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Do I help her? Should i worry about her? Can I help her?


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Ok here is the deal... me and my ex have been breaking up for months slowly well she has kind of gone of track it seems like. She has been smoking A LOT and she has even tried some extacy and will probably try it again. Now she is dating a guy that does the same things i mean they both aren't druggies but they do it every once in a while which i think is too much. She didn't finish high school because of problems with her parents. Now when i was with her we were working on getting her a ged and getting her into college and we were just about there when she then decided she needed her space. Right now she fights with her parents quite a bit and she has to keep her current bf a secret from her dad because hes upset about her breaking up with me. Now i dont think she is working to get her ged or to go to college or anything like that. LIke i said I DONT THINK but im pretty sure she isn't. This guy shes with now doesn't have a job at the moment so i really dont think he can help her much or will. Now my question is should i try to still help her out. We have decided to have NC with eachother but i really can't watch her go down this road....so should i help her? should i worry about her like i am? Can i even help her? Should i just let her go and if she destoys her life well so what or should i try to help her somehow keep pushing her even if it upsets her. WHAT DO I DO?

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She's an adult, right? And she's not asking you for help is she?

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What if she needs help and doesn't even realize what she is doing that everything she is doing could be very bad for her.

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If you're that concerned for her then maybe you should consider telling one of her family members?

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You can't help someone who doesn't want to help herself. Honestly I think it is time to realize that and move on. Some people need to hit rock bottom on their own and then pick up the pieces. I honestly believe that you being there to motivate her and help her change was a good thing but I think right now she isn't ready to and that is why she has resorted to all this self destructive behaviour. My best suggestion is to leave her behind and work on your life. You will attract someone you deserve and be happy.

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