Male Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 With all the social media, dating sites, and dating apps growing in popularity, I truly believe it is ruining the dating process as a whole. Years ago, before the internet, women had to typically choose between being alone, or choosing from the small number of men available to her socially. Now, if a woman chooses, she has hundreds of men to look over right at her fingertips. And with all the messages that a woman receives, its changes her perception. It causes her to become more picky, more superficial, and hold out longer for just the right one. Her standards go up, because she has the sense that her pool has grown. The avg Joe that would have had a chance with woman A 20 years ago is no longer qualified nowadays. On the flip side, men grossly outnumber women on dating sites, dating apps, and other social media with men utilizing non-dating apps to cruise for dates/hook-ups. And since the women are reaching higher, that means theres more men getting ignored. When men get ignored they have two choices. Continue to get ignored, or lower your standards. 1
Robert Z Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Interesting observations! I think you have a third option - ditch the dating sites. I've heard a lot of good things about meetup groups. I've joined a few but haven't yet attended any gatherings. And there are other options...
Tayla Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Expectations have not changed... Weeding thru the garden is more tedious though. Separating the Bull from the BS online is no easy task. Just because something is easily accessible, doesn't make it genuine. Most dates have come from every day daily life..or thru travels....yet the emphasis is on media dating...which to be quite frank...seems boring. My standards have changed from my own undertaking.... not to balance out society norms. IF that would be the case and based solely on LS, I should have had all the following happen: Been in 4.5 affairs, Gotten divorced twice, made up a fake lover, Kicked my kids out, hated my parents, Lived with a junkie and found a gun to protect my organic plants. But since none of that happened and Life goes on...my standards have remained stable and evolving. Same goes for the gents I know. 1
Robert Z Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Expectations have not changed... So you speak for all women, young and older alike?
Author Male Posted May 28, 2015 Author Posted May 28, 2015 Interesting observations! I think you have a third option - ditch the dating sites. I've heard a lot of good things about meetup groups. I've joined a few but haven't yet attended any gatherings. And there are other options... Yes...a guy can ditch the dating sites. But you cant ditch the fact that the women have had their perception and standards altered. A woman that uses dating sites AND in person social interaction is still going to be influenced by the amount of men she has knocking at her door via the dating site. I think everyone agrees that most very attractive people grow up with a different mindset, and a different personality, because they know that the majority of the opposite sex finds them attractive. They dont have to hone their skills as much as a less attractive person does. Attention, dating, and sex, comes easier to them for the most part. A woman that joins online dating and starts getting bombarded with male attention experiences the same thing to an extent. Now some women will of course realize that a portion of that attention is unfounded, due to many jerkoff guys just spamming everyone. But for the most part I think its hard to dismiss the overall theory in general.
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