loveiswar101 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Well I have now gone a solid 14 days / 2 weeks NC. Previous to this i was lucky to get past 5 days. I know 14 days isn't a lot and long way to go, but it's a start. Big issue though is that she is constantly on my mind, like every minute of the day. When im watching tv, talking to someone...i just can't get her out of my head. The more i think about her the more I see it never going to work even after 2.5 years or so. But I still feel I love her deeply and know if she text or called i be all over her like a rash. Sad I know. Last few days have been hard and only a moment ago I thought of texting but thought better of it and started this thread. I'm a mess even though I know it the right thing to do ! Anyone know any good books to control emotions and improve self esteem. Thanks
Ariess10 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Good for you on the 14 days, I know it's hard I'm on 2 months no NC , I started as soon as we broke up. It's still hard as like you I think about her all the time all day, but I feel it getting somewhat better .. Hang in there I am hopeful
Twigyy Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 One thing that I did that made me reach this 5 plus month mark is to stop counting the days. It might sound stupid but it works for me. Once I stopped counting I spent my days as if she doesn't matter to me anymore( when I'm still "in love"), and somehow I found what makes me happy, and how I should spend my time, and realise that it's not a problem and I am okay, etc.
OldRover Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Two weeks IS a start.... and every day is an accomplishment. My first two weeks in a breakup I was a wreck... and glad I kept the NC going, and forced my self to only think of the reason I left her, when I thought of her at all. Tried to put the good times into distant memories. We will never forget them, but we can put them on the back burner where they become a non issue. Time will heal... depends on how well you work at it. You probably know a lot of the things you need to do. Keep the NC going, keep busy, surround yourself with friends (especially ones that won't mention her). Avoid places you went with her and activities you did with her. Take up a new hobby. You can get back into dating... (Im not strong believe in isolating yourself from other women). You may find a great catch and over time she could be your SO... but be careful so you just don't end up with a rebound. Take your time. I'm just finishing the eighth week, and there's a SIGNIFICANT difference. I've done all of the above, and hoping that in two months the old flame will be a distant past. Keep up the good work!
Author loveiswar101 Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 HI Guys, thanks so much for the lift. Yes 2 weeks IS a start ! By sticking to NC over the weekend when I was at my lowest now shows me I have no excuse to break it now. We were on/off for 2.5 years and all down to lack of communication from both parties and if anything more my insecurities. But I know I was good to her but what will be will what will be. Hope is now the main issue i have and have to try to hide or realize there is none if I want to enjoy life and move on, even if one day she does contact me. Again thanks guys, reading your replies got me through :-) 2
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