Arwen82 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Hi, First time on here ... I just wanted opinion from people that are not friends or family because there is more chance of no side taken. My ex broke up 2 years ago ( he was not in love, he was not ready for serious commitment and he broke up with someone few weeks before we met) . He still tried to contact me since then but I was too hurt to talk to him. We got back in touch beginning of the year and he told me he had strong feelings for me ever since and he wants something serious and makes it work but has to sort things to sort out in his life... It's been months and I asked him and he said he had not have a clean cut with a girl that leaves in USA... Although he said he moved on ages ago...He needs to get his feelings over before we get back together , that's he need closure for first part of his life to start the 2nd part... He does not know how long it's gonna take ... It's been months, all he says it's difficult to sort out, that he will sort it out and he loves me ... I don't know why it's taking him so long if he says he loves me and I don't know what to do... I am really confused... I am just thinking why has he not sorted this out ; I have always had feeling for him but it is hard... we can't see each other until he fixes the situation and he can't give me a time scale and he wants to do it properly... I just don't know if he is playing, if he wants to really end it with that girl...
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I don't get the feeling he's serious. If he wants you, he will do his best to get you back. If you want him, give him a deadline. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Good heavens. Where is your self-respect, OP? You're waiting for a guy who is in love with someone else and doesn't when he will be "ready" to be with you. Do you not see how backwards that is? He isn't making a move on you because he's not in love with you. You're the back-up plan. You need to cut ties with him and move on. He isn't into the way you are into him. 5
elaine567 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 We got back in touch beginning of the year and he told me he had strong feelings for me ever since and he wants something serious and makes it work but has to sort things to sort out in his life... Who initiated getting back in touch, him or you?
dyna85 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Stop wasting your time on this loser. He thinks he can keep you on the backburner. Please prove him wrong by continuing on with life with the goal to get over him and to find someone worthy of your attention. This guy is not worth it and wants to keep his options open and therefore he leaves you hanging. Guys who do this aren't serious about you. You deserve to be loved the way you love. Take back your power and start moving on and make it a priority to love yourself and while you're doing this, look for other guys. There are plenty of 'em out there. I don't know how old you are but you sound early twenties. I wish someone told me this sooner. Anyone who keeps you waiting, won't commit, or leaves you hanging is not worth it. They're a waste of time, plain and simple. Don't let this rejection take the wind out of your sails. You have a life to live, and there is someone out there who will fancy you the way you fancy him, but not if you keep clinging to the hope of this guy. You need to open your heart to better possibilities. Snap out of it. Please. Don't waste your time on losers who leave you lying in wait. The fact that he's toyed with your emotions is just one reason why he isn't right for you. Do things that make you happy. You need to let this go. Bigger & better things await.
Gary S Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 It sounds like he's interested in another woman. You can't love two people at once, so that means he does not love you. That's okay! There are more fish in the sea. 1
rocketman122 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 something suspicious is happening. you say he told you he loves you. his heart should be with you and he should want to be with you and move on from the ex. somethings fishy here on why its taking him so long. either: -hes not serious as it seems -hes still messing with the other girl and keepng you in standby mode -maybe what he says is sincere but as a guy I dont see this situation as kosher. 1
Author Arwen82 Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 I did not contact him since we split the first time...
Satu Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 You are plan B, the fallback girl. Waste no more time on him. 1
Redhead14 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Hi, First time on here ... I just wanted opinion from people that are not friends or family because there is more chance of no side taken. My ex broke up 2 years ago ( he was not in love, he was not ready for serious commitment and he broke up with someone few weeks before we met) . He still tried to contact me since then but I was too hurt to talk to him. We got back in touch beginning of the year and he told me he had strong feelings for me ever since and he wants something serious and makes it work but has to sort things to sort out in his life... It's been months and I asked him and he said he had not have a clean cut with a girl that leaves in USA... Although he said he moved on ages ago...He needs to get his feelings over before we get back together , that's he need closure for first part of his life to start the 2nd part... He does not know how long it's gonna take ... It's been months, all he says it's difficult to sort out, that he will sort it out and he loves me ... I don't know why it's taking him so long if he says he loves me and I don't know what to do... I am really confused... I am just thinking why has he not sorted this out ; I have always had feeling for him but it is hard... we can't see each other until he fixes the situation and he can't give me a time scale and he wants to do it properly... I just don't know if he is playing, if he wants to really end it with that girl... She's not giving him what he wants and now can't let her go until he knows he's got another one on the string. Until he actually breaks up with her and starts communicating and dating you again consistently, don't entertain a reconciliation.
Toodaloo Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 You were his fall out girl before and now he is planning to use you as that again??? Tell him to go hoik his pearly else where and find some other mug to mop up his tears. Move on the bloke is a prat. Big hugs.
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