yoyo99 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 (edited) Ive been seeing this guy for a bit more than a month. We are both young, 21. In uni so we see each other casually in lib on campus but official dates are like 6,7. We both know we have an expiration date cuz we are not looking for relationship due to our timing (have to move away soon) but... a bit weird that we still date traditionally, as in go on dates, dinner, movie, breakfast, coffee, etc. He's been doing everything right and we seem to bond too. He is always on time, never flakes, reliable, calls when he says he will, makes plans, shows interest, respects me, is present, never checks phone when around me. Generally, we click. Always had fun being around with each other. It's like we see each other again after a few days, our faces just brighten up at the first sight of the other lol abit alarming that i think i might be bit in love but not too sure... Anyway, physically speaking, we kissed on first date, amazing chemistry. When we could we did sleepover and we did more than kiss, as in oral sex. Well I know oral is still sex but I told him to wait for intercourse cuz I'm not comfortable yet and cuz I don't know where we will end up and he's okay with that, saying he understands, never pushes me. But even if when we only have time for coffee date during the day then come back for sleepover (we are both seriously busy atm) he never made it to be just about physical stuff. Even tho he's busy and needs to get up early, every time I'm around he would think of stuff to do like randomly make pancakes at midnight lol or watch movies, or read books together or just anything really and end up staying till 3,4 and really tired the next day, but well he still makes breakfast, which is nice. Sometimes he asks to give massages too, nice boy haha. So I mean we really just let things flow and we genuinely have good time with each other. Problem is, now we might only have about 2, 3 weeks left and I don't know if I should have sex with him? Argh, i really want him and I trust him but I'm afraid I might develop more feelings? But then I mean what's the hell, right? I love sex and I know it's gonna be great with him too and he wants it too. But still... What do you guys think? Edited May 31, 2015 by yoyo99
Guitarisgood Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Stop worrying about the future and what it holds. Live now enjoy it. If you move away let the relationship hit pause for the time then down the track should you both cross each others life and the timing's right, go from there.
Methodical Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 You have reservations since you are asking whether or not you should. Follow your gut instinct and intuition.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 It depends on your level of comfortable-ness to actually open up to him like that. Even without sex, you guys still have memories to look back on. Sex isn't everything and if you guys can part like platonic friends, at least there will not be any regrets.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 You're 21 and going to college, just have fun. Yes sex is fun. Have fun. Unless you don't particularly enjoy sex, then no. 2
TouchedByViolet Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Problem is, now we might only have about 2, 3 weeks left and I don't know if I should have sex with him? Argh, i really want him and I trust him but I'm afraid I might develop more feelings? But then I mean what's the hell, right? I love sex and I know it's gonna be great with him too and he wants it too. But still... What do you guys think? Bang it out. You'll thank us. Enjoy life. Will be one of those positive memories you carry in life. (use protection) 2
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I think this depends on how you might feel after, when you're apart. If you know you tend to get attached after sex,I wouldn't. If you think you can handle looking back at it as a fond memory but not more, then go for it. 2
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