minionblues Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Hi apologies but I feel like I need to vent I broke up with my ex a few months back due to feeling fed up of her having a go at me over things but then doing it herself for eg if I was chatting to a friend on my phone for long periods of time she would make me feel bad yet would find it okay doing it herself we did try to make it work again but I just found her doing the same thing and I truly had enough. The problem is we have kids together so NC is impossible. Though, I am finding it hard to have a relationship with my boys and they are still so young and I want to be consistent in their lives. She blames me for everything and I am not going to sit here and claim to be perfect cause I did start to become quite insensitive when she would have a go at me over things. Though, I am pretty certain I am not the only one to be blamed. I blocked her on Facebook last night, not that we was friends but I am doing my best to not give myself a chance to be looking at her profile etc. She text me calling me allsorts last night and this morning sent me 40 odd texts saying "lol", I unblocked her cause I could see it really upset her and I didn't do it to upset her I done it for my sake. Then she blocks me which is fine cause I'm feeling like she needs control right now. I am finding it really mentally draining and at this moment have blocked her on my phone cause I honestly cant hear another word about how much of a bad person I am. I take full responsibility for my mistakes and I know there has been a few, I just wish she wasn't so bitter. She thinks I'm selfish and I'm just finding it all a bit too much Any tips on dealing with this will be much appreciated Cheers
Chi townD Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Ignore the texts. he only ones you don't ignore are the ones that deal with the kids. If you have to text her it should ONLY be about the kids. If she tries to change the subject, don't entertain them and don't respond. If she gets pissy and tries to screw with your time with the kids, then I think you need to lawyer up.
ZiggyZoo Posted May 29, 2015 Posted May 29, 2015 Unfortunately with kids, blocking her completely isn't an option. What I ended up doing with my ex was sending all his calls straight to voicemail, and responding to his texts only when/if they pertained to our girls. That way, I could delete the voicemail if it started off confrontational and ignore nasty texts. Good luck, things will settle down, but I don't envy you. Just maintain your temper and don't engage in any relationship talk for at LEAST three months. If ever. I second the advice to seek legal help.
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