ptopes Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 My ex boyfriend of a little over a year broke up with me about 2 months ago. We broke up because I was too clingy which caused fights, but he had severe issues as well, such as having anxiety attacks after every fight which caused monumental fights over nothing. Anyway, the REASON for breaking up was a little sudden for me. He came over and said he only saw me as a friend and had no feelings for me. It was a surprise considering just a month before that, he made me a BOOK about how much he loved me. This guy has never had a serious relationship before, and he's 23 years old and emotionally imbalanced. I found it hard to believe his feelings just up and left after a big fight. But I took it with my head held high and didn't cry or beg for him back. Last night, I went out with some friends to a bar. He was there, and that was the first time I saw him there since the break up. He was with his own friends, and I was with mine. I had a guy friend there that was being flirtatious the entire night, and at one point we even shared a small kiss. My other friend noticed that my ex saw, and he was absolutely livid. He had the whole "big eyes, pursed lips" look and even stomped away. I was just confused. This guy has been sleeping with another girl, I'm not sure how often, and she's engaged and sleeps with several other men as well. I never threw a fit about that, and I'm just confused as to why he would be upset if he broke up with me saying he doesn't have any feelings. I do miss my ex, and a part of me wants him back so badly, but not who he is now, because I feel as if he isn't taking this time apart to mature and grow, where as I am trying my best to fix my flaws and grow as a person. Any advice onto why my ex would act like this? It's hard to believe he meant what he said and that he doesn't think about me or care at all.
Satu Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 You kissed that guy to make your ex squirm, and you know it. 2
ZiggyZoo Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 Is this "friend" you kissed the same one you're sleeping with? Your ex has just as much right to sleep with whomever he wants as you do. You two aren't accountable to each other anymore, so it doesn't matter what he thinks of it all. You've already wasted two months fretting over what he's doing, time to focus on what YOU'RE doing. Stop checking up on him, he has said that he has no more feelings for you, and has also acted as such. I sincerely doubt he'll be back, and if he does, you're going to be right back where you are now. Because your clinginess? Isn't going to improve with reconciliation, especially since you've both been with other people. This is a big ol' toxic mess, better off to turn your back on it and walk away. 1
kasop Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 I dont care if you are the dumper or the dumpee.. you see your ex flirting and smooching with someone else only after 2 months its gonna create waves.
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