wishfulthinking76 Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 I don't know if no contact is going to be the best way to heal. I feel like right now I am keeping my ex as a friend so that he can fall back in love with me. How is he ever going to change his mind if he can't see how strong I have become? He really was an a**h*** near the end of our relationship. I don't know if I could ever forgive him but I still want him to fall back in love with me.
whatodo Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 thats what i thought as well....if i stay close to her we would eventually get closer. But what happened i just pushed myself farther and farther from her she even admitted that herself. So i think if you cut it off its best and if he comes back hes yours and if not well he never was. I really believe that to be true and that is just how it is. Even though i know you just feel like crap and you hate everything but its just something you have to do. Im still in the middle of that as well.
HoldOn Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 How is he ever going to change his mind if he can't see how strong I have become? He'll only understand how strong you are after you are gone. When you are hanging around, he'll get to see every move you'll make. There will be no mystery. He won't be wondering who you are dating. He really was an a**h*** near the end of our relationship. I don't know if I could ever forgive him but I still want him to fall back in love with me. Huh? Okay, maybe you should work on wanting a healthy relationship instead of wanting an a**h*** back, just for the sake of it. Think about it.
ltomlinson81 Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 You will truly feel strong when you initiate no contact - but for yourself, not for him. If he doesn't see how strong and great you are already, then why do you want to hold on to him? Trust me, no contact is the best way to really get on the road to getting over someone. Then, you will start living for you instead of him.
Fallen_Angel Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 How's that saying go? "You can't make someone fall in love with you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they give in." Ok, all kidding aside, I don't think it's possible for you to make your ex fall back in love with you. If it were possible, we'd all send you a thousand PMs asking how it happened so we could duplicate your magic. Trust me, I certainly would want to know! I wish I could give you definitive advice on the no contact situation, but then I'd be something of a liar. I myself can't figure out the best way to handle things. I also want to keep in contact with my ex so that he realizes what he's missing, but not to a point where we talk all the time b/c 1) it would hurt me more and 2) it would drive him away. Theoretically, NC is supposed to help you disentangle yourself from your romantic feelings. Well, for me, 13 days got me to a point where I could hold a conversation with my ex and only need 3 tissues. Overall I'd say do what's in your gut - but DON'T beg, and DON'T contact him all the time. Becoming stronger takes time. Don't become strong for him - become strong for YOU. Once you're healed, you'll find a guy who will treat you better and not turn into an @$$hole.
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