qwert777 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 I was seeing/talking to this guy for about a month but I dumped him because he wasnt a good guy. I was very direct about ending the relationship and stopped all contact with him. Blocked him on social media and messaging etc. But he calls everyday. EVEN if I never pick up. He stills calls everyday for a few weeks now. Why is this guy doing this? Its annoying because i dont want to change my number... He doesnt text or do anything else he just calls. I just let it ring out or decline the call. It's been going on for a while now. Can any of you guys shed some light on this strange behavior? Doesnt he have any pride left at all? why is he doing this? especially when we've only been together for a month or so...its not enough time for this guy to turn crazy. plus i NEVER pick up...yet he still calls at least once a day. its strange anyone have any insights? 1
jen1447 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 Sounds like a creeper. Just keep not answering - eventually he'll get tired of it and wander off. 1
TunaCat Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 He sounds like he could be a stalker. Normally I never say this, but block his number. Do it right now. He clearly doesn't respect you or the fact that you ended things. 1
Author qwert777 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 i hope so. but i have a feeling he's not going to stop... 1
Author qwert777 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 (edited) He sounds like he could be a stalker. Normally I never say this, but block his number. Do it right now. He clearly doesn't respect you or the fact that you ended things. that so scary. i never pick up though. im not sure if blocking his number is possible. I've blocked him everywhere else though. The strange thing is, he was the one who asked me to block him on social media. but now he keeps calling. so strange. The thing is, he only calls once or twice a day. However, it's still creepy and confusing tbh Edited May 30, 2015 by qwert777 1
pidgeon1010 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 Who is your phone service through? I know for Verizon, you can block up to 5 numbers for free. It lasts 90 days and you can redo if you needed to. This guy is probably trying to get on my nerves and/or has a few screws loose. Figure out how to block his number. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 Download a free app called 'Calls Blacklist'. it stops calls AND texts. (The logo is a red shield with a 'phone receiver in a white border circle, and a line through it. Never had any problems with unwanted pestering calls after I put that on my 'phone.... 1
Author qwert777 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 Who is your phone service through? I know for Verizon, you can block up to 5 numbers for free. It lasts 90 days and you can redo if you needed to. This guy is probably trying to get on my nerves and/or has a few screws loose. Figure out how to block his number. yeah maybe i should just change my number. i know he's not calling because of something urgent or anything because you could easily just text the information and get it over with. But he only calls. Im somewhat curious about the psychology behind his actions. If his motive was to get on my nerves, he should be doing other things not calling once or twice a day. 1
jen1447 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 ^ No, he should be doing exactly that bc it's obviously getting on your nerves very well. See what he did there? 2
spiderowl Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 (edited) It's excessive behaviour and out of the ordinary. Does this guy know your home address? I don't know what the effect of blocking his calls is. I understand that you would not receive any calls but how would it appear at his end? Would he get a message saying 'number not known' or something? Will he know he's been blocked or will your number just be 'out of order'? I guess what bothers me about this is that if he is calling every day and he is denied that, he may decide to start turning up near her home or work. The calling is a sort of outlet for his feelings, unhappy and bizarrre though it is. Stalking is a possibility so pay attention to who is around on your street or near work. I don't want to scare you but I have a friend who has had a stalker for over two years. He's been arrested several times now for breaking orders and is due in court again soon. Denied one route, he tried others. He's never done anything to harm her but it's scary and stressful. Edited May 30, 2015 by spiderowl 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 Calls go straight to Voicemail. They may think they're leaving a message, but it doesn't record. Texts get sent, but not delivered. There is a good suggestion in the No Contact Guide on how to deflect/refuse texts/calls.... Then the next time they text you, reply IMMEDIATELY - with this message: "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." Then? Block as advised above. 1
AlwaysAKL Posted May 30, 2015 Posted May 30, 2015 there are also apps you can download that will block his calls from your phone and you won't even know unless you look at the log...
Author qwert777 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 It's excessive behaviour and out of the ordinary. Does this guy know your home address? I don't know what the effect of blocking his calls is. I understand that you would not receive any calls but how would it appear at his end? Would he get a message saying 'number not known' or something? Will he know he's been blocked or will your number just be 'out of order'? I guess what bothers me about this is that if he is calling every day and he is denied that, he may decide to start turning up near her home or work. The calling is a sort of outlet for his feelings, unhappy and bizarrre though it is. Stalking is a possibility so pay attention to who is around on your street or near work. I don't want to scare you but I have a friend who has had a stalker for over two years. He's been arrested several times now for breaking orders and is due in court again soon. Denied one route, he tried others. He's never done anything to harm her but it's scary and stressful. its scary how you mention this because he asked me where i lived before but i never told him because he kept bugging me about it. this was before i dumped him. so he doesnt know where i live thankfully.
Author qwert777 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 ^ No, he should be doing exactly that bc it's obviously getting on your nerves very well. See what he did there? yeah i think u have a point. it's like, by calling daily, he is making sure that i at least get annoyed about him once a day. maybe so that i wont forget about him. so creepy.
Thecondor1991 Posted May 31, 2015 Posted May 31, 2015 He probably really had a thing for you and is having a hard time letting go. He may be a creeper or a stalker but don't look into that too much, you'll just make yourself paranoid. Keep ignoring him and he'll eventually leave you alone or maybe he'll just keep calling, either way not answering is your best option.
Author qwert777 Posted May 31, 2015 Author Posted May 31, 2015 He probably really had a thing for you and is having a hard time letting go. He may be a creeper or a stalker but don't look into that too much, you'll just make yourself paranoid. Keep ignoring him and he'll eventually leave you alone or maybe he'll just keep calling, either way not answering is your best option. ok that's reassuring. thanks maybe i am being paranoid. He was somewhat clingy/controlling and that's probably a sign of an obsessive personality type which is causing this behavior and he's not actually dangerous. i'll just let him call and not pick up. hopefully he will stop. It's just strange. Never encountered someone like this before. its puzzling.
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