lukekarts Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 So I met a girl last night for a drink. She's not someone I know well, but we met at a few social events in 2013 and connected on facebook at the time. I was in a relationship then so nothing happened. Anyhow, being relatively recently single again I signed up for Tinder and found her on there... I messaged her on Facebook and soon after we 'matched' on Tinder. I asked her for a drink last night - we decided to meet at a country pub that was about halfway for both. I was nervous (to be expected on first dates) but I greeted her with a hug and I set up a tab to take care of the drinks. We sat at a table (opposite one another, sadly) and had long conversations about holidays, interests, a bit about relationships etc. There were maybe a couple of moments where conversation paused but it flowed really well... time flew by, we had 3 drinks apiece and were there for 2hrs 45 minutes - before we both realised it was almost 10:30 and we had to travel home for work in the morning. I think my body language was positive, I smiled a lot and was attentive, we each did a fair share of talking. I walked her to her car and there was an awkward moment where I thought I could've kissed her but didn't (it didn't help that it was freezing outside and I was only in a t-shirt and shivering!) - she leaned in for a hug / kiss on the cheek and said she had a really good time. I asked her to message me when she got home safely. She is stunningly attractive in my opinion (both physically and personality-wise), and I regret not complimenting her on her appearance on the night. In fact I didn't get the opportunity for many compliments. ... in many ways I felt like one of those guys you see in movies who sees an attractive girl and freezes, that's the sort of affect she had on me! I *think* she is quite shy too... her body language gave very little away, there was eye contact and smiling but not a huge number of signs. She did message me when she got home and the conversation went: Her: Home safely! Thanks for a lovely evening Me: You're welcome. I had a really nice time, and would definitely like to see you again Her: Cool we'll sort something. Night night for now! Me: Goodnight :-) So my plan is to call her tonight, as I have a couple of good ideas lined up for a second date that will hopefully allow us to bond a bit better (hiring a pedalo on the river and/or bowling. Good plan? Is it worth trying to break the ice / trying to get some banter going and telling her she's hard to read, or that I was nervous (making a jokey reference to the above?) I have always been told I don't give much away so I'm sure we can joke about it. Sorry for the long post... and thanks in advance of any replies!
Toodaloo Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Sounds positive to me! A bit of advice, see if you can do an "activity" next time. Activities like bowling, ice skating, etc all give you an excuse to flirt, tease and relax a bit. 1
Author lukekarts Posted May 28, 2015 Author Posted May 28, 2015 Sounds positive to me! A bit of advice, see if you can do an "activity" next time. Activities like bowling, ice skating, etc all give you an excuse to flirt, tease and relax a bit. Thanks - yeah that is the plan! Do you think I should mention the nerves thing or would that just come across as awkward?
Toodaloo Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Thanks - yeah that is the plan! Do you think I should mention the nerves thing or would that just come across as awkward? Nope. remember your a big boy now you can ask a girl out and be cool about it regardless of the outcome!!! You can tell her how nervous you were after a few months dating!!!
Redhead14 Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 So I met a girl last night for a drink. She's not someone I know well, but we met at a few social events in 2013 and connected on facebook at the time. I was in a relationship then so nothing happened. Anyhow, being relatively recently single again I signed up for Tinder and found her on there... I messaged her on Facebook and soon after we 'matched' on Tinder. I asked her for a drink last night - we decided to meet at a country pub that was about halfway for both. I was nervous (to be expected on first dates) but I greeted her with a hug and I set up a tab to take care of the drinks. We sat at a table (opposite one another, sadly) and had long conversations about holidays, interests, a bit about relationships etc. There were maybe a couple of moments where conversation paused but it flowed really well... time flew by, we had 3 drinks apiece and were there for 2hrs 45 minutes - before we both realised it was almost 10:30 and we had to travel home for work in the morning. I think my body language was positive, I smiled a lot and was attentive, we each did a fair share of talking. I walked her to her car and there was an awkward moment where I thought I could've kissed her but didn't (it didn't help that it was freezing outside and I was only in a t-shirt and shivering!) - she leaned in for a hug / kiss on the cheek and said she had a really good time. I asked her to message me when she got home safely. She is stunningly attractive in my opinion (both physically and personality-wise), and I regret not complimenting her on her appearance on the night. In fact I didn't get the opportunity for many compliments. ... in many ways I felt like one of those guys you see in movies who sees an attractive girl and freezes, that's the sort of affect she had on me! I *think* she is quite shy too... her body language gave very little away, there was eye contact and smiling but not a huge number of signs. She did message me when she got home and the conversation went: Her: Home safely! Thanks for a lovely evening Me: You're welcome. I had a really nice time, and would definitely like to see you again Her: Cool we'll sort something. Night night for now! Me: Goodnight :-) So my plan is to call her tonight, as I have a couple of good ideas lined up for a second date that will hopefully allow us to bond a bit better (hiring a pedalo on the river and/or bowling. Good plan? Is it worth trying to break the ice / trying to get some banter going and telling her she's hard to read, or that I was nervous (making a jokey reference to the above?) I have always been told I don't give much away so I'm sure we can joke about it. Sorry for the long post... and thanks in advance of any replies! It was a first date. Don't read anything into it. It's like reading the first page of a book and trying to figure out how the book ends. Just go one date at a time. Call her, ask her for a date on a specific day, time and location. Don't tell her she's hard to read . . . she may not let you turn the page. It will make her feel like she's under some kind of microscope having a guy try to figure her out. Just be natural and have fun.
ZA Dater Posted May 28, 2015 Posted May 28, 2015 Sounds very positive to me! In theory sounds like an ideal date and there was a good connection on an intellectual level as well as what could be some mutual attraction. Nice to read one of these success/good date stories! Wishing you the best going forward.
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