Moreesleep Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 OK I met this wonderful girl on a dating website, after a few weeks of messages we agreed to meet up in a major park in NYC, well we hit it off very well, within the first 15 min she kissed me and she made the first move.. OK 2 more dates and all was still good.. Now about to go into the 3rd month things get funny.. First she was upset I did not make a move on her twice but I explained my reasons why.. Her friends at her job were all like give me a try and so she finally did by saying yes I want to be your girlfriend. Right.. so after a few weeks I noticed her texts and when I went to see her were different, not really wanting to hold my hand but would hold it anyways if I grabbed it but slowly pull away or just leaving me with just our pinky fingers touching.. So we were all set to go on vacation together and she said she had something to tell me but not until we get back but I got her to tell me before we went.. She tells me her family (Dominican) has set her up to date this guy and she does not want to deal with this, she told me not to get involved (her mother did not know about me) Because she did not want to hurt me she un-friended me on her personal facebook page but added me on her work page so she could still see what I post and whatever. So she explained to me she only found out about this family thing like right after we met and she had no clue who it was at first.. So because we were very honest to one another she told me she did not want to deal with this and this is something she has to do because it's forced on her and she has to marry him and she would be on the phone with me saying please talk to me until my phone battery runs out because I don't want to talk to him. So she started to get cold feet about the trip.. and she ended up canceling everything because she told her mom she was going alone to Florida however she asked me to come but at first she was like I want you to come a few days later so I can be alone by myself so I can see how it feels to be away for awhile on my own.. then she was like I want you to come and book the flight.. so she was shocked I booked the flight right away.. SO when she got cold feet she was like I can't lie I have to tell him, so at first he did not mind me keeping contact with her but he was like he has to understand she's mine now.. So after she told him about the trip thing he was like I want you to stop talking to him and delete his number from your phone.. She never did as she still texts me But she told me we can still keep in contact by email. SO this morning at work she calls me because of the text I sent and had to take a call but then called me back and she answers the phone all excited saying HI (My name) I was finally able to reach you! What are you up to? So because it was time for me to leave I could not talk long.. So after I did get home I sent her a text but no response.. However she just now responded back after 4 hours later and responded but shes like (My name) don't text me I'm with my boyfriend and he saw your text and he got mad. So Now she told me she has 30 days to decide if she wants to go with this dating thing her family set up or whatever but she did not want to tell me as to not get my hopes up but I don't know what to make of this.. day before yesterday she's like (My name) before I met you my life was all over the place, but you were the only one that was able to make me calm down and I'm forever grateful for that and I really appreciate that. I don't know what to think.. to the fact that the boyfriend told her to stop contacting me but she still calls me.. or the whole 30 days thing.
LostOnes05 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 Sounds like she lied to you bro. I've never heard of Dominican arranged boyfriends lol. In my opinion, you were the other guy and she got caught and made up a terrible lie. How all of a sudden is he so possessive of someone he barely knows...not likely.
Author Moreesleep Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 Sounds like she lied to you bro. I've never heard of Dominican arranged boyfriends lol. In my opinion, you were the other guy and she got caught and made up a terrible lie. How all of a sudden is he so possessive of someone he barely knows...not likely. LOL I did googling and like you I could not find any info on it, We met on POF 2 months ago and I asked her so when did you find out about this arranged thing (she called it arranged marriage) she was like right after I met you.. I did not know who it was until I saw him at the bbq that my family was having and that's when I was like oh crap. he said at first he was ok with me being around and talking to her but then when she told the truth to him about me and her going to FL and being in the same hotel room (it switched from oral only to her then wanting sex then to nothing at all) He was like you are not going with him and you are staying with my family.. delete his number and don't talk to him again.. But yet she calls me this morning twice while I'm at work.. I mean I want to give her a benefit of a doubt but I'm running out of strings here
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I think she's lying to both of you. Sounds to me like you're the side-piece. Maybe this guy was her boyfriend all along or maybe he's an ex that came back. She deleted you from her FB because of her family? Yeah, right. She didn't want her boyfriend to see she'd made a new "friend" Either way, it's way too much of a hassle. Do you really like being Plan B? Because that's what you are. And she wants you to wait 30 days so she can decide? Come on, OP. Tell her to go fly a kite. Delete, block, ignore. Move on. Not worth it.
Author Moreesleep Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 I think she's lying to both of you. Sounds to me like you're the side-piece. Maybe this guy was her boyfriend all along or maybe he's an ex that came back. She deleted you from her FB because of her family? Yeah, right. She didn't want her boyfriend to see she'd made a new "friend" Either way, it's way too much of a hassle. Do you really like being Plan B? Because that's what you are. And she wants you to wait 30 days so she can decide? Come on, OP. Tell her to go fly a kite. Delete, block, ignore. Move on. Not worth it.She deleted me from FB because she did not want me to get mad and jealous of the pictures she was going to put up, but sends a friend request from her makeup FB page.. I see she took down the picture we took in central park where I kissed her on the cheek and she took a picture of it but she left up the stuff with the edible arrangements.
Author Moreesleep Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 [COLOR=#000000]OK I grilled her to the point where she asked me do you have any more questions for me because it seems like you keep asking the same questions over and over. I asked her about the 30 day thing and she said yeah she had 30 days to decide if she wanted to continue with it or not, she did not like the fact that they tried to get her to go ring shopping.. so she told them a bunch of BS ring sizes.. I know what size she wears we both just laughed about it.. Anyways I got to the question because she told me not to text her because her bf got mad at her because he saw I sent her a text.. so when she called me she told me the details (she's really honest) She said that he was mad at her because he said I thought I told you to delete his number off your phone and she said no I'm not going to, he got hurt but she said that she did not care. As for the hotel she is going by herself now but she's going to skype me at night she also said she's going to make it up to me because of the whole trip thing maybe we can go to six flags just me and her.. but that's going to be interesting how to do that maybe after 30 days? She's still not feeling the guy at all shes like if you really care for me you have to respect my decision I know it's not easy and not something I can really control right now[/COLOR]
LostOnes05 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 Yea, she is full of it. If she was East Indian, I might buy the whole arranged marriage thing. She is trying to keep you in the bleachers just in case things don't work out with this guy she is now seeing.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 [COLOR=#000000]OK I grilled her to the point where she asked me do you have any more questions for me because it seems like you keep asking the same questions over and over. I asked her about the 30 day thing and she said yeah she had 30 days to decide if she wanted to continue with it or not, she did not like the fact that they tried to get her to go ring shopping.. so she told them a bunch of BS ring sizes.. I know what size she wears we both just laughed about it.. Anyways I got to the question because she told me not to text her because her bf got mad at her because he saw I sent her a text.. so when she called me she told me the details (she's really honest) She said that he was mad at her because he said I thought I told you to delete his number off your phone and she said no I'm not going to, he got hurt but she said that she did not care. As for the hotel she is going by herself now but she's going to skype me at night she also said she's going to make it up to me because of the whole trip thing maybe we can go to six flags just me and her.. but that's going to be interesting how to do that maybe after 30 days? She's still not feeling the guy at all shes like if you really care for me you have to respect my decision I know it's not easy and not something I can really control right now[/COLOR] You're asking questions because her stories don't add up. She knows it. Her asking for your respect is laughable, and a way to deflect attention away from the real problem, which is her shadiness. Sounds to me like she's spinning a lot of falsehoods to cover up her cheating, in my opinion. I really don't know how you manage to buy all of this, or why you're still talking to her at all. There are plenty of single girls who would respect you enough to be honest and transparent. She isn't one of them.
Author Moreesleep Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 Yea, she is full of it. If she was East Indian, I might buy the whole arranged marriage thing. She is trying to keep you in the bleachers just in case things don't work out with this guy she is now seeing.I already know this is the case she told me that, she told me she said no to him when he asked why has she not deleted my number from her phone, we met under nice terms, they met under something the family forced upon her, as she said yesterday night are you willing to wait at a door that may or may not open anymore? You're asking questions because her stories don't add up. She knows it. Her asking for your respect is laughable, and a way to deflect attention away from the real problem, which is her shadiness. Sounds to me like she's spinning a lot of falsehoods to cover up her cheating, in my opinion. I really don't know how you manage to buy all of this, or why you're still talking to her at all. There are plenty of single girls who would respect you enough to be honest and transparent. She isn't one of them. While it sounds crazy I still think she is being very honest
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I already know this is the case she told me that, she told me she said no to him when he asked why has she not deleted my number from her phone, we met under nice terms, they met under something the family forced upon her, as she said yesterday night are you willing to wait at a door that may or may not open anymore? While it sounds crazy I still think she is being very honest Just keep doing what you're doing then, I suppose. Not much else can be done if you believe she is being honest and you want to continue with her.
Author Moreesleep Posted June 1, 2015 Author Posted June 1, 2015 I sent a text saying good morning and have a safe flight and wonderful vacation, she called me right back to talk to me. She still likes to answer me repeating what my voicemail message says because she finds it cute.. We talked, I asked if she missed hearing my voice and she said of course I do, she still plans on doing a skype video chat when she gets to the hotel.
Author Moreesleep Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 And she skype video calls me yesterday.. and she says I have a surprise for you and to close my eyes.. I opened them and next thing I know she was masturbating and moaning really loud when getting off. I would say it was very unexpected.. then she wanted to sleep with skype running it got to about 2 hours before the connection broke.
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