treehugger101 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Next month it will be 5 months that my Bf and I have been together. I will also be finally going over to his area, seeing his house, where he hangs out, and meeting his family etc. I am getting really nervous about this whole thing. What if his family doesn't approve of me? What were your experiences like when you met your partner's family and visited their area, home, etc.
SLee Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Meeting the family is completely terrifying! I was incredibly nervous and was super uptight because I wanted to make sure to show them that I had really good manners, it more or less came off as me being uncomfortable. Over time, we all got to know each other and I grew to love them and everything was fine. Your BF probably has a different background than you so be prepared for differences in the home that you're not used to. My family doesn't sit down at the table to eat. We either watch a movie together or go in separate rooms and would eat at different times of the day because of scheduling. HIS family sat down to eat EVERY day at EVERY meal. It may seem small, but those little differences were a huge culture shock to me. Be prepared for those and go with the flow. If you're anxious let your BF know so he can assure everything is just fine and try to enjoy yourself. Don't worry about approval. As long as you're nice, respectful, polite, and actively interested and excited to be there than what's not to like? Relationships with the family are also built over time, so if it takes some time to get used to it, that's fine too. My advice is to relax and be polite, but also be yourself. The number one most awesome thing about this opportunity is that you get to learn so much about your BF in a really deep way. He's sharing his life with you; his family, where he grew up, the memories, etc. It's really a wonderful and loving thing to do. When I visited a BFs hometown I became absorbed by that. I loved learning about him that way; where he fell down on the playground, his high school, his favorite hang outs, all that stuff. For parents, usually (and hopefully), the most number one thing in their mind is that their children are happy. So as long as they see that you make your son happy, you should be just fine. My mom had a terrible relationship with her in-laws so I was terrified going into it. Don't let those nightmare in-law stories get to your head. Most families of an SO are perfectly normal people who want the best for their kid. They may have different lifestyles or beliefs but as long as you're open to the experience, you'll be just fine.
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