Am I looking into this too much?

[Pinkcarrots]

I split up with my ex 2 weeks ago. We lived together, and the breakup was very civilized and I helped him back everything and we've been very friendly to one another.

I should say - I initiated the breakup. I have depression issues/self esteem/anxiety issues that I just felt like I wasn't able to work through while I was with him, and that I needed to focus on just me for awhile. I do love him w/all my heart though and I struggled with feelings of sadness after the split.

 

He had left some things at my place and came by to pick them up (after two weeks) last night. I could tell he was nervous, and I admit I was nervous also. We were kind of chit chatting and I don't know why I asked this, but I just had to. I asked him "do you still think about me sometimes?" And he said yes, and that sometimes he wants to tag me in a funny post he'll see on Facebook but he was afraid it would be a weird thing to do. I said that was okay, and got kind of teary eyed and admitted I thought of him sometimes too and it's been somewhat difficult to get used to.

 

This is where I need help. I don't know what to make of his responses and I don't want to look too much into them, so I'll leave it open for your interpretation. Here's our conversation:

 

Me: I'm sorry for getting emotional and I'm sorry if I made it weird for you.

Him: Don't be sorry I'm just a little awkward at the moment and I'm sorry for that

Me:Why are u awkward?

Him:Because idk what to say and act haha haven't had a break up where we would talk and not hate each other. Its still very strange and surreal for me for some reason

Me: it is for me too. Do u still have any sort of feelings for me? You won't hurt my feelings, I promise, I just want to know :/

Him: A little I still care about you and worry about you and think about you

Me: I still have some feelings for you, too.

 

And then we both got busy as I had a friend come over and he went to the gym. What he said is so straight forward yet so confusing. Help anyone??

[jen1447]

Of course you still have feelings for each other - the breakup was only 2 weeks ago and it was amicable. Also you dumped him so he'd probably just as soon still be with you. Not sure what you really expected here.

 

As to what to do, I assume you're being honest about the need to split, so you'll just have to live with the reality of the continued feelings.

[OldRover]

I split up with my ex 2 weeks ago. We lived together, and the breakup was very civilized and I helped him back everything and we've been very friendly to one another.

I should say - I initiated the breakup. I have depression issues/self esteem/anxiety issues that I just felt like I wasn't able to work through while I was with him, and that I needed to focus on just me for awhile. I do love him w/all my heart though and I struggled with feelings of sadness after the split.

 

He had left some things at my place and came by to pick them up (after two weeks) last night. I could tell he was nervous, and I admit I was nervous also. We were kind of chit chatting and I don't know why I asked this, but I just had to. I asked him "do you still think about me sometimes?" And he said yes, and that sometimes he wants to tag me in a funny post he'll see on Facebook but he was afraid it would be a weird thing to do. I said that was okay, and got kind of teary eyed and admitted I thought of him sometimes too and it's been somewhat difficult to get used to.

 

This is where I need help. I don't know what to make of his responses and I don't want to look too much into them, so I'll leave it open for your interpretation. Here's our conversation:

 

Me: I'm sorry for getting emotional and I'm sorry if I made it weird for you.

Him: Don't be sorry I'm just a little awkward at the moment and I'm sorry for that

Me:Why are u awkward?

Him:Because idk what to say and act haha haven't had a break up where we would talk and not hate each other. Its still very strange and surreal for me for some reason

Me: it is for me too. Do u still have any sort of feelings for me? You won't hurt my feelings, I promise, I just want to know :/

Him: A little I still care about you and worry about you and think about you

Me: I still have some feelings for you, too.

 

And then we both got busy as I had a friend come over and he went to the gym. What he said is so straight forward yet so confusing. Help anyone??

 

If you really have feelings for him, and sure seems like he does for you, I'd strongly consider getting back together and allow him to help you thru the depression and anxiety. I'm sure you're seeing a Dr. and have whatever Rx is needed to help you with the problems (yes, the prescriptions do work, and might only need to be temporary until it's over). Also, hope you're seeing a GOOD counselor (If you can find one), and let him counsel both of you to understand what you're going thru and to give him ideas to help.... as well as just general counseling both on your relationship.

 

He could be VERY comforting when you're down.

 

I've been thru the same with a lady.... a few times and the above solutions work well.

[d0nnivain]

My read on the exchange is that he's a kind, polite, caring person who intends to respect your wishes.

 

As break ups go, this is one of the less messy, more civilized ones. What else do you want?