and I will probably have to change my car as well.** High price to pay but it IS necessary.. your safety is what is important here. Lesson learned for next time. A man insults you, belittles you, swears at you even ONCE. you leave! Permanently! It never gets better and if you forgive him....it WILL escalate! Just like it did here. Hard lesson. 1
Author FLfemale Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 High price to pay but it IS necessary.. your safety is what is important here. Lesson learned for next time. A man insults you, belittles you, swears at you even ONCE. you leave! Permanently! It never gets better and if you forgive him....it WILL escalate! Just like it did here. Hard lesson. ***Truth*** 1
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