Happysunnygirl Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Hi guys I just want to ask your sucess story after the break-up. Well, not the "ex came crawling back" but more of what happened after the break-up? Did you start a business? Excelled in school/career? Found new good friends? Traveled? Anything that you consider a sucess for yourself after being dumped, share it. I'm currently in a phase of moving on from an ex who dumped me and hearing stories from people who discovered so many good things even after being dumped will be an inspiration to me, and as well to others who's in the same page as me. Thank you in advance
Thecondor1991 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Well My ex and I have only been broken up with for a few weeks. However I will say when she left I realized how much of my time she took up. I had hours of nothing to do because I was usually spending all that time hanging with her. So I decided I would start working again, buy a new car, get back in school, and take a MMA class. So far I'm working and saving for a car so hopefully the rest will fall into place soon after. 1
dyna85 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I realized that I need to love myself. I had been neglecting my needs and feelings and didn't recognize it until this guy disrespected me and then I recognized the need to care for and respect myself. Also, I learned what my deal breakers are. I had been out of the dating scene for a long while and was just looking for fun, not knowing exactly what I wanted. Ended up falling for a drug using, lying, cheating, disrespectful person. It was like, okay universe, now I know what I want (ie. a non drug using, honest, respectful guy). Lol. Seriously, it took this experience to recognize the red flags before even going on a date, and to realize what I will absolutely not tolerate when dating someone. Before this experience, I would have given even a pothead a chance if I felt a spark. Now, even if there is a spark, if I find out the person does any drugs, I'm out before it even starts. Why no more potheads? Because this experience has taught me that they lie and they are apathetic and selfish. Potheads will try to convince the world that their drug of choice isn't really a drug at all, and that it's not bad. Well, after falling for a pothead, I can tell you, you're better off staying away from them unless you want to seriously get hurt.
AIJ Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 During my relationship, I began to neglect my college work badly. So badly to the point where I was almost kicked out. However, after the break up, I excelled massively and am now on course to go to my first choice University!
Smokeshow Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 I worked on myself to make ME better. I did travel,went to the gym and reconnected with friends. After 7 months I decided to reach out and see how she was. She was receptive and we have been Doing well 2 months later. Not saying that is a long time but we both realized that communicating what is going on in our lives both professionally and personally is key to making a healthy relationship last. We have both talked extensively about why it failed the first time and are both more aware of what we expect out of each other. Only time will tell if this will last but our foundation is stronger than ever and we both realize this is what we want out of a partner
mightycpa Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 Hi guys �� I just want to ask your sucess story after the break-up. Well, not the "ex came crawling back" but more of what happened after the break-up? Did you start a business? Excelled in school/career? Found new good friends? Traveled? Anything that you consider a sucess for yourself after being dumped, share it. I'm currently in a phase of moving on from an ex who dumped me and hearing stories from people who discovered so many good things even after being dumped will be an inspiration to me, and as well to others who's in the same page as me. Thank you in advance �� You didn't mention the word heartbreak. Getting dumped isn't so bad. It's heartbreak that is the catalyst for great change, either good or bad. If you're not heartbroken over the whole thing, then I can't see why you'd find any inspiration in getting dumped. You'd just move on. But if he got to you, and shook you to your core, then from the depths, some great things may come. In time, you'll look back on that period, and it won't be a happy memory, but you'll appreciate very much how it changed you and hopefully made you a better person, and a much stronger one too. 1
pa888 Posted June 1, 2015 Posted June 1, 2015 A few weeks after the break up I managed to score the internship of my dreams with a company that is not only highly recognized in my field, but also has a department based in my hometown. So I will at least be saving money by living at home, and making lots of sweet cash. I've also been bulking up at the gym, and am pretty proud of myself. He has no idea what he lost 2
Author Happysunnygirl Posted June 2, 2015 Author Posted June 2, 2015 Well My ex and I have only been broken up with for a few weeks. However I will say when she left I realized how much of my time she took up. I had hours of nothing to do because I was usually spending all that time hanging with her. So I decided I would start working again, buy a new car, get back in school, and take a MMA class. So far I'm working and saving for a car so hopefully the rest will fall into place soon after. You didn't mention the word heartbreak. Getting dumped isn't so bad. It's heartbreak that is the catalyst for great change, either good or bad. If you're not heartbroken over the whole thing, then I can't see why you'd find any inspiration in getting dumped. You'd just move on. But if he got to you, and shook you to your core, then from the depths, some great things may come. In time, you'll look back on that period, and it won't be a happy memory, but you'll appreciate very much how it changed you and hopefully made you a better person, and a much stronger one too. Well, I'm definitely heartbroken by what happened. He's my first love and watching him leave and fall in love with someone else broke me, but it's time to move on and make myself a better and stronger person 1
sober and dry Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Well I wouldn't call it a complete success story but I'm getting there I suppose! 7 months after the BU of a 8 years RS and I have gained +/- 22 pounds of muscle (even my friends and their girlfriends are congratulating me for my new appearance xD), regained almost all of my friends I had before, slowly starting to have a social life again and I'm having a lot of fun in last weeks/months. I haven't got a job yet so I'm preparing myself to start my masters degree this year! It's all gonna be fun from now on I hope 1
towch Posted June 2, 2015 Posted June 2, 2015 Not the success story you are looking for but for me i found out that after her cheating and leaving me to find herself. She carried on her relationship with the other man. I can forgive (maybe a little too much) but i don't do Plan B or competition. From that day on i felt better and happy. I talk to her once a week most time but that is about it. I think of her like a drug addicted family member now, you know??.....you care about them but you wont let them near your house or babysit your kids free lol. 1
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